Any ideas what to say when friend goes off on my spending habits?

[NHdisneylover]

Okay, so if she is asking the cost I think I would just laugh it off and answer--"probably more than you would spend" or "more than you would manage to get it for" and the never really answer.
With the clothing comment I think she has other issues too though Gracious I am not sure I would want to be out with her.

I just have to ask...why do you often post something and then delete it? I've seen you do this several times.

THANK YOU for posting this. I keep seeing this and thinking, nah I must be remembering wrong but I would wear this same poster has done this over and over lately. Maybe I am not crazy after all.
Edited to add: now i got curious and clicked on her username and searched all posts. Only 3 that Cooky has ever posted have not been edited by her afterwards into just a period or something. Cooky, seriously why bother posting if you are going to remove what you say almost right away? I am truly very curious about this. I see the post you originally had on this thread (as quoted by Scurvy). It was a well though out and nice response. Why get rid of it after you took the time to write it? OP--sorry to high-jack your thread, back to the business of talking about nosey/rude acquaintances.

 

[Traveliz]

Okay, so if she is asking the cost I think I would just laugh it off and answer--"probably more than you would spend" or "more than you would manage to get it for" and the never really answer.
With the clothing comment I think she has other issues too though Gracious I am not sure I would want to be out with her.

THANK YOU for posting this. I keep seeing this and thinking, nah I must be remembering wrong but I would wear this same poster has done this over and over lately. Maybe I am not crazy after all.
Edited to add: now i got curious and clicked on her username and searched all posts. Only 3 that Cooky has ever posted have not been edited by her afterwards into just a period or something. Cooky, seriously why bother posting if you are going to remove what you say almost right away? I am truly very curious about this. I see the post you originally had on this thread (as quoted by Scurvy). It was a well though out and nice response. Why get rid of it after you took the time to write it? OP--sorry to high-jack your thread, back to the business of talking about nosey/rude acquaintances.

Ok don't know Cooky and have seen that as well and agree with it as being different to edit everything down to a period but I had to laugh at your last sentence (and seriously no offense to you!) but really I suppose it is a bit nosy of us to want to know why Cooky always does that! I hope you see the humor in my comment as well.

Liz

 

[NHdisneylover]

Ok don't know Cooky and have seen that as well and agree with it as being different to edit everything down to a period but I had to laugh at your last sentence (and seriously no offense to you!) but really I suppose it is a bit nosy of us to want to know why Cooky always does that! I hope you see the humor in my comment as well.

Liz

yeah I guess I can see the irony there

 

[cm8]

I just have to ask...why do you often post something and then delete it? I've seen you do this several times.

Because as a newbie, she might feel that she will be awarded points or ganged up on by other posters . She also might not feel right posting on topics that are getting heated? Either way, Welcome to the DIS cooky !

 

[Piglet4Ever]

Friend or not I would simply tell them to mind their own business.

 

[PaulaSB12]

I am in the camp that no matter how much money you make you should always "worry" about money, meaning you are maxing our your retirement savings plans, have at least a year's worth of ready cash for emergencies and have no debt beyond a mortgage and even that should be reasonable. We operate on the "just because you can doesn't mean you should" principle. Now, that doesn't mean you can't buy nice things and treat friends to things as well but until you are financially secure that means you shouldn't waste money.

Now, having someone constantly remind you of that does get old. I had a friend that always commented on my purchase--which really were not out of line. We went shopping for some dress clothes for an office function I had to attend with my DH-it was a week long conference type deal--and I had nothing but "mom" clothes. I bought a couple suits and a formal dress--all needed and all bought on clearance. She commented on that. I didn't however remind her that her DH worked for my DH and knowing what he made and knowing that she spend at least $350 month in scrapbooking items was no where near what I was spending on clothes I HAD to have .

Best answer when you pay my bills you can tell me how to spend my money.

 

[Gigi22]

What would I say to her? "There's a fine line between being thrifty and being cheap."