Anybody else constantly fighting for Disney?!

[MadilynnsMomma]

I know I can't be the only one - but sometimes it certainly feels that way. I feel like I have to constantly defend Disney trips to my fiance.

We are a professional couple with just one child. We roughly spend $3000 on our Disney trips (stay onsite, length of stay tickets (sometimes hoppers), dining plan, airfare, souvies included in this price) sometimes more, hardly ever less.

In my perfect world, we would go to Disney every year for the rest of forever! Shamus (my fiance), is done with Disney. We took Madilynn when she was 2 - the next year, Madi and I went solo. Shamus said how much he regretted not going and would definitely tag along this year. Tonight I told him I read about a great idea to save even more money going to Disney. I tossed out the idea of buying an AP next December (2012) and then going in October of 2013 to get use of the AP. This caused a HUGE debate/argument/debacle that sent Shamus to bed early and me feeling cheated. I went into the bedroom and fought my case - stating the regular DIS messages of how there is no where else in the world that we can go and everything is catered to Madilynn. No where else that we can go and be taken care of with nothing but souvies and extras to worry about once we get there, no need to worry about rental cars, meals, etc. *No need to explain myself to you guys - you get it!* I told Shamus that if it came down to it I would figure a way to take two vacations a year because Madilynn and I will go to Disney every year until she no longer wants to go - and we can plan a family vacation else where sometime in the year.

Any body else feel like they are constantly fighting this go no where battle? Any help on how to turn Grumpy into Goofy?

 

[low-key]

People just know there are a lot of other good vacations if you give it a chance. But Im like you, if you find something you really really like, then why mess with nirvana (it was Disney with me for years, now Vegas)

 

[MadilynnsMomma]

I don't mind trying new places - but right now, while she's young - Disney is OUR place!

 

[low-key]

I don't mind trying new places - but right now, while she's young - Disney is OUR place!

gottcha, your preaching to the choir

 

[mtblujeans]

My DH is a 'workaholic' and never wants to vacation anywhere. But, when we get down there, he doesn't want to come home. Then, I can't get him to go back. Then he doesn't want to come home!

 

[Aisling]

I don't mind trying new places - but right now, while she's young - Disney is OUR place!

I'm OLD, and Disney is still my place!

 

[nrpofp]

My dh and kids love it as much as I. Its the rest of my family and friends that don't get it, but they have never been. I told my dh were not telling anybody the next time we go. I hate the negative vibes I get from people. Why do people feel the need to pass judgement on how you spend your money. I could care less what other people do and even if I did care I would not comment on it.

 

[Planogirl]

Why not plan something else for when he goes and then just take her by yourself? That way everyone gets what they want.

 

[hereyago]

Why not plan something else for when he goes and then just take her by yourself? That way everyone gets what they want.

exactly.

 

[MadilynnsMomma]

Why not plan something else for when he goes and then just take her by yourself? That way everyone gets what they want.

In a perfect world - this is the answer. But, in the real world... I think I gotta get him on board with Disney - or give up on family vacations until DD is 8 or so!

 

[Michelle67]

Why? Do you think there is noplace else in this large and diverse country that your entire family could possibly enjoy? I'm not trying to slam you, but I'm honestly a little puzzled by this. I LOVE Disneyland, and our one family trip to WDW was pretty cool too, but we have gone on family vacations to many other places (most of which were waaaaaay cheaper), even some that we might never have particularly thought of as a "vacation destination" and had a really wonderful time! Maybe your husband would be more open to Disney trips, say every other trip, if you were more open to doing other things as well.

Also just wanted to add that your time is not necessarily running out when she turns 8. My 12 year old daughter is very excited that we might get to go back to WDW early next year, and my 22 year old daughter and her husband really wish they could come along.

eta: Ooops, I'm sorry. You said your fiance, not your husband...but the rest remains. Best wishes with your future planning. I'm sure you guys can come to some kind of a compromise.

 

[plutotek]

Why? Do you think there is noplace else in this large and diverse country that your entire family could possibly enjoy? I'm not trying to slam you, but I'm honestly a little puzzled by this. I LOVE Disneyland, and our one family trip to WDW was pretty cool too, but we have gone on family vacations to many other places (most of which were waaaaaay cheaper), even some that we might never have particularly thought of as a "vacation destination" and had a really wonderful time! Maybe your husband would be more open to Disney trips, say every other trip, if you were more open to doing other things as well.

Also just wanted to add that your time is not necessarily running out when she turns 8. My 12 year old daughter is very excited that we might get to go back to WDW early next year, and my 22 year old daughter and her husband really wish they could come along.

Have to agree with this; there are SO many other places in this country to take your family. Contrary to limited belief, Disney is not the end all/be all of vacation destinations. Seems to be you're being a bit petulant (give up on family vacations until DD is 8 or so).

 

[quasar4legs]

I am the Disney nut in our family, my son and hubby tolerate my enthusiasm for the mouse
Perhaps you should suggest vacations to Paris, Tokyo or Hong Kong, there are lots of sneaky ways to get to Disney.

