Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[2bemarried]

Hi all!!!!

Carla...did you hear from your doctor's office Friday?

DMickey...I have my fingers crossed for you and I agree that you need a new doctor..SOON.

Jen...sorry about AF showing up. I know that feeling all too well.


Here's an update on us:
Before we left for vacation my DH's biopsy was scheduled for May 16th. On the second day of vacation the doctors secretary called and said that the doc wanted to reschedule the procedure...again. UGH....so I sucked it up and we agreed on May 30th. I also rescheduled my appt with my doctor for June 5th. Hopefully on the 30th the surgeon can remove "swimmers" from my dh and freeze them for use during IVF.

 

[KimR]

well, I'm afraid that once again, this pregnancy is not to be. I'm not miscarrying yet; however, just like the last 2 times, I no longer feel pregnant: the soreness in my breasts gradually started diminishing late last week and now the tenderness is gone completely. So, I am afraid that when I go in for the US on Thursday, there will be no heartbeat. I was really hoping that it would work out for us this time. This might be the end of the road for us, I don't know if I have the heart to keep trying.

 

[AllyandJack]

Kim, symptoms come and go. Did you use a HPT to see if it's still positive? Not that I recommend that since it'll drive you crazy, but if you can't wait until Thursday for some new information, maybe it'll help set your mind at ease to see the positive test. I'll keep everything crossed for you until Thursday.

2bemarried, good luck with your DH's biopsy. I hope they're able to find a few. A woman in my buddy group on Fertility Friend is pregnant after having her DH's extracted. They did IVF/ICSI and now she's pregnant. So, all you need is a few for it to work.

Jen, I'm sorry about your BFN. I agree that you shouldn't do month after month of Clomid. If you want to try one more, you should make sure you let your doctor know that this is it and you expect them to start thinking of other options if it doesn't work.

Syrreal, I don't do Mission Space either. For me, the issue would be actually getting there since I have to fly. I plan to go in November and I could be about 20 weeks along - plus, it could be twins. I made sure to check the cancellation policy in case my doctor tells me no. I'd be disappointed, but I'd live. Did you hear about the skydiver that fell 100's of feet? She was 4 weeks pregnant and her baby lived even after she hit the ground! I think there are many people who implant at WDW even while going on all the rides.

Blue Cross is still being elusive with their answer. It's not even an approval, it's just an extension of the approval I already have! To top it all off, I got a bill from my hospital. They billed BCBS over $12,000 for my IVF. Do you know what they paid? $1,700. That's it. The rest is adjusted off. I have to pay $20. I can't believe they're making a big deal out of something that costs them $1,700.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Hi everyone,

I'm Tina(27) married to Matt(28) for almost 4 year now. We aren't in the TTC phase, just in the sort of talking about it but I'm too scared to go off the pill LOL. Matt loves babies and would make the best daddy. I see babies and my heart does a little twirl and I just wish I could get pregnant while on the pill and don't have to make an active decision about trying to create a baby.

I think it boils down that Im just scared to have a baby. We are an active duty army family and Matt is away more than ever home. I'm afraid of being thousands of miles from home and being pregnant or having to give birth alone. I just don't think I'm strong enough or I'm afraid that I would start to resent him being gone all the time. I have a few issues also that the ob/gyn is working on but she said that I need to have my first by the time I'm 30 or be prepared for complications I'm reading this thread carefully almost taking notes so I know sort of what to expect. I hope things go well for you all and that your baby making is great and speedy. Well not the process Thank you for listening

 

[vettechick99]

Hi everyone! Long time, no talkie!

Well I have some good news , some bad news , some more good news , and some more bad news .

First the first good news - this board is lucky - I got my first BFP!! My temps stayed high and I was a day late, so I tested and the digital popped up "pregnant" within 30 seconds! I was so excited and DH was too. He started to tear up he was so surprised and excited.

Now for the bad news - this weekend I had an early miscarriage. I was away from home visiting some friends at the beach and cramps came on hard and strong (oh it sucked!!!). Then came heavy bleeding and today the doc tested me and I'm BFN. So it's not meant to be this time for us and that's ok.

Now for some good news - now I have proof we can get pregnant! After trying for 5 cycles I was starting to wonder. So even though it didn't end well, I'm happy to know pregnancy is possible and I'm hoping that's our only miscarriage.

Now for the some more bad news - he wants us to take this month off to give my body time to rejuvenate. Boo.

I have decided to buy a fertility monitor since July is really when I want to conceive. I hope it's lucky for us like it is other people.

