Anyone else not have kids?

[sonnyjane]

Only issue with not wanting kids is dating can be a chore. 95% of the women I meet are dead set on having kids so really shrinks the dating pool

It's actually very similar for women. A lot of men want kids too. I was lucky that my husband was okay with not having them.

 

[Pacolovestacos]

It's actually very similar for women. A lot of men want kids too. I was lucky that my husband was okay with not having them.

Agreed that a lot of men want kids but I DEFINITELY think the % of women wanting kids is significantly higher than men.

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

I'm 30, have no kids and not planning on it in the future.
I love kids I just don't think I want one of my own.
I even watch a family friend's infant a couple times per week and as much as I love that little darling I do enjoy sending her back to mom and dad at the end of the day

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

Only issue with not wanting kids is dating can be a chore. 95% of the women I meet are dead set on having kids so really shrinks the dating pool

And here I am as a woman that has been thinking for a couple years that a child is probably not in my future and I'm worried that I won't find a man that feels the same.

 

[sonnyjane]

It's actually very similar for women. A lot of men want kids too. I was lucky that my husband was okay with not having them.

An interesting poll: http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2013/06/15/poll-most-men-aspire-to-be-dads/2427123/

 

[Pacolovestacos]

An interesting poll: http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2013/06/15/poll-most-men-aspire-to-be-dads/2427123/

Well I'll be damned

 

[rastahomie]

No kids for me and Mrs. Homie. We had a hard time conceiving back when we first started trying, didn't want to invest the money or emotional energy in adoption or fertility treatments. So I read a few books on the childfree* lifestyle, decided to make lemonade out of lemons, and never looked back.

*I absolutely hate the word "childfree." It's like you view children as something to be avoided, like you're "drug-free" or "disease-free." Similarly, I hate the word "childless." It's like you're lacking something that by all rights you should have, like you're "armless" or "sightless." I prefer the word "non-parent," since it's neutral.

 

[DisneyHardin]

No kids here, but not by choice. We have been trying for years with no luck. I'm 38 now, so my days are numbered anyway. I've come to accept that being a Mom isn't in Gods plans for me.

 

[erin1715]

I don't. We went through several rounds of fertility treatments and none worked. We are not preventing pregnancy but we pretty much have come to terms we most likely won't ever have kids.

We are in the exact same boat. Multiple rounds of fertility treatment with no success. We also aren't preventing pregnancy but we have peace about whatever will be. Not to say it doesn't still hurt sometimes.

 

[mrsstats]

No children, not by choice. 2 miscarriages and then a hysterectomy in my mid 30's took care of any chance. Have nieces and nephews and at this point great nieces and nephews. Plus fur babies. You live with the cards you are dealt.

 

[morgan98]

We don't have children either and at this point (me being 46 and my husband being 57) it is not going to happen. We too love our nieces and nephews and don't hate children by any means, although there are people who still think it is strange we do not have kids.

This is a second marriage for us both, and people are always confirming that neither of us had kids in our first marriage also. To be honest, by the time I could have been ready to have kids, I was going through a divorce, and by the time I dated, moved to a different part of the country and remarried that ship had basically sailed. However, I am perfectly content with the way my life turned out. Having children was never really a desire of mine.

 

[Pacolovestacos]

We don't have children either and at this point (me being 46 and my husband being 57) it is not going to happen. We too love our nieces and nephews and don't hate children by any means, although there are people who still think it is strange we do not have kids.

I find those people extremely annoying.

 

[Pacolovestacos]

Not sure if anyone here watches "House of Cards" but there is a great scene that relates to this thread. Francis and Claire invite their political opponents over to the White House for dinner. Opponents bring their kids. At one point the mom (as her kids are running wild) looks at Claire (who has no kids) and condescendingly asks "Do you ever regret not having children?" And Claire responds matter of factly, "Do you regret having them?"

HAHAHA

 

[morgan98]

I find those people extremely annoying.

So do I, quite frankly. I also find it strange that when we answer no to having children, so many feel the need to confirm if we have any from a previous relationship. Sort of like no is not an acceptable answer. I mean if we had children at all, we would answer the question yes, we do have kids.

This is another one of those areas where there is somewhat a double standard. It is okay for people to react strangely and prod for more information when we say no. On the other hand, something tells me that if we responded, "You have three kids, what in the heck were you thinking?," that would be considered rude.

 

[Pacolovestacos]

So do I, quite frankly. I also find it strange that when we answer no to having children, so many feel the need to confirm if we have any from a previous relationship. Sort of like no is not an acceptable answer. I mean if we had children at all, we would answer the question yes, we do have kids.

This is another one of those areas where there is somewhat a double standard. It is okay for people to react strangely and prod for more information when we say no. On the other hand, something tells me that if we responded, "You have three kids, what in the heck were you thinking?," that would beconsidered rude.

I know right? Could you imagine the reaction if you said, "Geez, 3 kids, get on the dang pill already."

 

[IceSkatingPrincess]

Just fur kids for the foreseeable future!

Human kids seem like they would eat up too much of my Disney money

 

[Disney_traveler]

This thread makes me feel like I'm less of a social leper. As long as I can remember I've always not been interested in kids (and once I got older marriage too). I'm now 32 and no kids. I frequently get told by friends/family that my clock is ticking or about no marriage that I just haven't found the right one yet. The best was when my mom's half-brother came to visit after not seeing or talking to him for like 7 years.

After uncle gushing about his daughter and her husband seeing paul McCartney and son and his fiancée having a baby.
Uncle: how about you Sam? No kids?
Me: no, they smell and drool
Uncle: no husband or fiancée either?
Me: nope, same thing, smell and drool
(End of conversation)

Also, @Pacolovestacos your posts sound like stuff I would say!

 

[Kitty 34]

Parent here (sorry ) but I do have to say my middle son and DIL who are both turning 30 have said many times they will not be having children. DH and I think it's great. Having kids does not have to dictate who you are, especially in their case.

Sorry for ones on this thread, tho, that the choice was made for them because of fertility issues.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

No two legged children but 3 cats

 

[CynBeth]

I have been happily married for 17 years and we do not have kids just a dog. We adopted the first dog we ever had at a local shelter when she was 4 years old and was a golden retriever/greyhound mix. Unfortunately had to put her down a year ago at the age of 13. A few weeks later we adopted a dog from the same shelter. She is a mix of shep/hound and just turned 3.