Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[CheshireVal]

Hello everyone!

I'm on my second month off BCP. I'm not charting, but I feel like this is the time when I'd normally be ovulating, and I've had some small cramps that seem to indicate it's that time. However, my mom has been in town staying with us for the past few days, so DH and I haven't really been able to do anything about it. Talk about bad timing!

Oh well. Since I work in a school, I'm hoping it will happen in the next month or two, so that it can coincide with summer break next year. This month might have been a little too early. If only it were so easy to plan, though!

 

[Gurgi]

You know, Skuttle...SOMEONE made a post yesterday that really ticked me off. I'm sure you know WHO I'm talking about How insensitive!!

Anyways...I'm very crampy today, and I'm not sure why. I'm looking forward to my appt this Wednesday for all of these unknown ailments that I'm having

Shari...you never know, it could still be implantation bleeding!

Nicole...WE WANNA SEE U/S PICS!

 

[skuttle]

You know, Skuttle...SOMEONE made a post yesterday that really ticked me off. I'm sure you know WHO I'm talking about How insensitive!!

So DH just told me that his principal gave the okay for the band's WDW trip next year! Woo Hoo! So that means we'll be going back to WDW for Mardi Gras (Early Feb next year). My DH is a music teacher at a high school in case some of you didn't know that. Of course, we'll be with a bunch of high school kids, but that's okay because it'll cost us hardly anything! I asked DH if he wanted to put off TTC due to the trip because if I get pregnant this month, I'll be due in Feb. He said, no because what if this is the month God has planned for us to conceive. He said we'll deal with all of that when it happens. I'm SO glad that was his response! He was going between mardi gras and spring break for the trip, and plans on getting quotes for both...so hopefully things will work out with that!

I'm SO excited about the band trip. It'll only be for 3 full days, but it'll give me a WDW fix and it'll be really cheap! This works out great...every other year we do WDW with the band. And that leaves us every other year to do a family WDW trip...which gives me two years to save so we can always do WDW as a family "right" instead of trying to budget to squeeze in a trip!

 

[helenabear]

Gurgi, I feel like such the fool. I realized that I don't believe I wished you all the best with the job situation. I've been through that and fortunately got a new boss shortly after. I'd cmiserate more but Luis isn't feelin well so I am on my Treo typing. I just didn't want to forget again :y please forgive typos too

 

[Gurgi]

Gurgi, I feel like such the fool. I realized that I don't believe I wished you all the best with the job situation. I've been through that and fortunately got a new boss shortly after. I'd cmiserate more but Luis isn't feelin well so I am on my Treo typing. I just didn't want to forget again :y please forgive typos too

You are such a goober Elaine And I wasn't talking about you

Hehehehee.

 

[helenabear]

lol gurgi, I read your post after... I hoped it wasn't me, but figured I'd pm you tomorrowI was on my way home from my knitting group when it hit me... I have that happen a lot.Not ignoring the rest... I will be back tomorrow

 

[Gurgi]

I'm really crampy today, I don't know what's up. It feels like AF wants to start, but it's still a week and 3 days away. I can't describe just how happy I am to see my doc tomorrow, LOL.

When I went to bed last night the pain in my right side was HORRIBLE! I'm thinking it is a stretched muscle due to me working out now.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Hello girls!

I haven't posted in a bit, but I've been reading.


Gurgi, I hope you feel better.




I just found out that another coworker's wife is pregnant. I am trying to not let it get to me, but it sucks.

 

[helenabear]

Wow, do you all realize how much easier it is typing on a laptop vs a Palm Treo? It was my only way of checking in w/o disturbing Luis. I see I did a bang up job on typos too

Allison, you are a brave woman with the grapefruit juice. I cannot stomach that at all. I wonder if you could mix it with like pineapple and see if it is more tolerable... maybe a splash of grenadine... hmmm... sounds like the makings of a good drink
As for your AF, did you start in on the baby asprin yet? I know my flow changed after I did that as well.
Oh and a HUGE woo hoo on the WDW trip! I love the way your DH thinks about TTC. I think you have a winner there

Val, I can understand about wanting the "timing" right. My good friend who spoke of pregnancy insanity wanted it the same way. She had a similar history to mine though, and will be due in Aug now. She hoped to have more time in teh summer (actually her first pregnancy would've been perfect as she would've been due mid-April) but she is just happy to have the baby now. Good luck with getting the timing right!

