Anybody else constantly fighting for Disney?!

We spent many a year going to Disney. We own DVC we love it so much. That said, my DH is tired of constantly going to Disney and has wanted to experience other places. Looking back, we were imbalanced...too many Disney trips and not enough other types of trips. If I had to do it all over again, we'd mix it up more. Now that my kids are grown, there are places we should have gone that we haven't and it's near impossible to get us all together now, so I do have that regret to live with. There is life after Disney! Go see the world, national parks, cruises (they have wonderful kid programs), etc. Alternate with Disney every other year. That should keep a good balance for all.
 
In a perfect world - this is the answer. But, in the real world... I think I gotta get him on board with Disney - or give up on family vacations until DD is 8 or so!

Why on earth would you need to give up family vacations ? Maybe its time to compromise and go somewhere new . I have a 22 yr old and an 8 yr old. We had plenty of fun at other places when they were tiny. Branch out a little .. Disney will always be there. Not to mention there are bigger fish to fry in marriages, if you are following him in the bedroom to yap at him about a vacation , I hate to see how you handle bigger issues. Bedrooms aren't for "discussions " . ; )

Disney apparently is only YOUR place, not OUR place and I say that in the kindest way possible.
 
There is life after Disney! Go see the world, national parks, cruises (they have wonderful kid programs), etc. Alternate with Disney every other year. That should keep a good balance for all.

ITA! I really LOVE Disney, my husband not so much. We have taken some wonderful non-Disney vacations, cruising being one of them. Consider going somewhere else, you will probably have a great time!:goodvibes
 
There are so many non-Disney vacations that you can take where you will be taken care of and your daughter catered to - cruises, all-inclusives - and that will fit your budget. You are doing your entire family a disservice with your behavior.

You are part of a family unit. YOUR wants aren't the only thing that matters. Frankly, you are sounding a bit spoiled and bratty and that isn't exactly the behavior you want to model for your daughter. Try something different for once. You may like it.

Oh, and just curious, what happens if your daughter gets sick of Disney? Are you going to threaten her with no more vacations?
 

There are so many non-Disney vacations that you can take where you will be taken care of and your daughter catered to - cruises, all-inclusives - and that will fit your budget. You are doing your entire family a disservice with your behavior.
You are part of a family unit. YOUR wants aren't the only thing that matters. Frankly, you are sounding a bit spoiled and bratty and that isn't exactly the behavior you want to model for your daughter. Try something different for once. You may like it.

Oh, and just curious, what happens if your daughter gets sick of Disney? Are you going to threaten her with no more vacations?

I agree. DD loves Disney, but if you ask her what her favorite vacation was she will tell you Garmisch in Germany. There are so many fun family vacations. You can do all inclusive resorts, cruises, cabins in the Smokys, a beach house, national parks,..... here is a list from the Travel Channel


It used to be difficult to find a vacation destination that would please the entire family. These days, family-friendly resorts provide a multitude of options, so that folks can entertain their tots, relax with their spouses, and enjoy the fabulous North American outdoors -- all from the creative comforts of man-made African safaris, lost continents and even a Wild West dude ranch. Competing for your attention, modern family resorts have upped the ante in entertainment: swimming with dolphins, circus clown training and even sleeping in trees are real-life resort activities.

We've left no stone unturned as we unearthed these amazing resorts filled with off-the-chart family fun. Let the games begin!

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Atlantis Resort and Casino
Paradise Island, Bahamas
Discover a lost civilization this vacation, and let your family act as the explorers! The $850-million Atlantis Resort recreates the infamous lost continent, filled with adventure and intrigue. This mecca of family fun features over 20,000 guest rooms, 38 restaurants and countless activities, including 11 exhibit lagoons and over 50,000 animals such as sharks, lionfish and stingrays.

Water enthusiasts can visit miles of beaches, take a dip in one of 11 pool areas, or play on 7 different water slides. Leave your fears at home, though & the Mayan Temple's Leap of Faith slide features a 60-foot drop into an acrylic tunnel submerged in a shark-infested lagoon.

Snowbird Ski and Summer Resort
Snowbird, Utah
If the sight of snow gets your family excited, grab a pair of skis and head to Snowbird for a wonderful, wintry vacation. The resort rests in Little Cottonwood Canyon, which offers 3,240 feet and 5,000 acres of mountain to explore, and whose proximity to the Great Salt Lake ensures over 500 inches of snow falls annually.

