Anyone from Ontario going soon? Favor please.....

[disneyfreak89]

A friend of mine and her family are going to Disney World this March (I think during March Break?) in memory of her daughter who passed away last fall. She loved Disney so this trip will be very emotional for everyone.

I thought it would be a nice surprise to get her "I'm Celebrating" buttons with her daughters name on them so they can all wear them everyday in her memory.

If you are going to Disney in the next few weeks would you be able to pick me up these buttons? I could do a money transfer for the shipping costs.

Thanks for your help.

 

[lorenni]

My sister lost her son and we also went to Disney as an extended family within a year. It was a chance to have fun again after what was (is) a soul crushing time.

While your intentions are wonderful, I would hesitate to give them pins with her daughters name on them. Imagine, as an adult - let alone as a child - having to answer multiple times a day when a CM asks “Oh, you’re celebrating Karen. Which of you is Karen?” It would have been too much for us and would have exhausted us emotionally. How many times a day at Disney do you want to hear “I am sorry for your loss”. For me, no times - that’s how many.

Grief is a strange thing and grieving a child even more so. Support your friend, talk about her daughter, SAY HER NAME (so many people avoid mentioning a deceased child - it starts to feel like they’re pretending it didn’t happen) but I would try to avoid suggesting specific ways to celebrate/grieve/memorialize her child.

 

[TammyLynn33]

i think it’s a sweet idea I’m not going until after tho..
I would suggest the idea to them first. When my best friend lost her son he was 6 people tried to do several things with total best interests in mind and heart. And it wasn’t how she wanted to remember him. I wanted to use his name as a middle name for my son when I had one a couple years later but when I suggested it she didn’t want that.. I’m so glad I asked .
If they are going to have an emotional trip they may not want every CM bringing her up etc or..
I know you have nothing but the absolute best intentions just pls be careful I almost learned the hard way

 

[disneyfreak89]

My sister lost her son and we also went to Disney as an extended family within a year. It was a chance to have fun again after what was (is) a soul crushing time.

While your intentions are wonderful, I would hesitate to give them pins with her daughters name on them. Imagine, as an adult - let alone as a child - having to answer multiple times a day when a CM asks “Oh, you’re celebrating Karen. Which of you is Karen?” It would have been too much for us and would have exhausted us emotionally. How many times a day at Disney do you want to hear “I am sorry for your loss”. For me, no times - that’s how many.

Grief is a strange thing and grieving a child even more so. Support your friend, talk about her daughter, SAY HER NAME (so many people avoid mentioning a deceased child - it starts to feel like they’re pretending it didn’t happen) but I would try to avoid suggesting specific ways to celebrate/grieve/memorialize her child.

THANK YOU for telling me your story. It makes perfect sense and the last thing I would want to do is make them grieve throughout their entire trip!

i think it’s a sweet idea I’m not going until after tho..
I would suggest the idea to them first. When my best friend lost her son he was 6 people tried to do several things with total best interests in mind and heart. And it wasn’t how she wanted to remember him. I wanted to use his name as a middle name for my son when I had one a couple years later but when I suggested it she didn’t want that.. I’m so glad I asked .
If they are going to have an emotional trip they may not want every CM bringing her up etc or..
I know you have nothing but the absolute best intentions just pls be careful I almost learned the hard way

Thanks for your thoughts, they are greatly appreciated and again, make perfect sense.


I originally thought of making up my own buttons, with the words "In Loving Memory" and then her picture.
I wonder if most people would NOT ask about her and realize by the wording that they had lost someone? But I'm having a hard time finding anyone to make buttons anyways.
Of course I would ask her first before going through the expense of it for sure.

 

[Spotthecat]

Our public library in Vaughan lets you make buttons for like 0.25$ I think. Might be worth checking out a library to see if they have the button press? You'd just need your own image...

 

[dancin Disney style]

My sister lost her son and we also went to Disney as an extended family within a year. It was a chance to have fun again after what was (is) a soul crushing time.

While your intentions are wonderful, I would hesitate to give them pins with her daughters name on them. Imagine, as an adult - let alone as a child - having to answer multiple times a day when a CM asks “Oh, you’re celebrating Karen. Which of you is Karen?” It would have been too much for us and would have exhausted us emotionally. How many times a day at Disney do you want to hear “I am sorry for your loss”. For me, no times - that’s how many.

Grief is a strange thing and grieving a child even more so. Support your friend, talk about her daughter, SAY HER NAME (so many people avoid mentioning a deceased child - it starts to feel like they’re pretending it didn’t happen) but I would try to avoid suggesting specific ways to celebrate/grieve/memorialize her child.

I'm in complete agreement. My daughter lost a friend and teammate to cancer , she was only 16. As a team we spend a lot of time together as families.....a lot of travel is involved. So we become much more than just teammates and friends...we are family to each other. Anyway, my point is 4 years later it's still VERY hard to talk about and none of us would want to be wearing 'I'm Celebrating' buttons with her name on it.

Perhaps you could make a donation to Dreams Take Flight in memory of the child that passed. If you are unfamiliar with this event.....Air Canada takes a plane filled with kids on a WDW trip once a year. They are totally reliant on donations and volunteers to do this. The kids that go are kids in horrible situations....some in protective custody. This is one day that they get to just be kids.

 

[disneyfreak89]

Our public library in Vaughan lets you make buttons for like 0.25$ I think. Might be worth checking out a library to see if they have the button press? You'd just need your own image...

Thanks for the suggestion, I'll have to call my local library!

I'm in complete agreement. My daughter lost a friend and teammate to cancer , she was only 16. As a team we spend a lot of time together as families.....a lot of travel is involved. So we become much more than just teammates and friends...we are family to each other. Anyway, my point is 4 years later it's still VERY hard to talk about and none of us would want to be wearing 'I'm Celebrating' buttons with her name on it.

Perhaps you could make a donation to Dreams Take Flight in memory of the child that passed. If you are unfamiliar with this event.....Air Canada takes a plane filled with kids on a WDW trip once a year. They are totally reliant on donations and volunteers to do this. The kids that go are kids in horrible situations....some in protective custody. This is one day that they get to just be kids.

Thank you for sharing your story. I agree too now that it wouldn't be the right thing to do and never really thought about the downside to it all.

 

[bookbabe626]

Lots of school libraries (or sometimes it’s the student council) own button presses. If your local library doesn’t have one, try a few of the neighbourhood schools.

I agree that the “in memoriam” buttons would be a better plan than the “celebrating” ones. And I’d definitely ask the family first. But if there’s something else you need from the parks, like park maps maybe, we’re going over Family Day weekend and I could pick some up for you.

 

[disneyfreak89]

Lots of school libraries (or sometimes it’s the student council) own button presses. If your local library doesn’t have one, try a few of the neighbourhood schools.

I agree that the “in memoriam” buttons would be a better plan than the “celebrating” ones. And I’d definitely ask the family first. But if there’s something else you need from the parks, like park maps maybe, we’re going over Family Day weekend and I could pick some up for you.

Thanks for the suggestions. We don't have kids so it never dawned on me schools would have button presses, but that makes sense!

Thanks for offering to pick up something. If I think of anything I'll let you know.