So that's my recap. I get to drink for 60 more days (boy let me tell you, I was missing it!)!

Good luck to all those still trying!

And KimR and DMickey, I'm sorry things are hard for you. I hope this is the last month you'll have fertility struggles.

 

[AllyandJack]

If we keep this up, we're going to lose our thread because people are going to think we're an unlucky bunch.

vettechick, I'm sorry about your m/c, but I'm happy it went fast for you. If you're going to m/c, that's the way to do it. I guess a month off is good. Honestly, I think it's more for mental rehab than physical rehab at this early stage. The monitor is awesome though, so you should have a lot of hope that the next BFP will come fast.

Tina - Welcome. Why does your doctor think 30 is the "magic number"? What's going to change at 30? I mean, obviously as each year goes on and the older we get the harder it gets, but I've never heard of 30 being that number. If you're strong enough to be a military wife, you can handle anything - even having to be pregnant and give birth without your DH there. Don't feel too bad about being resentful. I've had my fill of resenting DH for a variety of reasons over the last couple of years. Like you, none of them are within my DH's control, but that didn't stop me from resenting him. Deep down, we know better, but it's hard to stop it from popping into our heads. I still get annoyed when he doesn't take his vitamin. Here I am taking a variety of pills and shots and he simply forgets to take his vitamin. When does your DH return home again? I wonder if there is any way for your doctor to give you Provera and Clomid to trick your cycle into being in sync with his visits home.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Sorry to hear about the m/c Vettechick. I'm sure you will be lucky in the next few months!

AllyandJack - the catheter is breeze, I promise....quit worrying about it!

I have my pineapple packed to go to WDW!

 

[TiggerStac]

We have been TTC #2 for 2.5 years. DS (4.5 years) was concieved on the first try (naturally)and we have been pretty much told that he is a miracle.

I have been going thru infertility treatments for almost 2 years now (since I first met w/RE). We have had 3 IUI's, 1 with no meds, 2 with clomid.

2 IVF's, one I miscarried at 7 weeks (I would be due next week, Memorial Day) and the 2nd, the embryos did not make it to day 3 to complete the transfer.

We decided to try and medically fix the problem, so my DH had surgery in January and now it is time that we can start trying again. My RE still recommends IVF, because the numbers have not improved all that much, but could still continue to improve. If we wanted to try naturally she recommended waiting another year and their is no guarantee that it will improve enough for this. So, I'm just waiting to start my cycle this week, so I can start my meds for round 3.

I had to have my cervix stiched to try and assist in the transfer for the 2nd IVF, and I didn't even have the transfer. I think the hardest thing (other than losing the 1st from IVF) was having to go back to the doctors the day after I was suppose to have the transfer to have the stich removed...having to go thru that and not even have the transfer. They had a hard time during my transfer on IVF #1, because my uterus is basically flat..that is why they have decided to stich from now on.

Hopefully the 3rd time is a charm!!

 

[LisaB]

I have a few issues also that the ob/gyn is working on but she said that I need to have my first by the time I'm 30 or be prepared for complications I

I can't imagine a ob saying something like that like Ally and Jak said whats the big deal with the age 30. I had my first at 31 and two friends of mine had a girl last year at 40 and 42 with no major complications.

Vettechick I am so sorry about the m/c.

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

My friend sent me this article: http://news.yahoo.com/s/space/20060520/sc_space/dairyproductsmightcausemorehumantwinsShe knows we're getting close to TTC (target start month is currently Aug if we get the go ahead from the dr in July), so she sends these things on to me. She got preg the first month she was off BC. Sigh. I dream of that for us, but I strongly suspect we'll have troubles. DH has health issues that could affect our chances.

Anyway, just thought I'd pass this on as something of interest to all of us TTC (or getting close to TTC)!

 

[mickeyboat]

Good morning everyone. Just dropping in to say hello and to send lots of to all of you.

Denae

 

[KimR]

oh, I'm so sorry vettechick. It is common though to have to take a month off after a miscarriage. You know, sometimes I wonder if these super-sensitive HPTs are a blessing or a curse. On the one hand, it's nice to know early but then again, early miscarriages are so common that it often results in a lot of disappointment and heartache as well.

 

[2bemarried]

Vettechick I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I agree with the other ladies in taking a month off is more of an emotional break versus physical.

