Are boy/girl sleepovers common?

[belle&beast]

My 13 year old (7th grade) Goddaughter was invited to a boy/girl sleepover party. My cousin (her mom) thought there had to be a mistake and asked the host's mom and she said that she is fine with boys and girls sleeping over and they will be supervised. My cousin is not allowing her DD to stay over, but I was just wondering if this is common. My kids are still too little for sleepovers, so I am not up on the latest with young teens.

 

[mommasita]

Would not happen in my house, sorry, nor would they be allowed. I check this out first with DS's invitations.

 

[ziggystardust]

I would NEVER have been allowed. The only possible exception (I think) would have been if there was a brother there that was also having a sleepover. But even then - I doubt it would've even been a thought.

I'm 26 and guys are still not allowed to stay at my parents house.

 

[shirleyb]

My teens (15 and 17) have not been invited to any. I know one boy had a birthday party last year and boys were invited to spend the night at his house, and the girls to spend the night at his cousin's house - down the street.

 

[WDW Traveler]

13 year old boys and girls having sleepovers??!! Oh my. Never at my house. My DD is 8 and had a sleepover for her last b-day. It was 6 GIRLS, and if we ever do it again, it will be GIRLS!! Tell your cousin she is so right not to let her go.

 

[GEM]

I don't think it's unheard of. I graduated from highschool in 1991 and we had a few boy/girl sleepovers at our house in junior high and high school, mostly after special events like our end of the year choir concert or a dance or something. It was lots of fun and my parents were very, very aware of what was going on and we knew they could walk in to check on us at any time. The rules were clear, and we had a blast. I don't remember anyone's parents having a problem with it. I wouldn't hesitate to let my daughter or son attend one, if I knew and trusted the parents hosting and the other kids involved.

In fact, I'm hosting a boy/girl sleepover at my house next Friday! I direct a theater program for high school students at our local unviersity. These are very, very serious kids who work very hard all year long - and they are a very, very tight knit group. There are 13 9th-12th graders currently in our Professional Training Program. It's become a tradition to end the year with a sleep over at my house. They watch movies, sing kareokee, and have a blast. It's the highlight of the year for them, something they look forward to all year long. And, the parents know me and trust me 100%. In turn, I know and trust the kids and I am in the living room with them the whole time. No hanky panky goes on, I can assure you. I've never had a parent have a problem with it or not allow a kid to attend.

 

[Darcy03231]

Wouldn't happen in my house and I wouldn't let my children attend one.

 

[I'mNoPrince]

H E doubley L NO .

We have a few parents that would think it's OK in DD class but no way no how no reason for it at that age.

 

[mickeyboat]

I would have to know and trust the parents really well before I would let my girls attend a boy/girl sleepover. And I might even insist on being there to supervise myself.

Denae

 

[Sandy V.]

H E doubley L NO .

Ditto. With hormonal and developing 13-year olds? What on EARTH are the parents thinking? I can see some very notable exceptions with some older or younger kid situations, but not at this age!

 

[rie'smom]

I wonder if the pregnancy rates go up among the coed sleepover group.

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

I don't think it's unheard of. I graduated from highschool in 1991 and we had a few boy/girl sleepovers at our house in junior high and high school, mostly after special events like our end of the year choir concert or a dance or something. It was lots of fun and my parents were very, very aware of what was going on and we knew they could walk in to check on us at any time. The rules were clear, and we had a blast. I don't remember anyone's parents having a problem with it. I wouldn't hesitate to let my daughter or son attend one, if I knew and trusted the parents hosting and the other kids involved.

In fact, I'm hosting a boy/girl sleepover at my house next Friday! I direct a theater program for high school students at our local unviersity. These are very, very serious kids who work very hard all year long - and they are a very, very tight knit group. There are 13 9th-12th graders currently in our Professional Training Program. It's become a tradition to end the year with a sleep over at my house. They watch movies, sing kareokee, and have a blast. It's the highlight of the year for them, something they look forward to all year long. And, the parents know me and trust me 100%. In turn, I know and trust the kids and I am in the living room with them the whole time. No hanky panky goes on, I can assure you. I've never had a parent have a problem with it or not allow a kid to attend.

I'm with you ! - though we are going to be in the minority! It wasn't that long ago we went through this.

I think it is possible given supervision and rules ...others think no amount of rules or supervision will prevent unthinkable things from happening!!!! Apparently, some feel kids have only one thing in mind and no morals or self control - and no amount of supervision will possibly stand in the face of that. Apparently sleepover = orgy!!!! I disagree.....but that is just me...

DD9 still has co-ed sleepovers..I stay in an adjoining room - more like the next room that is open to the one they are in....

If the sleepovers continue, there will be more adults to supervise and probably boys and girls separate once it is time to sleep....

depends on the kids - depends on the parents

I could see us having the same type of sleepovers as your family!

..and - no - we aren't the "friends" to our DD types...there would be very strict/defined rules - there would be a great deal of supervision....

 

[disneyfanforever]

There is no way I would let my boys go to a boy/girl sleepover. I know I wouldn't have been able to go to one when I was growing up either.

 

[belle&beast]

Im the OP and I think I should state that my Goddaughter is uncomfortable with sleeping over because there are quite a few "couples" invited. She is not part of a "couple" at this time. (My guess is that if she had a boyfriend, my cousin and her husband might have a battle on their hands.)

It's interesting for me to see that these are happening other places because I was so surprised she was invited to a coed sleepover.

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

I wonder if the pregnancy rates go up among the coed sleepover group.

I don't understand why - kids who are determined to get together have far more opportunities during their regular week than they would at a well supervised party???

they live in a coed world - we don't separate them at school or any other time - why would something happen just because they stay at some one's house together after , say, midnight.....??? Especially if there is an emphasis on rules and limits - and the parents are serious about supervision?

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

Im the OP and I think I should state that my Goddaughter is uncomfortable with sleeping over because there are quite a few "couples" invited. She is not part of a "couple" at this time. (My guess is that if she had a boyfriend, my cousin and her husband might have a battle on their hands.)

It's interesting for me to see that these are happening other places because I was so surprised she was invited to a coed sleepover.

if she is uncomfortable - I think you have your answer!

(I have no problem having co-ed sleepovers - because I know how serious I am about supervising and rules and all......turn the situation around and I would have to be 100% convinced the parents are exaclty on the same page as I am!!!!)

 

[horseshowmom]

I had never even heard of co-ed sleepovers until I read about it on the Disboards awhile back.

It didn't happen in our house, and DD wouldn't have gone to one at somebody else's house.

 

[robinb]

H E doubley L NO .

ITA. 13 year-old boys and girls at a sleep-over is T-R-O-U-B-L-E.

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

here's the link to the same discussion a couple months ago:

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1196319&referrerid=&highlight=co-ed+sleepover

 

[RLccweems]

My 13 year old (7th grade) Goddaughter was invited to a boy/girl sleepover party. My cousin (her mom) thought there had to be a mistake and asked the host's mom and she said that she is fine with boys and girls sleeping over and they will be supervised. My cousin is not allowing her DD to stay over, but I was just wondering if this is common. My kids are still too little for sleepovers, so I am not up on the latest with young teens.

Around here their not a common thing. I also don't think any parents I know would allow for the child to go to one.

lettie