Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[Stepharoonie!]

Well, the fat lady sang nice and loud this morning...so this wait is over. I started my new job today, so it was so much fun to be cramping and bloated and having to run to the bathroom constantly. Tomorrow will be much, much worse...never could figure out why day 2 was worse than day 1.

This month, I'm tackling the hubby every spare second I get during my O period...

 

[exwdwcm]

Well, the fat lady sang nice and loud this morning...so this wait is over. I started my new job today, so it was so much fun to be cramping and bloated and having to run to the bathroom constantly. Tomorrow will be much, much worse...never could figure out why day 2 was worse than day 1.

This month, I'm tackling the hubby every spare second I get during my O period...

sorry the old witch showed up. but best of luck with the new job!

i am moving to a different building today.....so gotta pack up my office. i am so ready for a new office. i work for a defense contractor and currently am officed in the plant area. it's an office area per say, but in an old semiconductor building and i've had to share a cube w/ an intern. i've been in the business for over 10 years and have always had my own office, so this was hard sharing! but today i get my own window office again, i can't wait! i am going to decorate with all my disney 'crap' and some holiday decorations!

 

[mickeybar]

Hi everyone!

Well, I just had my first u/s and everything looked great! Woo hoooo! I am now 7 weeks, a few days earlier than I thought. I was really, really nervous because the nurse that did the u/s was the same nurse that I had for my u/s when I had my m/c, and in the very same room! She was really nice though, so that made it much better. It was very painful because they do the u/s ******lly till you are past 10 weeks, so I hope I won't have to have another one like that this pregnancy. My cervix is a little tilted so it makes it much more painful.

Anyway, hope everyone is well. I guess I should hop over to the new Mommy to be thread, but I just feel so comfortable here! I hope you don't all mind. I will head over there soon...I promise!

 

[helenabear]

Stephanie, I am so sorry to hear that the old hag showed up... I would imagine the stress from your job could have made her late. Sucks you had to deal with that though... and for me 2nd day is the worst for me as well

Woo hoo on moving today Michelle! I hope you enjoy your new office and your own personal space! I'd hate having to share (I'd rather my own teeny cube than share!)

So glad to hear that the u/s went well! I will keep hoping for good things for you with this pregnancy. Sorry that the u/s was a bit painful for you though. Fortunately I think for most (unfortunate for you) the trans vag. ones usually aren't painful at all (neither of my two were!). You'd probably hate it at my place as my doctor does transvag up until the first trimester though
As for that new mommy thread... I never did make it over there. I just liked it here better and was so glad I had the support of y'all!

 

[AllyandJack]

Hi, everyone....I know, it's been a long, long time. I just needed a break from everything - it was obvious that I was hyper-sensitive to certain things being said (even though I still maintain that it was hard to tell the OP's intent).

Anyway, enough of that....

Elaine, I am so sorry about your m/c. I had no idea. I wanted to come in and check on everyone because you all have been so important to me and I was hoping so much for good news from everyone. I guess I just took it as a given that things were OK. I am so, so sorry.

I've been pretty sick the last few weeks. It's definitely not as bad as Becky, but I've been more or less trapped in the house because I can't eat and any sort of smell triggers a bad session of gagging uncontrollably. I found a great high-risk OB. I've had an EKG and and Echo done because I've had high BP. I had my NT Scan done and it looked great. I'm having horrendous back pains, which makes no sense because I'm down about 10lbs since the BFP. I'm off all the medication, except the baby aspirin and the folic acid supplements (choking 5 of those things down every day is NOT fun!). Even though I'm miserable, the baby doesn't seem to notice. So, that's good. I'll take all the discomfort as long as the baby is oblivious and yesterday he/she didn't seem to care because he/she was flipping all over the place and punching it's little fists trying to get the woman to back off with the u/s wand.

I have to say, I'm so happy to see this thread still going strong and on the 1st page. It's been such a wonderful place to be for support and information and venting!). I hope it brings all of you the luck it's brought a lot of us.

 

[mickeybar]

Welcome back Carla! You have really been missed around here! Glad you are back.

