Thanks!
***I wrote the saga below last night. It's long and boring and very likely confusing. I seemed to be channeling some annoying novelist who doesn't use proper punctuation or something. I'm posting it b/c I like to be true to myself and my feelings, but it's very likely it will just bore your pants off (so don't read it while at work!).***
Oh what a day. The MIL called last night, she needs to get her, her words, "medicine" this weekend,
can we add her to our Costco account so that she can get it, etc etc.
OMG of course, what's the matter, is BIL's partner not taking her anymore (which led to hopes that BIL has dropped his sorry, loser, leaving after stealing tens of thousands from the family, butt),
of course we'll see if we can. To each other, of course....
Oh I don't think we can, Robert, but it's OK, we'll just BUY her a membership it's NO problem let's do this.
(after all I just gave the same amount to a total stranger after reading about a family's tragic sad horrible loss (little baby in stroller in southern CA on visit from Australia got hit, while being pushed across a street, by a stopped car that was PUSHED by a car behind it who didn't realize there were pedestrians...baby died)... I cried all night after reading about it and *had to* donate money to the family to offset their costs)
Plus, we realized we needed to get up to Ikea to get a shelf thingie (4x2 Expedit) for E's homeschool stuff, and taking MIL to Costco was halfway there...win win!
We get up there...nope,
she can't be added to your Gold Star Costco membership (though I supposed we could have dropped hubby and added her, but that might have been weird), so,
no problem, here's your new membership, we'll keep renewing it, no problem, you're on a fixed income and we are happy to help, please, it's fine.
Everyone needs to do a tiny bit of shopping. So after the shopping is done I go to the pharmacy to wait for them (and see if they have a sharps container for sale for hubby's shot stuff)...they aren't there, they aren't there, they aren't there...I hear them in the aisle nearby, hey, I'm waiting for you... MIL:
why is she waiting, where is she waiting? Hubby:
at pharmacy, for your medicine, of course.
Oh no, she wanted to get flax seed oil capsules with something else included...because that's the medicine. OK I have NO problems with this, in theory! Vitamins are very important for many people, it's all chemical compounds that affect the body, I'm all over supplements for others (I have never much gotten into them for myself, but I support them all the way!). But...to call at 8pm talking about how you have to have your medicine the next day...and when I asked so hubby asked if they have it there for her (wondering how she got the prescription filled without a membership) ALL she does is say oh yes, yes it's there.... That, my friends, is manipulation. And that is not, so much, appreciated.
What's worse? 2 of the 3 bottles are being sent to Robert's uncle in Korea. OK again, I have NO problem with her buying him those things (I am certain he pays her back, he is always making "orders" from Korea and I know he overpays her for the items, since she worked her rear off to put him, her baby brother, through college and he feels he still owes her)...but...she didn't *say* that.
So she buys R and E pizza at the food area, and buys sodas all around (dude, have you NOT been paying attention? I'm just lucky she didn't get pepperoni!)...she takes a cup and gets diet, E takes a cup and gets water, I decide to live dangerously and get a pepsi (I'm not eating as I have other plans for food, and I end up with a NASTY headache after having the pepsi)... I happen to mention we're going to Ikea, and she nearly jumps out of her seat she's so happy...she wants to go, obviously, so I invite her. Yay she is happy, and she's so rarely happy I want to make it continue, so it's all good.
Well by the time we get there it was after 5 and I haven't eaten more than a granola bar since breakfast, and there was an hour's workout in between. R and E get uber-cranky when they miss meals, but with me I just get more and more intense and kinda scarily quiet, I think maybe I just try to conserve energy or something. And when I'm around other people I like to pretend like I'm never hungry, especially if they are skinny people that I'm embarrassed around...she has gotten on my case since the second time she met me about my weight ("ooh you so fat, how you get so fat, you vegetarian, how you gain weight?" I quote, exactly, the conversation...by the way, I was *maybe* a muscular size 12 during that convo, which looks not horrible on me (8, 6, even 4 I'm sure would be better, and I'm far above even a 12 right now, but still, I didn't look awful at that time)). So I normally am not at all hungry around her.
But by the time we got there....