Thirty years after being founded, the resort now features 10 lifts, 85 runs and an uphill capacity of 16,000 people. Beginner skiers, from ages 3 to adult, can learn skiing and snowboarding at the Snowbird Mountain School. Love the outdoors but not a fan of the slopes? The resort offers ice skating, snow tubing, snowshoe tours and luge sleds. Parents can unwind with a stone massage or herbal wrap at the luxurious Cliff Spa, or hit Snowbird's shops, selling everything from ski clothes and boots to Chinese silk rugs.

Tanque Verde Ranch
Tuscon, Arizona
City slickers and country folk alike will enjoy their stay at the Tanque Verde Ranch, a family resort aiming to lasso the cowboy outta everyone. Literally meaning "Green Pool," the 640-acre Tanque Verde Ranch is a serene oasis nestled into the Sonoran Desert and adjacent to Saguaro National Park. With over 120 horses, it's no surprise that this dude ranch offers ample riding opportunities. Specialty rides such as the Breakfast Ride (to a meal at the Old Homestead), 6-hour-long Day Rides and Picnic Rides with lunch in Cottonwood Grove are all available. Newcomers can take riding lessons at a variety of levels.

Naturalist guides offer hikes through the desert wilds, exploring canyons, cacti and even secret waterfalls. The popular Kids Program offers little cowpokes (ages 4 - 11) the chance to "ride 'em cowboy!" Children are divided into 2 age groups -- the Buckaroos and Wrangler Kids -- and treated to riding lessons, tennis, swimming and arts and crafts.

Hilton Waikoloa Village
Waikoloa, Hawaii
If your family is looking for an island excursion to get away from it all, the Hilton Waikoloa Village promises endless activity and unprecedented luxury. Parents hoping to find a child-friendly haven can sign their tykes up for Camp Menehune. This day and night camp allows kids to feed koi and swans, hunt for treasure, and explore tidepools Tropical gardens, saltwater lagoons and 2 golf courses are tempting, but the resort's most popular retreat is Dolphin Quest, providing guests with a variety of interactive dolphin programs.

The many activities include Dolphin Training Adventures, a Dolphin Family Program and a Dolphin Twilight Camp for kids. At Waikoloa's 4-acre lagoon, water lovers can schedule kayak trips, snorkel sails and seasonal whale-watch sails. After dark, attend the Legends of the Pacific Luau to experience traditional island dancing and music, as well as a buffet dinner.

Kingsmill Resort
Williamsburg, Virginia
Stretching over 3,000 acres of Virginia wilderness, Kingsmill Resort boasts its own long list of recreational activities as well as close proximity to the fun found in nearby Colonial Williamsburg and Busch Gardens. Active families can enjoy the resort's 3 18-hole golf courses, 15 tennis courts and Sports Club featuring indoor and outdoor pools, exercise classes, personal trainers and a billiards and game room.

Stop by the concierge desk for special Junior Guest Registration: children receive a Kids Fun Pack introducing them to the resort. Kids Camp is the perfect opportunity for 5-12 year olds to play tennis and golf, swim, fish, have theme days and make arts and crafts. Don't forget to sign little ones up for Kids Night Out, a pizza and game party that allows for a parents' romantic date night at 1 of the resort's 6 signature restaurants.

Circus Circus
Las Vegas, Nevada
The biggest permanent big top in the world can be found rising in all its colorful glory here in Las Vegas. At Circus Circus, over 3.5 million people per year stop by to experience the live entertainment and whimsy the Circus has to offer. The resort lies on 70 acres of land, and with 3,800 rooms, it's the fifth largest resort-casino in Vegas.

"Ooh's" and "ahh's" fill the air every half hour at Circus Circus, as performers engage in airborne stunts on the resort's center stage. Surrounding the stage is Midway, an enormous carnival filled with over 200 arcade games, carnival games and wandering clowns. Possibly the world's biggest funhouse, the excitement continues at the indoor theme park Adventuredome, home to over 20 rides, miniature golf and laser tag.