 

[AllyandJack]

tiggersmom, I can't help it. After everything I've had done to me....dye shot through my tubes, needles rammed through me and into my ovaries, a variety of catheters shoved there.....I just can't get over the catheter in the bladder. It bothers me. But, if I'm numb when they put it in and numb when they take it out, I might be OK. Although, it seriously makes me want to suffer instead of getting an epidural. "No! I'll take the pain! No catheters!!!" Good luck with the pineapple. The people at Hannaford's must think DH is nuts going in and buying loads of pineapple.

TiggerStac, I sent you a PM back.

IMarriedGrumpy, that's an interesting article. I also assumed we'd have problems. I have no idea why.....I just assumed because I seem to have a dark cloud following me everywhere I go. I thought it would be ME, but it ended up being DH. Luckily, there are so many ways around male factor infertility. If you have good eggs and there are some sperm somewhere, there are always options.


I'm getting really annoyed with Blue Cross. I am 3 days away from telling them to go rot, taking some Clomid, and going back to IUIs. DH was on Clomid and it REALLY helped, but we were already knee deep in the IVF and I was sick of messing around. Now, I'm equally sick of messing around with IVF and willing to drop back down to IUIs because they don't require pre-approval.

 

[helenabear]

Kim and Vettechick My heart goes out to you both.

Kristy, good luck with the biopsy for your DH. I do hope something for y'all will work soon!!!

Welcome Tina no clue why your ob/gyn would say something like that though. I'm 29 (was 28 when I saw mine last) and she said to me to take my daily vitamin and I am golden. Of course I have no other really big health isues either. Not sure if you do that would make a difference... otherwise I am confused too!

TiggerStac, I do hope that the third time will be the charm for you!

Carla, I wish you didn't have to deal with all that with the silly insurance. And I do hope the catheter won't be as bad as you expect it!

Now I am off to read that article

 

[DMickey28]

VetteChick ~ I haven't read past your thread. I am so sorry. You and I must be on the same cycle! I had my BFP from Monday of last week until Thursday. I had an early miscarriage that started late Saturday night, three days after regular AF was supposed to start. Horrible cramps...

I am very sorry. It's very hard and it is heartbreaking...

 

[beckmrk04]

Hi everyone!! Just got back from visiting Mickey Mouse!!

I see we have had some sad news. Hugs to all of you!

I have a little good news- I ovulated! I am now about 10 dpo. But, I just don't think it happened. And honestly, I won't be horribly disappointed- after having my 3 and 5 yr old nieces at WDW for a week, I could use a break.

But, we'll see what happens. Still not sure when to expect AF since I am only on cycle #2, and my firts cycle was irregular, but my temps ARE elevated, so I'll just keep watch.

How long should I wait to test?

 

[beckmrk04]

Well, I tested this morning. BFN. But, since it's only 10 dpo, I'm not shocked. And I still don't think it happened this month, but I am still excited that my temps are up! Yea! My plumbing seems to be working.

Sunday is my birthday, and I'll be 13 dpo. I may test again then if I haven't got AF already. It would be a neat birthday present!

PS- I'll do a new QOTD tomorrow!

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Vettechick - I'm so sorry. But you're right that at least you now know that it can happen.

Tina - why is your OB/GYN concerned about problems after age 30? Mine told me to be concerned after age 35, only because of the increased risk of Down's Syndrome.

It stinks that so many of us are BFN at the same time. Maybe it means that next month we'll all be BFP? I'm still one of the "glass is half full" people

I had my appointment with my OB/GYN today. He wants to do another month with Clomid and Glucophage, and do an HSG next week. Are they really painful? He wanted to do IUI this month, but with DH and my schedules, it wouldn't work this month. I'd be due for the US and HCG on a Saturday, and the IUI on a Sunday (if they use cd14 as the day for the US). DH and I both have to work Monday and Tuesday, so postponing it a few days doesn't work either. So I have my fingers crossed that the HSG is ok and that it doesn't tell me anything that needs following up on.

Good luck everybody... + pregnancy tests all around!

Jen

 

[AllyandJack]

I definitely think it's too early to test.....even though you can't help yourself. That would be an awesome b-day present! Birthday BFP.....I like the sound of that.

I finally heard from my RE. I'm supposed to start my Lupron tonight. Umm...one problem. I tossed all of my meds out of rage. Plus, I haven't gotten anything from Blue Cross, so I want DH to call them and confirm over the phone before I do anything. If they say I'm all set, I'll have DH call Freedom Drug and then drive there to pick up the stuff. I am not ready. I am in such a bad state emotionally and physically, but Blue Cross gave me a time limit and it's not generous at all. So, I guess I dive back in against my will. I have to get myself together because I don't want to make myself hostile for my little embryos.