A goober? I guess I've been called worse Sorry you are all crampy though Gurgi (btw, I really do love that username). Hopefully your doc can shed some light on all this for you.

 

[helenabear]

I just found out that another coworker's wife is pregnant. I am trying to not let it get to me, but it sucks.

You posted while I was posting... I am so sorry Amber I know that pain well. How are things going with you otherwise? You've been missed (and I still love your sig pics)

 

[my4kids]

Hello girls!

I haven't posted in a bit, but I've been reading.


Gurgi, I hope you feel better.




I just found out that another coworker's wife is pregnant. I am trying to not let it get to me, but it sucks.

First time poster here, but have been scanning through last several pages. I just had to ask, (and I REALLY don't mean to be insensitive), but why does that suck? I'm sorry, and i really feel for you, but I ask this because when I was pregnant with each one of my kids, when I would tell people, at least one girl would freak out and burst into tears, or run from the room. Although I AM VERY sympathetic to someone having trouble conceiving or carrying a baby (been there myself once) I just don't understand why some people are jealous of anothers good fortune , or are unhappy rather than happy for the other person. How does someone elses pregnancy affect you?

I hope for your sake, that when you do get pregnant and you are overjoyed , and excited to share your news, that someone you tell doesn't think it sucks. I can't tell you how hurtful it is to be crushed and have your happiness ruined by a family member who bursts out in tears and runs from the room when you announce your news, or to have a sister in law that won't even visit you or your baby because "it would be to hard on her".

I just will never understand how someones happiness could make someone else miserable. Someone else having a baby is not what is keeping another from having one. Theere should be no relation.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Elaine, I am doing ok. Waiting for AF now, but other than that no news.


my4kids, It hurts to be surrounded by pregnant people, when I have been trying without success. I never let them know that I am sad (no one at work knows I am even trying). I don't go running from the room, nor do I burst into tears. Instead, I smile, congratulate them, then come here to vent. I am happy for other people, but it still doesn't mean that I don't get sad and wonder when my time will come. It's hard to be around pregnant people (at times) because it just reminds me that I am not yet pregnant. I still enjoy being around my friends' children; I don't avoid them at all.

 

[helenabear]

No offense my4kids, but have you gone through the troubles of infertility or pregnancy loss yet?

Even my really good friend, Rene (the currently pregnant friend I speak of most here) told me she was pregnant, she knew it hurt and she understood. When you feel like you are the world's biggest failure because you cannot produce a child on your own, hearing about pregnancy is just a slap in the face telling you that you are inadequate for motherhood. At least that is exactly how I felt. I was a failure and nothing could change that.

Granted after my miscarriage this past fall I finally found peace with everything. Amazing after nearly a year of TTC and losing a baby at 11 weeks was what it took for me to find it. I still understand and can feel for these people.

It's not that I didn't want others to have joy of motherhood, I just felt horrible because it was never me finding that joy.

I doubt any one of us has ever said to the other "you suck" We just feel like we suck. No one here I know is that cruel to say it otherwise.

But when Rene told me, she knew it would hurt and knew it would make me cry because it wasn't me. Sadly she lost that baby and is now pregnant again. Of course the second time I cried out of joy. She and I have talked about this a lot.

And I can tell you for sure, I don't like making a big deal out of being pregnant currently here. It isn't fair to everyone else struggling. I know people are happy for me, but I know the personal pain it can cause as well. I try to be sensitive to both sides of it now.

I'm sorry if I sound mean, but this isn't the first post in the last week that hit me as being insensitive to those. We have ladies here who have been at it YEARS for TTC. Can you imagine the pain and emotional rollercoasters many of these ladies have been through?

Stepping off my soapbox now...

