Anybody else constantly fighting for Disney?!

[abdmom]

Circus Circus is disgusting.

Huh???

 

[mdsoccermom]

Huh???

The article posted on the second page of this thread mentioned Circus Circus in Las Vegas as a great family friendly trip. Carnie said it's disgusting. And it is.

 

[Planogirl]

Circus circus wasn't always disgusting. But that's just one example.

I still don't see why you couldn't do both. Families don't have to be attached at the hip. Find a place that he will enjoy too and spend a vacation there. Maybe sneak away for a short trip to WDW for you and your child at some later date.

It's not complex and has nothing to do with it being a perfect world. It's simply compromise.

 

[IdesOmarch]

One word "Universal" you'll enjoy it as much as Disney and may be easy to talk him into it.

And not to get into a whole Uni vs. Disney debate (because I love both) but for anyone that has never gone, it really is like comparing Steak to Lobster, both are equally great, and both deserve to be eaten. And you are totally missing out if you don't try it. I have friends that have never been to either park, and have also never tried Lobster. I think to myself, wow you really are missing out on some of the best parts of life.

 

[MoonFaerie]

I'd compromise. Every other year you get Disney, and the in between years he gets to choose. If it's in your budget, you could do a long weekend with her by yourself during his years to choose.

 

[scrapquitler]

In a perfect world - this is the answer. But, in the real world... I think I gotta get him on board with Disney - or give up on family vacations until DD is 8 or so!

No...you don't have to do that, but you can compromise: tell him you'll do whatever he wants THIS year, then next year Disney. The year after that, his choice.

Why shouldn't he ever get to choose the vacation desitination? It hardly seems fair that he never gets to pick.

 

[angelmav]

The comments/advice seem pretty clear to me. I think part of the problem wasnt just in arguing for this trip, it was attempt to turn it into two trips (using the AP). Basically locking him into two vacations with no say in the matter. I would think that rather than trying to convert him or else, you might want to try something from his program once in awhile. Seems like it would make for a healthier/happier household.

 

[GinnyEmma]

No...you don't have to do that, but you can compromise: tell him you'll do whatever he wants THIS year, then next year Disney. The year after that, his choice.

Why shouldn't he ever get to choose the vacation desitination? It hardly seems fair that he never gets to pick.

dad should have some say in his life and his daughter's life. He is just not a paycheck. Give him a chance to be a part of the choice. Respect him too. Disney is not the only place to be happy. If you teach your child that it is your bad.

 

[AmazingGrace]

See I have The opposite problem. I'm sick of Disney, yet my dh is planning this huge craptacular for Christmas of 12. I'd rather save my money and go somewhere else. Anywhere else. Oh well. I have time to work on him.

 

[GinnyEmma]

See I have The opposite problem. I'm sick of Disney, yet my dh is planning this huge craptacular for Christmas of 12. I'd rather save my money and go somewhere else. Anywhere else. Oh well. I have time to work on him.

lol, good luck.

 

[hereyago]

Well by your ticker you are going in a few months. and I reread your original post. you told him you would find a way to vacation twice a year with one of them being Disney even if it mean just you and your DD, so are you trying to blow smoke up his butt? if so, why play games like that?

because myself and others said you should just take her alone and you wrote it would be in a perfect world but you have to either get him on board with Disney or not take your DD on vacation until she is 8?


I love Disney, but I'm a single mom of a DD12. since she was 4, we have been on a few cruises, Hawaii, D.C., Disney World.


He may never want to go back to Disney, some people just don't like it, but you can take your DD other places as well, don't limit yourself. and if he never wants to go back to Disney, well, take your DD for a mom/DD trip without him.

 

[rodeo65]

I WISH I had a DH that enjoyed travel - any travel, but I don't. Our honeymoon was the first tip off when he decided he was over it a day early and we came home.

We've been to Disney three times; once in the early days as a couple and twice with the kids. He does not like it. Doesn't like the crowds, doesn't like the heat, doesn't like the go, go, go of it and especially doesn't like being away from his computer and work. That's who he is. I have given up on trying to get him to go anywhere.

January was the last Disney trip I expect he'll ever go on. I might be able to convince him to go on a short, nearby trip but even over March break I took the kids to Great Wolf Lodge myself, I'm taking them to Boston this weekend and fully expect that this is the way of the future.

