Am I being too sensitive

[huey duey & luey]

A little background, we just moved here 1 1/2 years ago (cul de sac). They all have been living here for at least 10-20 years (except 1 other house). everyone is nice enough but they are at least 12 or so yers older than me and so are the kids , They are all close to eachother. I used to joke (OK half joke) that i moved into stepford. Well I noticed that alot of the neighbors were together having a barbecue. Granted i wouldnt have gone, dh is working and too hard with my kids. But i felt that it would have been nice to be invited. Oh well, this is when I really miss my other house
Tara

 

[tiggersmom2]

Try not to feel too bad. I moved into my subdivision 4 years ago and I am still "new". However, some new families have moved in and we get along great with them! I don't have any advice (unless, a new family moves in - then JUMP and introduce yourselves) but hugs to you!

 

[vald1977]

That stinks that your feelings were hurt. Maybe they thought you weren't home.

 

[Pugdog007]

I'd go over there and say, "Sorry I'm late!"

 

[~*Belle 2003*~]

I wouldn't be hurt over it, you say they are always nice to you and that's the main thing.

The next time you have a BBQ invite them all round to your house instead!

 

[disneysteve]

I wouldn't take it personally. We've been in our house over 10 years. We are friendly with exactly one neighbor. I know the name of one other. We used to chat occasionally with the folks across the street but they moved.

We are friendly outgoing kind of people. The year after we moved in, we passed out flyers and had a block barbecue at our house. We thought it would help us get to know everyone. We all had a good time and that was the last time we spoke to any of them.

Times are different today than when my wife and I grew up (we're both 40). We grew up in row homes in Philly. We knew ALL our neighbors and traipsed in and out of each others houses as if they were our own. Today folks are just too busy with their own lives today and most folks, around here at least, really make little if any effort to get close to their neighbors. Part of that is that people move much more frequently. At least half a dozen homes on our street have changed hands at least once in the 10 years we've lived here. At least 2 have been sold twice. On the street where I grew up, nobody ever moved so we all got to know each other better.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I would have been hurt, too. Is it possible that you were invited but didn't get the e-mail or flyer? I know that we were invited to some neighborhood event, but didn't get the flyer. If I remember right we found out about it in time enough to go, but it could have been a similar situation.

It's tough when the existing neighbors are tight before you even move in.

T&B

 

[HollyJoy]

I think they should have invited you. Would have been a nice thing to do. But you know what? I wouldn't worry too much about it. You don't need friends like that.

 

[Microcell]

There is a three bedroom house across the street from me for sale right now! We are very friendly and whenever someone moves in we ask if they want their name on the neighborhood list we have. We really only talk at the block parties with some and those of us with kids who play together talk just about every day. my house has the mailbox in front of it, so we talk more to people while the kids play with sidewalk chalk! Move here! I would love to live across the street from a Diser.

 

[tiggerlover]

I am sorry your feelings were hurt and I certainly understand why they were, I am sensitive too and I probably would have felt the same way. I am thinking that it probably wasn't intentional since they are all nice to you, perhaps it is because they are older and you all don't do things together and it just didn't cross their minds.

 

[huey duey & luey]

Thanks everyone, I'd rather spend mt sat night with you anyone. Microcell, you say that now but you haven't met my kids yet LOl
Tara

 

[chrissyk]

DH and I were younger than everyone by at least 10-12 years when we moved into this neighborhood. We were 23 when we bought this house, and we were closer in age to the kids here than the parents. I can honestly say that I felt like you feel for the first year or 2 that we were here. I was sure that I was being excluded from some stuff because of the age gap. "The Girls" would go out and just not invite me. That hurt my feelings.

The good news is that, as time went on, DH and I got really close to our neighbors I'm not exactly sure when we started to feel accepted here, but it did happen eventually. It just took some time. Now we've been here just about 7 years. We're about to move (on Sept. 7th), and I think it's going to be a tough adjustment. I'm going to miss my neighbors a lot

 

[Roo'sMom]

Why go to a BBQ when you can spend your time planning
WDW trips?

 

[huey duey & luey]

esp with old friends
btw kathleen is a yes

 

[Dakota_Lynn]

I would suggest having your own bbq and inviting your neighbors. That way they have a change to get to know you a little better. My guess is if you did that, you would be on their permanent invite list forever thereafter. It may well be that they thought of inviting you but wasn't sure if you'd be comfortable being asked. People have become so weary of strangers anymore that simple acts of kindness are sometimes very strained. I am one of those people who believe the benefits of befriending the neighbors are worth the initial effort a hundred times over! Oh...and as far as the 12 year age gap...seriously, that is NOTHING. I have friends who are 20 years old and I have friends who are 60. Age really had little to do with anything (my partner is 17 years older than I am). You have to find out if you have some common ground with these neighbors. If you have nothing in common with these people, you probably don't want them as anything more than acquantances. If you find that you have similar interests, with a little time, you'll probably find that you have life-long friends in your nieghbors.

I hope you reach out to these people because I feel sure that you'll be glad you did. Good luck to you!