Am I nuts or strange??

[bumblebeeRN]

I just spoke to my mom, and she stated to me that I am going to disney world too close.
last time we were there, we went in november, and we are going back again for 2 nights, and then on our cruise for 3 nights.

she says that my vacation to WDW is too close to each other.

mmmm If I could I would go more, because we honestly do not live that far from there. the 4 hr drive goes by so fast.

I told her that, and she just gets so sensitive when I say something. I can never talk to her like a regular human being, when she talks to me it's always about telling me something that I need to do, or her opinions on the things I want to do. She is the reason why I did not take my DD to disney when she was a year old. I just can't get away from it. It's just really annoying. Specially when I say how I feel, she starts to cry. There is no way that I am doing that to my DD.

what do you all think? is going to disney world last november (middle of november), and now in middle of may too close for disney vacation?

oh I have not told her we are going on the cruise yet, I am saving that for before we get to the cruise ship

 

[nytimez]

If it makes you happy and doesn't take away from the other commitments of life, go whenever you have the time and money to do so and don't feel bad about it, or apologize for it.

 

[d1gitman]

i think you should go to WDW as often as you like. we lived in socal for a yr. and went to Disneyland many, many times. If i lived 4 hrs. from WDW, that would be a dream, probably more so than living 4 minutes away. 4 hrs. is a long enough drive to get out of town without it being too long. i envy you

however, it might be in your interest not to mention it to mom. to be honest, it sounds like there is a lot more to this than whether you are going to WDW too often.

 

[Disney Mommy 3]

Girl!!! Is she paying for it? Then tell her to keep her opinion to herself..kindly!!! ha!!! If I lived 4 hours away I would def. go more than once a year!! Really it isn't any of her business if you are paying for your family....

 

[jreed1920]

We went in January, went in April and will be there Friday. We have a gazillion timeshare points and Southwest has cheap flights so for us it is cheaper than even going to the beach or mountains here in NC which people do almost weekly around here. I think that as long as you enjoy it you should go when you can. I can understand her feeling maybe it will start to lose some magic but I know we try to do different unique things along with our favorites each trip so it doesn't get "old".

So go to WDW when you want and enjoy yourself. Thank mom for her love and concern and do what you like.

 

[famsen]

I just spoke to my mom, and she stated to me that I am going to disney world too close.
last time we were there, we went in november, and we are going back again for 2 nights, and then on our cruise for 3 nights.

she says that my vacation to WDW is too close to each other.

mmmm If I could I would go more, because we honestly do not live that far from there. the 4 hr drive goes by so fast.

I told her that, and she just gets so sensitive when I say something. I can never talk to her like a regular human being, when she talks to me it's always about telling me something that I need to do, or her opinions on the things I want to do. She is the reason why I did not take my DD to disney when she was a year old. I just can't get away from it. It's just really annoying. Specially when I say how I feel, she starts to cry. There is no way that I am doing that to my DD.

what do you all think? is going to disney world last november (middle of november), and now in middle of may too close for disney vacation?

oh I have not told her we are going on the cruise yet, I am saving that for before we get to the cruise ship

I was there 4 weeks ago. I live in Chicago. We are supposed to be on a plane tomorrow morning for another 6 night trip to WDW.
My mom (I am a 40-something year old woman) thinks I'm insane.
Whatever.

 

[wdwobsessed]

I was there 4 weeks ago. I live in Chicago. We are supposed to be on a plane tomorrow morning for another 6 night trip to WDW.
My mom (I am a 40-something year old woman) thinks I'm insane.
Whatever.

I love it! You go girl!!!!!

wdwo

 

[Haley]

I love my mom and she can have an opinion-- but where I want to go on vacation is my decision and I won't feel guilty about it!

 

[worm761]

First, when she pays for you vacations she can have an opinion on them!
In 2008, we went in May, then found a decent rate in September and went then. Plus we still went in May of 2009. AP's are the most expensive tickets to Disney! We were not planning a trip this year but with free dining we are now doing a weekend for Food & Wine Festival and Boyfriends birthday. We will go again in May 2010 like originally planned. We are 8 hours away. If we were closer, we would probably go more often. But it is too long of a drive and Boyfriend would have to take off too much time from work.

 

[DOOM1001]

I'm also close to a 4 hour drive away and I've already gone 3 times this year and about 7 times since last October.I know I really need to move closer,but the crazy part is that I used to go more frequently than I do now.