Helenabear-I don't recall my other 5 vag. u/s being as painful as they were today, but still not fun. Maybe it's my tilted cervix and todays extreme nervousness? I am still a little sore. She just said she really needed to check everything out so she was really moving it around a lot. Ouch! I even checked my underwear when I got home to check for bleeding it hurt so much! It was all worth it though!

 

[helenabear]

Carla, welcome back!!!!!! I am so glad to see you are here again. I was seriously worried about you. And trust me, the doctor did not expect to see nothing when I went in for my u/s on the 16th. Once you see a heartbeat that strong (134) at that stage, a miscarriage is down to about 5%. I had a horrid feeling myself, but I was never 100% comfortable with the pregnancy from the start. I was planning to tell everyone that weekend though. I guess it saved me some pain of having to untell.
I am so sorry you are that sick though. I hope that will pass for you soon! I got lucky with that and as long as I ate starchy food every 4 hours or so I never felt too bad.

Mickeybar, I hope that if you ever have to have that done again, it won't hurt so much. I know when I am more tense the exams in general hurt me more. I really do hope that everything goes well for you this time. I admit I can't stop smiling when I see the ticker in your sig

Of course that is true for everyone. I have to admit, I get a lot more happy about seeing people pregnant now than I did before. Trust me, it is nice to have peace with that

 

[kellyf2626]

So I called Bedford Commons yesterday and switched over to their practice. The woman was extremely nice on the phone, which made me feel comfortable. They made my first appointment for 12/26. I am really excited, but still very cautious and nervous. I thought DH was going to kill me last night - I am TERRIFIED to have sex! I know I shouldn't be, but I feel like I will shake the baby loose. I know...I know....crazy talk. But, I am still nervous about the whole thing, and unsure of what feels normal and not normal. I have been really crampy lately - just a dull, constant pulling feeling in my abdomen. Hopefully this is normal!

And yes, I am still lingering here b/c you all really did make me feel so supported over the last few months. And, I like to check in and see how everyone is doing. Carla - good to see you back. We missed you!!

 

[AllyandJack]

Kelly, did you ever call that Montanarella practice? I met with them and they were so nice. Then, they spring on me how there is no doctor at the delivery - only a midwife. I said I don't want a midwife, I want a doctor. There. At. The. Hospital. Nope. Apparently, they only call the doctor to the hospital if there is an emergency (which would mean a delay during an emergency). So, I switched to Bedford Women's Care and I adore them. Then, they stalked me. Called all the time. DH talked to them and explained why I didn't want a midwife. They still called me. I refused to answer the phone. A few weeks went by and I get a call. It says "private". So, I answer. Big mistake. It was someone from there and her first question was, "Did you get any of my messages?" Excuse me?!? I lied and said I was out of town. She was begging me to come back like some stalker ex-boyfiend. "We can handle all of your needs. Really, we can. Whatever you want, we can do. If you change your mind, we'll always be here for you." OK...psychos.

I'm still cramping. Definitely not as much, but it's still there now and then. It doesn't seem to be bugging The Egglet, so I just put up with it. The shooting pain in the crotch was a different story! That sent me to the OB yesterday, but they did a u/s and my cervix was nice and long and closed, so I guess it's going to be a normal occurrence (talk about not wanting to have sex...I feel like the baby has a knife and is trying to slice its way out of me - at least it seems to know the general direction to the Exit).

 

[kellyf2626]

Kelly, did you ever call that Montanarella practice? I met with them and they were so nice. Then, they spring on me how there is no doctor at the delivery - only a midwife. I said I don't want a midwife, I want a doctor. There. At. The. Hospital. Nope. Apparently, they only call the doctor to the hospital if there is an emergency (which would mean a delay during an emergency). So, I switched to Bedford Women's Care and I adore them. Then, they stalked me. Called all the time. DH talked to them and explained why I didn't want a midwife. They still called me. I refused to answer the phone. A few weeks went by and I get a call. It says "private". So, I answer. Big mistake. It was someone from there and her first question was, "Did you get any of my messages?" Excuse me?!? I lied and said I was out of town. She was begging me to come back like some stalker ex-boyfiend. "We can handle all of your needs. Really, we can. Whatever you want, we can do. If you change your mind, we'll always be here for you." OK...psychos.