Have a good night's sleep and then work out a solution that you can both live with, we've had great vacations in and out of Disney and that keeps everyone happy in our family.

 

[PaulaSB12]

I know I can't be the only one - but sometimes it certainly feels that way. I feel like I have to constantly defend Disney trips to my fiance.

We are a professional couple with just one child. We roughly spend $3000 on our Disney trips (stay onsite, length of stay tickets (sometimes hoppers), dining plan, airfare, souvies included in this price) sometimes more, hardly ever less.

In my perfect world, we would go to Disney every year for the rest of forever! Shamus (my fiance), is done with Disney. We took Madilynn when she was 2 - the next year, Madi and I went solo. Shamus said how much he regretted not going and would definitely tag along this year. Tonight I told him I read about a great idea to save even more money going to Disney. I tossed out the idea of buying an AP next December (2012) and then going in October of 2013 to get use of the AP. This caused a HUGE debate/argument/debacle that sent Shamus to bed early and me feeling cheated. I went into the bedroom and fought my case - stating the regular DIS messages of how there is no where else in the world that we can go and everything is catered to Madilynn. No where else that we can go and be taken care of with nothing but souvies and extras to worry about once we get there, no need to worry about rental cars, meals, etc. *No need to explain myself to you guys - you get it!* I told Shamus that if it came down to it I would figure a way to take two vacations a year because Madilynn and I will go to Disney every year until she no longer wants to go - and we can plan a family vacation else where sometime in the year.

Any body else feel like they are constantly fighting this go no where battle? Any help on how to turn Grumpy into Goofy?

I am single so if I want to go there is only me to please. You are part of a couple there are two adults here but you are saying only YOUR desires count. That is childish you need to compromise if you want a relationship to work and you just will not its your way or sulky brat time. Or is your fiance not part of your family?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I get your love of Disney.

But you are ARGUING about something that is just a difference of opinion. Sure "nothing" beats Disney--but there is more out there that kids can and do enjoy. It seems you are not winning your fiancé over, so it is time to ponder what will work and not how to make him like it.

We didn't even get AP's every year. As much as we lived Disney, we do like to take breaks from it. We do have DVC though, so we know we will be back.

It just seems that you are so stuck on Disney that you are deaf to any other possibilities. No wonder it is upsetting your fiancé. That is unhealthy.

Why don't you find out where he WOULD like to go on vacation.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

In a perfect world - this is the answer. But, in the real world... I think I gotta get him on board with Disney - or give up on family vacations until DD is 8 or so!

Why? That doesn't even Make any sense.

(My children have gone many places--it is possible to have fun, find souvenirs and locate a chicken nugget all over the country and world!)

 

[Magic Mom]

In a perfect world - this is the answer. But, in the real world... I think I gotta get him on board with Disney - or give up on family vacations until DD is 8 or so!

You can't compromise? I totally get your complete love of Disney, but it's his child too, and maybe he has a differfent idea of the perfect vacation.

 

[eliza61]

I don't mind trying new places - but right now, while she's young - Disney is OUR place!

Momma, I say this with love and motherhoodness. Stop using your daugther as an excuse to get your way.

Sorry but as you said your daughter is young. Are you telling me that she will not have a good time where ever you vacation? Stop. you know that is not true. Children want to be around loving parents, you and Shamus can do that anywhere.

Basically you are saying that if he doesn't do what you want you are going to throw a hissy fit and cancel family vacations until your child is 8. How sad.

I've got a few questions I'd like you to think about?

How do you know if disney is YOUR place, you've never gone any where else?
How would you feel if Shamus started throw out these ultimatiums to you? If I'm getting the wrong vibe from your post I apologize.
You actually think Disney is the only place on the planet that caters to children? Really? What do all the other poor children of the world do? I know that sounds a bit sarcastic but I want you to listen to how that really sounds. doesn't it sound a bit silly to you?

Listen, I love and adore disney BUT I love, adore and respect my husband waaay more. His happiness is important to me (not saying that you don't want Shamus to be happy). relationships are really about compromises and I think the bigger problem is why you seem to want these vacations to be all about you and sorry I am not buying the "my child will be little for a short time" argument.

The object of a vacation is supposed to be about your family not the destination.

Lighten up, be an adult and let your Fiancee pick the vacation.

 

[eliza61]

And sorry, there are tons of places that will pamper you, take care of you and give you bang for your buck. Heck, there are a few of them in Florida.

Also what happens if at 8 your daughter is still in love with disney. Do you still kick her father to the curb and say nope, no more family vacations until she's 16?

 

[Andtototoo]

Listen, I love Disney, but there ARE other wonderful family vacation alternatives. More to the point, your SO believes that as well and doesn't want to spend every vacation at WDW -- why are his beliefs less valid than yours?

I'll also tell you that if my dh were hammering at me about going anywhere the way you appear to be hammering at your spouse, I'd be totally resistant and getting more and more dogged in my resistance. Especially if you followed me into the bedroom to continue the argument.

Sorry, but to me this has become less and less about Disney and more and more about how you are trying to get your way.