Out 'n' About Treesort
Takilma, Oregon
Something extraordinary is afoot in the woods of Oregon. Strung high above the earth, nestled into treetops and branches, is 1 of the world's most unique resorts: Treesort. This high-in-the-sky treehouse-resort proves that trees aren't just for the birds. Fourteen treehouses comprise Treesort, and sleep 2 - 8 people.
Getting to your room is half the adventure -- guests climb stairs, ladders, even a 90-foot-long suspension bridge. Once there, the wonder begins. At the Swiss Family Complex, a swinging bridge separates child and adult units, and a fire pole and rope swings provide kids with ground access. Luxury lovers will enjoy the Tree Room Schoolhouse Suite, which sleeps 4 and has a bathroom, kitchenette, master bedroom, sitting area and loft.

Guests allow fantasy to become reality at the Treehouse Institute, which teaches techniques in treehouse building. A self-described summer camp for families, Treesort also features horseback riding, rafting, ropes courses, pools and arts and crafts classes. Tree climbers face the challenge of scaling Treesort's 51-foot rope-climbing tree and discovering a treetop pool made of river rocks.

Club Med Ixtapa
Ixtapa, Mexico
Take your family South of the Border for some Club Med-style family fun. The charming Club Med Ixtapa Village quickly woos kids and parents with its seemingly endless roster of activities for all ages. Situated on 37 acres along Mexico's western coast, Ixtapa plays host to over 20,000 visitors a year, 60% of whom are under age 11!
 
You have been given some good advice, so I won't repeat it. But I will tell you that it's really silly to argue with your DH to the point of him leaving the room over Disney. I know it's a great place, but fun and family memories can be made in lots of places. Ask him where he wants to go.
 
Never follow a man into his man cave to continue an argument. :scared1:

To add to the list of family friendly resorts - the list above is by no means extensive - there are many many more. Smugglers Notch in Vermont was our favourite when we lived in MA. Cruises are excellent family vacations. I live them better than Disney. ;)
 
You stated that "Disney is OUR place", well, no, it isn't, it is YOUR place. Sure your 3 year old loves it, but she would probably love a trip to the beach or a trip to the Grand Canyon or a trip to somewhere else too but she is 3 and doesn't know any differently. I see his point. There are a LOT of other places in the world to visit and to ONLY focus on Disney is doing a huge disservice to your DD when you have the means and ability to go anywhere.

I think YOU need to compromise-take a family vacation somewhere every other year and a trip to Disney on the off years. Otherwise, take smaller trips to Disney with your DD and a family vacation each year. When your DF feels like going to Disney he can, if not, you go with your DD.
 
I agree with eliza, andtototoo and many others. I'm the WDW nut in our marriage, but I realize there are lots of other fantastic family vacations out there besides WDW, and it's DW's vacation, too, and she has an equal voice.

Remember: "Those who are convinced against their will/are of the same opinion still." If you want to vacation as a family, you'll need to compromise.
 
More family-friendly trips in different price ranges:

Azul Sensatori - Mexico
Club Med Sandpiper
Beaches Turks and Caicos
Beaches Negril
Beaches Boscobel
Franklyn D. Resort - Jamaica
Dreams Tulum - Mexico
Dreams Palm Beach - Dominican Republic
Moon Palace - Mexico
Dreams Riviera Cancun
Iberostar Paraiso Lindo/Maya
Iberostar Rose Hall Suites Montego Bay
Hard Rock Punta Cana
Pretty much any Caribbean cruise

That list was just the tip of the iceberg. There are too many non-Disney fantastic trips to type out.
 
I guess that my parents raised me wrong because they NEVER took us to Disney. But we did travel all over the country, spent days at the beach, did a cabin on a lake a couple of summers, a dude ranch one year and camped near Valley Forge (but not in the winter!).

There are so many places that you can visit as a family that Disney does not need to be the sole destination. Instead of trying to convince your fiance that Disney is the ONLY place to go, you need to compromise and maybe Disney will become ONE OF THE PLACES he puts on his list of family vacation spots.
 
I understand your pain. My DH doesn't love Disney the way DD and I do. We went twice in the first couple years after we were married and he had a good time but then didn't want to go back again until DD was 4. He says he hates Disney but I know that's not true. He seems to have a good time once he gets there.

I know one of his issues was the cost. He likes to stay in the Deluxe resorts but hates the cost. We've worked that out by buying into DVC which he felt was a good deal for us considering we will probably go each year for a long time with the kids.

He also feels like its more work than vacation, he doesn't like the go go go nature of a Disney trip. I try to plan our trips with at least one day where we don't go to a park at all and several of the meals that I know he likes a lot.