Family vacations would be nice but DH just does not enjoy himself, so as a result I don't either. I'm nervous at the prospect of the distance to FL alone with the kids, but since I go everywhere closer with them I guess it's the same thing with a longer drive.

On the other hand - the MOST likely he is to come anywhere is when I don't even include him. Just plan it for the kids and myself and then he sometimes will decide last minute that he'll miss us too much and he'll come. Still isn't as relaxing as without him though. He's the guy sprinting through MK to get to the next thing while the kids and I are hanging back looking for hidden Mickey's and just enjoying being there. Can't change who people are and if your fiance truly is done with Disney, nagging and trying to get him to change his mind won't do any good.

 

[Bob NC]

You write this post like you are 100% right and he is wrong?

Why?

 

[airhead]

I'm OLD, and Disney is still my place!

me too!!!

 

[Robinrs]

You stated that "Disney is OUR place", well, no, it isn't, it is YOUR place. Sure your 3 year old loves it, but she would probably love a trip to the beach or a trip to the Grand Canyon or a trip to somewhere else too but she is 3 and doesn't know any differently. I see his point. There are a LOT of other places in the world to visit and to ONLY focus on Disney is doing a huge disservice to your DD when you have the means and ability to go anywhere.

I think YOU need to compromise-take a family vacation somewhere every other year and a trip to Disney on the off years. Otherwise, take smaller trips to Disney with your DD and a family vacation each year. When your DF feels like going to Disney he can, if not, you go with your DD.

I'm more like your fiance and NO ONE can talk me into going, don't waste your time.

In fact the MORE people blab on about the plusses and the "magic" the more it turns me off. Compromise, if he goes your trip will probably be ruined. And toddlers go where their parents go and believe me, she will NOT remember this trip.... but HE will.

 

[mickeysgal]

Just want to reiterate a few things. Trust me, looking back, we spent way, way, way too many years and multiple trips/year at Disney. We love it, we really do...enough to buy DVC...BUT...there is such a thing as too much. We are just starting to travel to see other places and I'm kicking myself that we didn't start this earlier. We are just starting to cruise again. We went to Europe a couple of years ago and are planning a return visit to see new countries. We are now close to 50 (too close!) and my regret is that we didn't start seeing all these beautiful and wonderful places with the kids when we were younger. It saddens me that we are now just STARTING to see these beautiful places now. Now, the kids are working and in college and it's next to impossible to get us together and as a result, they don't go with us anymore.

Don't put yourself in my shoes of looking back with regret. Yes, we had many a happy year at Disney, but there was oh, so much we missed.

 

[dimimi]

Have to agree with this; there are SO many other places in this country to take your family. Contrary to limited belief, Disney is not the end all/be all of vacation destinations. Seems to be you're being a bit petulant (give up on family vacations until DD is 8 or so).

I agree with this and a few other posters. There are cruises and all inclusives that will cater to your daughter. Maybe compromise and do Disney every other year.

 

[kkmcan]

Ya, work with your fiance and I'll bet you can work it out. One year do Disney, one year do something different or do 2 vacations a year- one Disney and one something else. You can do it. Just have a good chat with him and let him know you want to vacation so that everyone is happy. He'll appreciate that and everyone will get what they want.

 

[GaSleepingBeautyFan]

I don't bother. I would have to if I wanted the family to go with me but I just go solo most times now.

My family did say they'll go back with me in 2013.

I was very surprised when my husband suggested a California trip this summer with Disneyland, US Hollywood, and Hollywood. We'd talked about going to the Santa Monica Pier and the Queen Mary too but that part didn't happen. We just got back this tuesday.

You could compromise and do one year Disney, another year where he wants to go.

 

[Oreo Cookie]

Relationships and marriage are about compromise. You and your fiance are on a different page when it comes to vacationing, so you both need to compromise. Instead of Disney every year, try every other year. It is never wise to issue an ultimatum, but I think you were just emotional at the time. So step back from the situation and re-evaluate it.

There are so many other wonderful vacation destinations for families. By branching out and trying some new place with your DD you will open up a whole wonderful world for her too.

I love Disney but I have to say I've been on many fanstastic vacations that were not Disney. Also, I never went to WDW as a child, but I have the best childhood memories of family vacations. Kids enjoy being with their parents and siblings having fun. It's more about spending time together than the actual destination.