Anyone have(read) any of Dr. Sears pregnancy/baby/children books??

[84disney]

I am a mom of 6 children and love Dr. Sears . The best quip I can remember reading in relation to raising children is....you TRAIN a pet, you parent a child. Training does not address heart issues....only outward behaviors, and we need to know the hearts of our children so we can best minister to them and teach them. To earn the trust of your children takes a little effort.....well more than a little . However you "parent", if the children feel your love and see your sacrifice, they are emotionally stronger. Remember we are modeling God's love to our children. It's where they get their image of Him. And if that's not your primary motive, then you are at least modeling LOVE!! Read a few books at the library while you are doing your early research. Then you can buy what you feel lead to buy. God bless you for caring so much!!!

 

[annakris1973]

Mom of 2 here- and newborn/neonatal RN (for what that's worth ) The only book I really ever studied with my two was "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding". I was suprised to see that it hadn't been mentioned yet.

The best piece of advice I can give you, is to read the different types of books/methods....but be prepared to throw them out the window if needs be Every baby is a unique individual, and you have to figure out your path together.

My children were completely opposite from each other, and therefore my "mothering style" had to tweek to suit each one. You are not going to be able to do the same things to comfort a colicy baby vs one who sleeps the night at 4 weeks. But the basic love and nurturing remained the same.

The only time we "co-slept" was when they were still nighttime nursing, and even then they started out the night in the cradle. When they slept the night they moved to their own bed and room. I say this because cosleeping doesn't work for all parents, so don't feel like it is something you have to do.

The other thing I have learned is that you can't "put" a baby on a schedule....a baby "develops" a schedule. So many moms at the hospital would freak out if their baby wasn't nursing every 3 hours or having xx amout of wet or dirty diapers. We are given guidelines to follow to make sure your baby is healthy...but nobody (including a precious baby) is perfect!

Get informed...listen to your instincts...be flexible....and remember, you can never LOVE a child too much!

 

[ajwomic]

Well, I do not agree with a lot of their viewpoints and preferred a more structured approach. My kids are independent, yet loving and compassionate. I do not think the method you use makes your kids makes them have good manners or not or be brats or not. I have met "brats' that were from structured and from attached families.


I believe that the best gift you can give your children is a strong marriage and whatever method you use should support that.

It is what fits for your family. I need sleep and sleep better without kids in the bed. All three of mine were sleeping through the night by 14 weeks or so in their own room. That worked for us.

Also try Barton Schmitt 's "Your Child's Health" It was awesome and I use it all the time!!
Best Wishes,
Alicia