Are boy/girl sleepovers common?

[Planogirl]

I wouldn't have a problem with one if I was supervising and the group was small. I never sleep anyway.

 

[jonslola]

2 words, NO WAY.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Hell would have frozen before that would be permitted when I was a kid.

 

[SadieDog]

As odd as it may seem, yes it is becoming more common.

 

[stargrazer]

Although I wouldn't have one or let DD attend one, I will say if a kid is inclined (and being driven crazy up the hormone tree) they will fool around almost anywhere. School hallways, classrooms, churches, school sporting events, etc. I think you have to teach your kid good morals and keep pounding them because wherever there is the opposite sex there is opportunity for temptation to overcome common sense.

All I have to think of is the line "This one time, at band camp, I..."

 

[HunnyPots]

Yes, it is pretty common around here but, excuse me, HELL NO would I have ever allowed my kids to go to one. Why would any parent? There is absolutely no reason for it. Hang out together all day, stay till midnight if you want but there is just no reason to sleep over.

A few months ago, my 16 year old son was spending quite a few weekends at the house of one of the boys he is in band with. Two or three other guys stayed too and they played video games and stuff. Then each weekend, one by one, the girls started showing up. And the mom had no problem with them staying all night because "they're all just friends"! Yeah, right, uh huh, sure, whatever but my son will not be staying at your house anymore, Lady!

 

[meandtheguys2]

Would it be different than a band trip or going to a co-ed camp? I guess not, but I still don't think I would be comfortable with it. I've let him (my only 13 year old) go to a youth group all-nighter, though.

 

[dhcoffey]

My DD who just turned 14 a couple of weeks ago, was 13 at the time of the invite, was invited to a co-ed sleepover. Our answer was the same as some of the above, not just no but HELL NO. One of the other people invited was her boyfriend of about a year. Not a smart idea in our minds. Now, boyfriend, they talk on the phone and at school, that's it. No dates, nothing like that. We just don't approve of it and it won't happen at our house either. Someone mentioned band trips, my DD did go to Charleston last month for a weekend band trip but the rooms were not co-ed and my husband stayed in the room right next to our DD, so we were happy with that.

Heather

 

[HunnyPots]

Would it be different than a band trip or going to a co-ed camp? I guess not, but I still don't think I would be comfortable with it. I've let him (my only 13 year old) go to a youth group all-nighter, though.

Well, the difference would be that on a band trip you stay in hotels and girls room with girls and boys room with boys. The same with camp; the bunk houses or dorms are not co-ed and visiting the room of the opposite sex is usually not even allowed.

 

[LoveBWVVBR]

My parents used to have all of my sister's friends (boys and girls) up to our lakehouse for weekends a few times a year when we were in our early teens. The boys all slept in one room and the girls all slept in another, though. Is that the kind of "sleepover" that they are having? If so, I don't think it's a huge deal. If they are all sleeping in the same room, I guess I would have more of an issue with it, though.

Man, at 13 I didn't want to go to a co-ed party, nevermind a co-ed sleepover

 

[meandtheguys2]

Well, the difference would be that on a band trip you stay in hotels and girls room with girls and boys room with boys. The same with camp; the bunk houses or dorms are not co-ed and visiting the room of the opposite sex is usually not even allowed.

Well, we had one pregnancy from band camp, and another from a youth group all-nighter...so allowed isn't always a piece of the puzzle.

So, I am against it, but do believe that it is probably a false sense of security!

 

[java]

They are "couples" and the parents are letting a sleep over happen????!!!! Oh that is just asking for trouble. And yes they have them around here- just friends kind of sleepovers but NO my son is not allowed to attend. I'm not ready to be a grandma yet.

 

[MELSMICE]

Oldest DD was invited to her first co-ed sleepover at 9 years old. Needless to say, she didn't go.

Other 2 have never been invited to one. I wouldn't be comfortable with it anyway. I'd let them attend the party, but not the sleepover if it was co-ed.

Oldes DD "mentioned" the co-ed thing for an after prom party at our house last year. I think she forgot who her mom & dad were for a bit!

Anyway, after all prom plans were finally made no parent approved any co-ed sleepover. The girls slept at our house - boys went somewhere else & they met up in the morning for a day at the beach!

Not sure what this year's plans hold - I should be hearing about them soon though. I'm sure there's a reason I haven't heard about them yet!

 

[Cass]

No way, heck I wouldn't let my DD12 stay at an all girls sleepover because the family had a 'guy' living in their basement - they described him as 'down on his luck'

Sorry, but no way. I picked her up at 11:30pm and offered to bring her back in the morning for the breakfast festivities and fun, but she was sleeping safe in her own bed.

 

[singingpixie]

We had a co-ed sleepover after my junior prom, but to me that's different than a 13-year old. By the end of jr year, most people are 17-18, and we all had cars. There were plenty of more convienient places to fool around than my mom's house, with my mom in the next room, when there were 5 of us and our dates all sleeping in the living room!

I think that I wouldn't be totally against my kids participating in a coed sleepover, but probably not in the 12-15 age range and definitely not unless I was hosting myself or knew the other parents REALLY well. 12-15 seems like the most likely age to experiment.... by 16, I think kids will find a place to have sex if they want to, and won't if their morals lead them not to- I don't think that sleeping in the same room with people of the opposite sex in a group would change their decision.