Am I weird?

[alexandria674]

Then maybe you should cut the cord with your child. The guy is 18 or 19 years. Mommy doesn't have a say in who may find him attractive or what intentions that person may have, by the way I have no intentions. I have small crush on the guy. I'm not planning on hitting on him or engaging him in wild sex. As for other people keeping their children away from me there is no need. I can't stand children and I only interact with the master and the instructors. I spend 2 to 3 days a week watch and talking to these people while I watch my son's class. These people are like family to me. It's a very closed knit community and we don't treat it as a business relationship.

Wait, I'm confused, don't you have kids? I thought one of the requirements of having kids is actually liking them.

 

[chisnpeke]

Wait, I'm confused, don't you have kids? I thought one of the requirements of having kids is actually liking them.

Exactly what I was thinking.

OP has a husband but doesn't appear to want to own up to the commitment. She also has a child and doesn't even like kids.

 

[lillygator]

wild!

 

[NHdisneylover]

. As for other people keeping their children away from me there is no need. I can't stand children and I only interact with the master and the instructors. I spend 2 to 3 days a week watch and talking to these people while I watch my son's class. These people are like family to me. It's a very closed knit community and we don't treat it as a business relationship.

I think that attitude is terribly unfair to your son. If people become nervous about letting their children near you--that means they will keep their children away from your son. HE should not be deprived of friends and social interactions because you "can't stand children."

Personally, IF you are just making minor comments and observations about the young man (as in, this weekend DH made a passing comment that the girl from Waverly Place will be a knock out when she grows up and I agreed and then we moved on--it is not a multi year thing with nickanmes ,etc) AND are doing so NOT in his hearing or that of his friends, family, YOUR son, etc. (basically totally in private so as to not risk embarrassing the teen) AND your marraige is one in which you both feel secure and loved and these types of comments are fine with you both (does not sound like this is the case) AND you have no desire or intention of ever doing anything beyond making the occasional observation in priavte then, no I do not think it is all that weird.

It sounds to me like you are perhaps too open about this, too invovled in thinking about him (you think he has the hots for another mom?!), and really flirting with disaster here. I would not call it weird so much as I would say worriesome. Even more worrisome is the apparent lack of concern you have for the inpact your being vocal about having a crush on this teen will have on your son (both on in how others will react to him becuse of it and in what he is learning about relationships from you).

 

[wdwfan16]

Exactly what I was thinking.

OP has a husband but doesn't appear to want to own up to the commitment. She also has a child and doesn't even like kids.

SO I guess we cannot trust any commitment that she makes. She is commited to not having wild sex with the 18 year old.

 

[snapppyd]

The fact that the OP came here to ask for opinions proves, in my mind, that she knows something is wrong here. Now she is defending herself, trying to justify it in her own mind?

 

[snapppyd]

I have no problem coming back and posting on this thread. All I asked was if it was weird. I never asked you people for advice on my marriage. This guy has been my son's instructor for 3.5 years. I never said I thought he was hot the whole time. He's always been a sweet and respectful guy the entire time I've known him. He's grown up alot. He's a very handsome guy. And he's legal. My DH is fine with the fact I have a little crush on Patrick. He's got a crush on one of the female instructors. It's not like I'm planning on running off to Mexico with him.

You have got to be kidding, right???? You post something so wildly inappropriate and then get on your high horse when people make comments about it? I think you need a psychiatrist, not a chat room.

 

[crashbb]

Exactly what I was thinking.

OP has a husband but doesn't appear to want to own up to the commitment. She also has a child and doesn't even like kids.

Actually, I think she two kids. Vague memories about a thread where she was asking about leaving one of the kids at home while she took the older one to WDW (may be someone with a similar name though).

 

[just4today]

I have a feeling this thread will be locked soon.

OP - I don't think it's weird to have occasional thoughts about another guy, even a young one like that. The fact that you have the nickname for him and are wondering about him having the "hots" for another of the moms there means you're giving more thought to him than is appropriate. Considering the recent troubles in your marriage, you should ask yourself why you're devoting all that mental energy to another man, even one that is safely out of reach (so you say), instead of focusing on your husband and repairing your marriage.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Since it is mentioned that you are bi-polar and have had an affair in which your DH is giving you a chance to make your marriage work, please take you own posting seriously.

I am hoping that your meds are prescribed by a psychiatrist and not a general doctor. If you do not have a psych doc, I encourage you to get one and sort out your thoughts. Maybe you need a med adjustment?

