Anyone else live in a "No cheating zone"?

[Liberty Belle]

I am going to get strung up for this but,.... Yeah, my marriage was a "no cheating zone" too.

1. I never planned to cheat, but I did.
2. My wife said she'd never take me back if I cheated, but she did.
3. I swore I'd never cheat again, but I did.

I've been divorced for nearly a year now. I have 3 kids that I see 6 days a month. The grass isn't greener. My job now is to live with the choices I made, move forward with life and do my best to help raise my kids in the best way I can.

I am not trying to bring people down, but that is the reality that many of you (women) have to live with. There are lots of guys out there like me, hopefully my boys won't be two of them.

Thank you for speaking up.

Can you tell us why you did it and if you think most men who cheat do it for similar reasons? Also, why in the world you did it again? Did the fact that your wife forgave you make you think it was ok to cheat again?

 

[DeniseinNS]

After going through a horrible breakup of an ex-boyfriend who cheated and I tried to forgive (but couldn't) cheating became a total dealbreaker for me.

As soon as my relationship with my hubby became serious I like him know point blank that if he ever cheated I would 100% leave and that I do not give second chances to cheaters. He feels the same We have been together for 12 years and married for 10 and I must say that I got one of the good guys and can say with 100% certainty that I can totally trust him.

 

[ksumn1]

I am going to get strung up for this but,.... Yeah, my marriage was a "no cheating zone" too.

1. I never planned to cheat, but I did.
2. My wife said she'd never take me back if I cheated, but she did.
3. I swore I'd never cheat again, but I did.

I've been divorced for nearly a year now. I have 3 kids that I see 6 days a month. The grass isn't greener. My job now is to live with the choices I made, move forward with life and do my best to help raise my kids in the best way I can.

I am not trying to bring people down, but that is the reality that many of you (women) have to live with. There are lots of guys out there like me, hopefully my boys won't be two of them.

I don't think anybody here could string you up, or make you feel any worse about your choices than you already do. I appreciate your honesty.

And I trust my DH totally and think that he would never, ever cheat. But I also never would have dreamed that our family would go through so many bad events in a row, much less a year but we have.

So I love hearing all the wonderful stories but I also realize that life doesn't always go as we planned, either.