 

[mickeyboat]

I just will never understand how someones happiness could make someone else miserable.

It just does. Emotions and feelings are not logical, and are hard to understand or explain. They are by their very nature illogical. Someone who has never experienced infertility cannot comprehend what it is like for those of us who do. And part of the difficulty is exactly the mixed emotions - we want to be happy for those around us, but at the same time, we mourn what is out of our reach. It seems like EVERYONE else in the world can get pregnant but you - that is what sucks.

Also difficult are the clods who have absolutely no sensitivity for those of us who have trouble getting pregnant. When my SIL announced her pregnancy, she knew DH and I were trying, but having trouble. She handed me her leftover pregnancy tests and said "here, you can have these, I won't be needing them anymore."

I don't think we have a bunch of jealous, insensitive women here who can't appreciate someone else's happiness.

I hope this helps you understand.

 

[CheshireVal]

First time poster here, but have been scanning through last several pages. I just had to ask, (and I REALLY don't mean to be insensitive), but why does that suck? I'm sorry, and i really feel for you, but I ask this because when I was pregnant with each one of my kids, when I would tell people, at least one girl would freak out and burst into tears, or run from the room. Although I AM VERY sympathetic to someone having trouble conceiving or carrying a baby (been there myself once) I just don't understand why some people are jealous of anothers good fortune , or are unhappy rather than happy for the other person. How does someone elses pregnancy affect you?

I hope for your sake, that when you do get pregnant and you are overjoyed , and excited to share your news, that someone you tell doesn't think it sucks. I can't tell you how hurtful it is to be crushed and have your happiness ruined by a family member who bursts out in tears and runs from the room when you announce your news, or to have a sister in law that won't even visit you or your baby because "it would be to hard on her".

I just will never understand how someones happiness could make someone else miserable. Someone else having a baby is not what is keeping another from having one. Theere should be no relation.

I agree with you on a certain level..... I think it would be pretty rude to tell a woman to her face "that sucks" if she announced she's pregnant. And I can't imagine screaming and running out of the room.

But it's another thing to talk about it "behind her back" to people who know where you're coming from.

It's like how I complain to my husband about how it sucks when my co-workers or friends get to go to Disney World this year and we probably won't be able to afford a trip anytime soon. I don't begrudge others their trips, but it sure would be nice to be able to go too!

 

[helenabear]

Amber my fingers are crossed for you.

I said this to someone in a PM today. I really just wanted you to know even if I don't post for a few days or something I do think of you often and keep you in my prayers (hope that doesn't offend those who don't believe in it ). I really do always want to wish you all the best and I really hope we have another string of BFP here soon. While I hope this thread can keep going, I'd rather see everyone pregnant soon

 

[mickeyboat]

Amber my fingers are crossed for you.

I said this to someone in a PM today. I really just wanted you to know even if I don't post for a few days or something I do think of you often and keep you in my prayers (hope that doesn't offend those who don't believe in it ). I really do always want to wish you all the best and I really hope we have another string of BFP here soon. While I hope this thread can keep going, I'd rather see everyone pregnant soon

Yeah, but I will still be here, the freak of us all!

And I agree, it is time for another string of BFP's!

Gurgi - I hope I am not the poster making you mad

 

[helenabear]

LOL, Denae, I doubt you all could get rid of me either. I like it here

Who cares if we are filled with freaks and goobers (sorry Gurgi, that is the first time I had heard that word in ages... it makes me laugh)!

 

[LisaB]

I just realizied that this post just celebrted its year anniversary. Yeah

Not meaning to gang up on you 4kids but if you haven't walked a mile in my shoes you will never know what it is like to go through infertility. Many of us here have gone through surgery and meds to have our first kid never mind the ones like me who are experericing secondary infertilty with no cause. I really think it was insensitive of you to come on this board and post why you can't understand why another person who is announcing they are pregnant when you are trying so hard makes some of us upset.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Elaine and Denae, I don't think any of us want you to leave. You both are so supportive.


For some reason, hearing about someone from here getting pregnant doesn't bother me (I guess it gives me a little hope).