What he does like though is seeing how happy our DD is when we are there. Especially at the BBB. So he goes each year with us. And usually one or two nights DD and I will go back to the park just us for awhile and he'll go sit in the lounge at the resort and watch whatever game is on or something and just have some time to relax.

We balance ourselves out by doing a beach trip each year that he loves. And of course DD loves it to. I enjoy seeing the kids have fun, but my idea of a good beach trip is sitting under the umbrella all day reading my book and sipping on a cocktail. Obviously you can't do that with kids so I don't enjoy the beach quite as much right now. But he does because he loves to be in the ocean with the kids. So we each get "our" trip and we're both happy.

Next year though I think we are going to leave the kids with Nana and go to Aruba with another couple for a week. Its been a LONG time since we've had an adults trip and its time. ;)
 
In a perfect world - this is the answer. But, in the real world... I think I gotta get him on board with Disney - or give up on family vacations until DD is 8 or so!

I don't understand this my way or the highway attitude, If you are partners then you each get equal say on things. Compromise.
 
OP, I am also sure you are going to come back and insist Disney is the only place a young child can enjoy. That is so wrong. One of the best vacations we ever had was to Sedona, AZ. We took the kids to Spain when DS was 3 and had a great time They keep asking to go back to both places.

Only you can create the fun and good times. Go into a vacation with a poor attitude convinced Disney is the only good place to visit, and you will have a bad time. Go into a vacation with an open mind, and you will have a great time.
 
I get it. I really really get your point of view. But... seeing as you are a couple, I do think you need to try some other places.

I'm a single mom. So in our case, Disney was a perfect place for the younger years. (Still is, to my point of view, because I don't have to do much of anything to get away and not cook for a while, lol.) But when I vacationed with my kid, I didn't want to go somewhere that she'd go into a 'club' and I'd do grown-up things. She's in daycare all year, why would I put her there on vacation? Plus, that would defeat the point of being on vacation together. Unfortunately, since my dd has been old enough to do some real travelling together, it's either been cost-prohibitive or time-prohibitive to plan some of the trips we want to do. (Between DVC and APs, we've been able to do Disney fairly inexpensively.)

However, you don't have just two in your family. Having that other parent gives you a little bit more freedom in vacation choices.

Yes, it is less expensive to do Disney by buying APs. But watch out. You'll find lots of reasons to simply 'pop' down there. One year, we used our APs for 30 days!!! (Two vacations within 365 days, two quick trips with friends.) I agree that at this age, your dd would be happy with her parents pretty much anywhere. So why not let your dFi plan vacations for the next few years, then go back to Disney in 2-3 years?
 
I don't mind trying new places - but right now, while she's young - Disney is OUR place!

Not quite. It is your place, not your partners. I agree with what everyone else has already said.

There are all kinds of GREAT other places to vacation besides disney. Compromise and find them.

Vacations aren't all about you. My DH does not really enjoy Disney, so I take the kids myself and go. However, we also enjoy different places as a family, so we still spend plenty of fun time together.
 
I think it's fine if you go every year, provided that you go other places as well. We've done an annual camping trip since before kids, but have gone to other places (including WDW, cruises, beach, all inclusives, DC...) as well.
 
Not quite. It is your place, not your partners. I agree with what everyone else has already said.

There are all kinds of GREAT other places to vacation besides disney. Compromise and find them.

Vacations aren't all about you. My DH does not really enjoy Disney, so I take the kids myself and go. However, we also enjoy different places as a family, so we still spend plenty of fun time together.

I agree with this.

DH has pretty much given in to Disney (hence we bought DVC), but we wouldn't go if he wasn't on board with it. He has expressed that there are other places in the US he wants to visit when our child is older (I'm still working on getting him interested in Europe!) and I've already told him I'm completely fine with taking a year or two off from Disney and renting our DVC.

Its all about compromising. Plus while I LOVE Disney, I don't want to limit myself to just going there.
 
I agree with this.

DH has pretty much given in to Disney (hence we bought DVC), but we wouldn't go if he wasn't on board with it. He has expressed that there are other places in the US he wants to visit when our child is older (I'm still working on getting him interested in Europe!) and I've already told him I'm completely fine with taking a year or two off from Disney and renting our DVC.

Its all about compromising. Plus while I LOVE Disney, I don't want to limit myself to just going there.

Bingo! I've never understood the attitude of "Disney is the ONLY place we can vacation and have fun!"

Ummm, no, it isn't. :sad2: There is a HUGE world out there.
 


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