OK there's a 15 minute wait for the kid's playroom...hubby and MIL you sign E in, you wait with him in line, I am going to the cafeteria, buh bye! I mean, that takes a LOT for me to do, seriously...I was beyond shaking, I was that much in need of food. I finally ate. Whew.
So she bought, basically, what she wanted (simple candles for her chants/prayers), though they recently discontinued *exactly* what she used to get and I had to apologize for her severe annoyance projected to the employee who was helping her (trying to help her), and I found the Expedit shelfie thing.
And then we had the FUN of figuring out if it could even go in the car.

We of course were going to take it out of the box. Of course we'd do a diagonal with the long pieces. Robert heard the length and got a wee bit confuzzled...I said "it's just over 58"", and he said "ooh I don' tknow, I could barely fit a 6 foot xmas tree in the trunk when we bought it at Ikea last year". Took me about 5 minute when I suddenly went "wait a minute...." Dude, 58" is shorter than me. I am not close to 6 feet. I think it'll be OK!
So MIL is worrying, E is having fun, Robert is doubting me...they are shoving the long pieces in any old way...I look at it...pick up the long piece...
has anyone tried it like this? Put the long piece in parallel to the back of the car, it fits, of course, because I could just about lie in the trunk that way, and, remember, the length is shorter than me... I'm the conquering hero, isn't that exciting, I think that E did a fist-pump (learned from Jonas Brothers)...yaaaaay. I remind them that I used to make Ikea runs in my Jetta. Nay, my Bug. And I "made it work".
Dropped off the very very tired MIL (I don't think I ever updated, so go to the ** at the bottom for the update on her heart), got home, the guys had a bit of dinner (I was still full from my marinara on pasta plus salad plus Kozy Shack rice pudding), and I put the shelfie thing together with the assistance of my dudes. Let me tell you, it looks awesome! Got it filled (well, not filled, these are early days) with his homeschool stuff...just perfect, exactly what I imagined, yay!
And now I am beat. Hips hurting and nearly giving out, knees owie, back tight...the physical exertion along with the "why didn't she just SAY she needed the membership for supplements" stuff, etc etc...and I went and forgot to buy the epsom salts at Costco! I coulda taken a lovely muscle-happiness-restoring bath with the help of those salts...sigh.
But E went to bed happy, we did a seriously good deed [MIL is on a very fixed income and I am happy to help her, I just like to know the truth up front and not have her be sneaky...which, by the way, was the CRIME that Robert was always accused of growing up, he's the "sneaky" one, and she told me that the first, no, second time she met me, just so I would know and not "blame" her later when I found it out on my own, so it's just weird each time I catch her being sneaky when Robert's pretty much done with that (and he is SO easy to "catch" in those moments it's not even funny)...but anyway we're happy to help and happy to *be able* to help], R and I watched Jurassic Park 3 (scary! predictable! excellent graphics!)...it's all good, it ended well, etc etc etc....
And now MIL is bragging about me, again, to her friends (though honestly I would have preferred that she keep this quiet, as it will make my BIL and SIL all annoyed because she WILL play them against me UGH), which is better than when she was telling them that I was nearly evil!
Calgon...take me away....
**MIL's gen practitioner had been telling her she had a valve problem for 3 years, was treating, loosely, on this assumption...this started shortly after FIL died (which was a very long story but ultimately he just had the WRONG cardiac and beyond doctors at the WRONG hospital (seriously it had just received a very poor "grade" in cardiac care 3 days before he was transferred there)) and she just didn't trust anyone and refused to find a cardio guy, even though she should have already had one since she had two heart attacks in the year or so before I met DH. OK so I found her one in approx 5 minutes (google search: "her city cardiologist"=boom), he speaks Korean (bonus!), he has room for her nearly instantly and takes Medi-whatsis as FULL payment, all excellent.
Echocardiogram + stress test----she seems to have had a quiet heart attack at some point somewhat recently, and there's a not-small area of infarct, which is why she's suddenly having such problems with being exhausted, out of breath (GP had given her an inhaler, so helpful NOT), etc. She had labwork done to confirm, but hasn't discussed it with us at this point.
But she is definitely more exhausted than I have ever seen her, and she is walking SLOOOOOOWWWWLY, which is NOT her style at all, and she got handicapped parking permits which I can't even imagine she would have done without being very ill...