OMIGOD...that is crazy?!?!? My friend who goes there does see a midwife, but said that there were doctors there too. Odd that the doctors won't go to the delivery?? I am SO GLAD that I decided to give Bedford Commons another shot!! I definetly want a doctor at my delivery!! I contemplated calling Elliot and asking to speak with a nurse from delivery (they always know the BEST OB's since they work with them all!). But, luckily I spoke to an extremely nice woman at Bedford Commons, so I didn't have to start calling around. Good to know that you are happy with Bedford Womans Care. Sorry to put you through all that....I feel responsible!! If I had only known!!!

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Okay...I'm going to be honest.

I'm really pissed, and I'm just not sure where to put those emotions.

See, my husband and I tried from November to July to get pregnant...finally did, then miscarried in September. I figured that getting pregnant right away would be easy, because it seems most everything that I've read, it's easy. But it was a no go.

I just don't understand how I was able to have my daughter with my ex, but I can't with my husband. It makes me angry, depressed, worried...is it me? Is it him? Are we just not meant to have any other kids? Siiiiigh...

 

[lil mermaid]

Okay...I'm going to be honest.

I'm really pissed, and I'm just not sure where to put those emotions.

See, my husband and I tried from November to July to get pregnant...finally did, then miscarried in September. I figured that getting pregnant right away would be easy, because it seems most everything that I've read, it's easy. But it was a no go.

I just don't understand how I was able to have my daughter with my ex, but I can't with my husband. It makes me angry, depressed, worried...is it me? Is it him? Are we just not meant to have any other kids? Siiiiigh...

Stephanie,

I can understand why you feel the way that you do. But you have to remember that the odds are OVERWHEMINGLY in your favor that you will get pregnant, never miscarry again, and have as many babies as you want. It might seem hard to believe, but it is true

 

[lil mermaid]

I haven't been posting, but I have been checking every now and then to see how y'all are doing.

Congrats to all the BFP's!

For all those who got AF - I am sorry the old hag showed up. I hope you have better luck next time.

Carla, it is great to see you back. I hope you start feeling better soon. According to your ticker, it appears that you are out of the first trimester

Michelle, I hope that you have some good luck soon. You guys will get your baby, I know it I am so sorry for you what you have been through.

We found out last week that this little peanut is a boy. At first, I was really surprised - I mean, I just assumed that it would be another girl (not sure why??) But now I am very excited.

Laurel

 

[helenabear]

I can understand why you feel the way that you do. But you have to remember that the odds are OVERWHEMINGLY in your favor that you will get pregnant, never miscarry again, and have as many babies as you want. It might seem hard to believe, but it is true

This needs to be quoted again... if anything to let myself know again that the fears I have are probably not founded.

Steph, in all honesty I can completely understand how you feel. We tried from December to September and then lost the baby a few weeks back. Granted we never thought it was going to be easy to get pregnant, but I suppose I never thought before that if I got pregnant I would miscarry. Even after a friend of mine *just* went through it about the same time as you. She hadn't been trying quite as long as you, but the timing was pretty much identical to yours.
Keep telling yourself, you got pregnant, and as said above, you will most likely get pregnant again! There is probably nothing wrong with you or your DH. I can tell you that the first thing my doctor told me was that since we are both young and healthy there is nothing to worry about. Keep telling yourself that. I was beginning to feel like a failure before I found out I was pregnant, but at least now I know it isn't me. Some things are just unexplainable and out of our hands. I am a HUGE believer in fate... your time will come

Wow, Carla! OMG, I cannot believe they were like that!! Oh freaky scary!!! I wouldn't want a midwife either! I am very happy with my place because there are 8 doctors in the practice so no matter what a doctor that has full access to my records easily too, will be at my delivery. I wouldn't be happy with a midwife only, save an emergency at all!!!!!

Kellyf, I admit I love seeing those who have gotten pregnant post too. I've gotten great support and insight from those who are going through it all here too. Somehow I feel a good bond with so many here!