It is pretty clear with your postings that you are one toe into perhaps a manic phase, perhaps entering a psychosis state or the pressure of "working things out" with your DH has now become too much and you are looking for a way to cause conflict to get a break from "trying to be good". Or something else.

This is your "red flag" to seek additional help.

 

[wdwmom2]

Considering the recent troubles in your marriage, you should ask yourself why you're devoting all that mental energy to another man, even one that is safely out of reach (so you say), instead of focusing on your husband and repairing your marriage.

Thank you for saying this!!!!!!!!! My thoughts exactly!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Then maybe you should cut the cord with your child. The guy is 18 or 19 years. Mommy doesn't have a say in who may find him attractive or what intentions that person may have, by the way I have no intentions. I have small crush on the guy. I'm not planning on hitting on him or engaging him in wild sex. As for other people keeping their children away from me there is no need. I can't stand children and I only interact with the master and the instructors. I spend 2 to 3 days a week watch and talking to these people while I watch my son's class. These people are like family to me. It's a very closed knit community and we don't treat it as a business relationship.

Hahaha!
Yeah, I should cut the cord when you have a crush on an 18 year old for a "few" years! Sorry, but any parent would have something to say to an adult weirdo who referred to her child as her "precious boy." Yes- he was a child when you started "crushing." Although now you say he is "legal." Blech!

Perhaps instead of me cutting the cord with my children you should pull the plug on your marriage? Something to think about huh?

Oh- and you can't stand children? I feel so bad for yours. I think therapy would be helpful for you.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Actually, I think she two kids. Vague memories about a thread where she was asking about leaving one of the kids at home while she took the older one to WDW (may be someone with a similar name though).

I seem to remember that too. Didn't the other child have special needs or something and it was too much work for her and she didn't want to take home on their trip? I could be wrong here and I can understand a parent's frustration but now that she says that she cannot stand kids, well, that puts a whole new spin on things.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

My head hurts.

 

[horseshowmom]

OP, you asked the question, and I think you got the answer that you should have expected. The "he's legal" comment was very strange - almost like you had been waiting for him to be (you're the one who said you had had a crush on him for years). I don't think it's odd to think a younger guy is cute but to have an ongoing crush is odd.

I know of an individual who doesn't think it's strange that the maintenance guys, etc. always seem to show up in her classroom. As she says, they're just friends, but isn't it interesting that out of an entire school, her room is the one they always seem to wind up in. I suspect that the rest of the teachers aren't interested in being "friends". She's also in denial about her part in the issue and resented being called on it.

Don't be surprised if the "family" at the karate class has noticed your behavior and made remarks about it out of your hearing. You may also be embarassing your child.

And in my honest opinion, if you and your husband are really crushing on young people at your son's class, you really need to decide if your marriage is working based on previous behaviors. I truly don't mean to sound harsh. I just think the whole thing is very sad.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Wait, I'm confused, don't you have kids? I thought one of the requirements of having kids is actually liking them.

I do have issues with other peoples kids but love my own.


But it seems that it is a justification for crushing on a "like family member" and that no plans of is further justifcation that it is okay.

Methinks OP doth protest too much.

 

[ckay87]

Here's a little piece of advice that you might stick in your back pocket and refer to later: Do NOT ever ask questions like "is this right?" or "what would you do?" or "am I wrong" or "am I weird" on this board....ever....unless you want real, honest, and probably harsh answers.

Always amazes me when people ask those questions, get honest responses, then go crazy trying to defend themselves to convince us otherwise. You asked, we answered.

(this is the reason that you rarely find ME asking those questions!!! I don't have the backbone to field the responses!)

 

[james'mommy]

Wait, I'm confused, don't you have kids? I thought one of the requirements of having kids is actually liking them.

I like my kid very much. I just can't stand other people's children. The children I come across in most of my son's activities are ill mannered and unruly. The exception is some of the children at taekwondo. Since the main principle of martial arts is discipline most of the children are angels while in class.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I like my kid very much. I just can't stand other people's children. The children I come across in most of my son's activities are ill mannered and unruly. The exception is some of the children at taekwondo. Since the main principle of martial arts is discipline most of the children are angels while in class.

Okay, but if you "can't stand" other kids, does your child get to have friends over? How does making parents feel that you are not safe to have around their children affect your child, whom you do like (funny choice of words again--most of us would choose love there). If the kids at Taekwondo are the only exception then why on earth would you choose THERE to behave in a way which may alienate families

 

[james'mommy]

Actually, I think she two kids. Vague memories about a thread where she was asking about leaving one of the kids at home while she took the older one to WDW (may be someone with a similar name though).

You are thinking of a different poster. I only have 1 child.