 

[LuvEeyore]

I live 12 hours away from WDW and when I made more than I do now, I went frequently. With Allegiant so close and cheap rates, I might will go more often as I get things straightened out finiacially. I am going back in July first time to WDW in 5 years and DL 2 years ago.
I have to agree with a pp, I think this is more than Disney to Mom.

Back when finiacially life was better for me and before mom retired, she went with me prior to Christmas and loved it. She is the one who asked to go on this trip this summer.

I love my mom, she is a sweet Christian woman who loves Disney and will probably attend a church somewhere after we arrive in Greensboro on the way home July 18 after getting up at 4"00a.m. to go back to Sanford for a 7am flight. She doesnt want to go in the heat but she wants to take her "adopted granddaughter" who is 15 so we go in the summer. So off we go.
A second note, at this point my mom would disown me if I didn't take her unless of course if it was my honeymoon she wouldn't want to go. Does your Mom want to go, can she afford to go? Could you take her too?

 

[CLPClarinet]

Excuse my 10-year old phrase but you should respond to her thusly:

"Talk to the hand or put money in it so I can spend it at Disney!"

 

[TwiddleDeeTwiddleDum]

I told her that, and she just gets so sensitive when I say something. I can never talk to her like a regular human being, when she talks to me it's always about telling me something that I need to do, or her opinions on the things I want to do. She is the reason why I did not take my DD to disney when she was a year old. I just can't get away from it. It's just really annoying. Specially when I say how I feel, she starts to cry. There is no way that I am doing that to my DD.

Sounds like dear old mom just wants to inject her opinion to feel needed and when you don't agree she's taking it as a personal rejection of her. Sometimes relationships with parents are difficult but remember they're not going to be around forever so just look for the good in her & love her.

And avoid discussing your WDW plans with her

P.S. No I don't think your back to back trips are excessive, I say LUCKY YOU!

 

[PiperPizzaz]

Not many people around here will think that is excessive. Especially living so close. We went in November too and I am itching to jump in the car and go. Unfortunately we live in Indiana, ha ha. If I lived 4 hours away I would be there ALL the time.

My advice...don't tell her. I know it is hard but, you just to cut this out of your conversations for both of your sakes.

GL! and have a fun time!!!

 

[everythingALICE]

I wish I lived so close! If I lived 4 hours from Disney I would have probably been multiple times between November and now (and I don't have kids!). Honestly, as soon as I get home from a trip, I already want to plan another.

I think some people just don't "get" Disney. Of course everyone here will find nothing wrong with going, but really, what's the harm in going anywhere frequently as long as your DD is ok with it and you can afford it? I would try to politely tell her that going to WDW makes you and your family happy and you'd like to enjoy it with your DD while she'll still be psyched about it.

 

[disEAR]

If I could, I would.

Hope that helps.

 

[bumblebeeRN]

Thanks for all the responses everyone.

It does make me feel better.

I am definitely not nuts. I've never asked my mom for things.... even growing up I hardly went out to the movies with friends because I didn't have a job. So I knew that the luxury of movies and dinner at the mall was not an every weekend event.
When I was 18 my mom's boss bought me a car so I can go to college and get around, but I had to pay for my little things like gas, and insurance.
And when I went out with friends to dancing... wow... she made a big deal. and she called that my "rebellion" period.... when it wasn't. I was an adult, with a job, and going to school, and I wanted to go out and have a little fun.

but anyways, living in the same state as my favorite place in the world WDW and being an only 4hr one road drive (I take the turnpike all the way there). I should even be going more often just because of the close proximity!

I can afford it, I worked so hard to get my RN degree, and WDW is something that just makes me soooooooo happy.

so thanks everyone for reminding me that I am not a nuts!

 

[pharmgirl69]

Bumblebee....not to hijack the thread....but are you on allnurses.com also? I think I've seen your name before LOL

 

[Doc CW]

If it makes you happy and doesn't take away from the other commitments of life, go whenever you have the time and money to do so and don't feel bad about it, or apologize for it.

Exactly. . You should never feel bad about going to WDW or spending time with your family never and nobody should tell you otherwise.

 

[Sugardimples]

Other people just don't understand......

Sounds like your mother can't tolerate not being in control. What I tell people is "This is what I like. You do what you like and I'll do what I like."