Laurel, congrats on the boy I can imagine it would be a shock to be told one sex when you assumed the other!

I don't want to be little ray of sunshine here, but something just hit me tonight... I'm actually looking forward to AF coming. For once it means to me that I just get to try again! This has only come after a few days of feeling really down about everything. I admit, I am never mad about it, I am just so sad at times. I get scared now and then too thinking if this happens again, it will suck so much more out of me than I have left. Two days ago, I told Luis that I would never want to try again. It scares me so much at times. But then going back to the beginning of the post, I realize the chances of anything going wrong again is slim to none. And if I sit back and let life take its own course I will wind up with a baby

Rambles I know... Luis is out of town tonight (unexpected, but an upgrade in the N. part of the state took longer than expected and he has to finish tomorrow) so I am kind of being pathetic

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Hi all! I'm having weird internet issues tonight (crazy home wireless network competitions with the neighbors' wireless networks...) so I can't write for long, but I just wanted to stop in to say hi, send some baby dust out to the group , and say welcome back, Carla! I'm glad to see you back and hear things are going well with your pregnancy!

I think of all of you every time I take my temp in the morning.

 

[ashjohnson80]

hey guys, just checking in. Steph-

I'm 4dpo. Now for two very long weeks. I just hope I can keep myself from going to the dollar tree again.

 

[CindyBeth]

I never realized how long two weeks can actually be!!! I am at 12 dpo and it is soooo dragging along! I have been having some cramping but no AF yet and when I test, I get BFN So I'm just waiting....

 

[ashjohnson80]

we timed everything perfectly this time, used preseed, i've been temping every day, but i still don't have a good feeling about it.

 

[skuttle]

Carla! So glad to hear from you!! How strange about that OB practice. I've never heard of such stalking before. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly.

Steph. I'm so sorry. I understand the anger, I really do.

You see all of these young girls getting pregnant without meaning to and think it must be easy to get pregnant. And then it just doesn't work out that way.

I don't even remember what CD I'm on. Once I realized that according to FF we didn't BD on the right days, I guess I gave up. I even forgot to temp this morning. *sigh* I struggle with the sadness as well. I try not to let it get to me, because then it upsets DH because he thinks when I feel sad about not getting pregnant it means I'm unhappy with our life now (with DH and DS). That is SO not it, and I try my best to explain it, but I can't. DH is always the optimist and thinks it'll happen when it happens and all we can do is keep trying. I, on the other hand, panic when I think that I've been off BCP since June and still nothing!

Now I'm just ready for AF to arrive, get that mess over with, and start trying again! I just hope I don't O at WDW in January...I haven't looked at the calendar yet.

 

[helenabear]

Good luck with the internet issues! We had some for a while and then I put all the ones in the neighborhood on ignore and we upped our security settings on ours. Wireless isn't fun sometimes

I meant to mention yesterday about the cramping. I never thought that was normal with pregnancy (I mean who would think?) but my doctor assured me that was totally normal. I was even feeling the tugs (they were usually lower) the day I went into the D&C. I also got some of those sharp pains near the cervix as well. Luis would look at me at times and feel sorry for me. They were at least quick to go away! Not sure which was worse, 2 days of intense AF cramps or weeks on end of super sharp pains and pulls!

I hope those in the 2ww can keep busy! Waiting is always the hard part.

Skuttle, I totally know what you mean about being sad. I had that with Luis, and he finally got it when I said I wasn't happy with me. Every time now I say I am upset or sad, I quickly follow it with "but being with you makes me feel so much better" (or the like) It's the truth and it seems to reassure him more. I wouldn't worry about being off BCP since June... I remember hearing it can take up to 6 months for the body to be regulated and back to "normal" after quitting. Plus, most people take about 6-12 months on average to get pregnant. That came straight from the doctor's mouth I know it doesn't help to hear it, but I figured I would try anyway.
Sorry you think this month is a bust for you... and I know you have a DS with you but maybe you can get a little souvenir from WDW

Very tired today since I never sleep well while my husband is out of town. I have lots of work to do at the church for Christmas, though, so I might get that done quickly in case I crash this afternoon