Churchladychurchlady
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Interesting predicament...
I recently came into some "found money", so I understand where you're coming from - you're looking for validation that you're not making a bad move to do something you'd otherwise never have the chance to do, right? I think a number of pps have some good points to consider, so let me tell you my story and see if that helps.
I've known my hubby since we were in 4th grade, fell in love with him in 5th... we grew up in the same blue collar town, parents have basically the same values etc... which they've passed onto both of us.
We were married straight out of college, did everything "right". Got married, had jobs, saved up, bought a house, had a kid, lived very modestly - but comfortably, and built our lives together. (I know this sounds like the lead up to something big, it's not, trust me)
Vacations, when we did take them (about once every 4 or 5 years) were low key. We drove, we camped, a splurge for us was staying in a hotel - and even then we didn't do that until we were in our 30s. Our biggest vacations to date were to rent a cabin for a week in Tennessee and go to Dollywood, the other was 5 days at WDW. Vacations are always an "oh, I'd love to, but, no, too expensive".
Well, since I came into this "found money", we decided to do the trip of a lifetime. My DD is turning 18 this spring, graduating from High school, we celebrated 25 years of matrimony together a year ago, my hubby just turned 50, I turn 50 next year - in other words, it's a big couple years for us. So - while yes, we could easily follow our usual route and do the prudent thing and invest all of it, we decided to split out some of it and do this trip. Why? because it's a big couple of years, we don't do this stuff EVER, my DD will soon be leaving the nest and frankly we just needed to mark this season in our lives with something unforgettable. Do I still feel that twinge of guilt over "wasting" money on a frivolous vacation - heck yes! But for me, we have a good enough reason to do something out of the ordinary and for once, be wild and crazy. (Up till now, the craziest thing I've ever done is to fly to Milwaukee with some friends to attend a dear friend's funeral)
I feel like this is something I can do, and will look back and be able to say - for once I did something out of the ordinary, that I'll never forget and will not regret. If you feel this way too, I'd say "go for it". But in the end, whether we validate your decision or not, you're the one you have to look at in the mirror.
I recently came into some "found money", so I understand where you're coming from - you're looking for validation that you're not making a bad move to do something you'd otherwise never have the chance to do, right? I think a number of pps have some good points to consider, so let me tell you my story and see if that helps.
I've known my hubby since we were in 4th grade, fell in love with him in 5th... we grew up in the same blue collar town, parents have basically the same values etc... which they've passed onto both of us.
We were married straight out of college, did everything "right". Got married, had jobs, saved up, bought a house, had a kid, lived very modestly - but comfortably, and built our lives together. (I know this sounds like the lead up to something big, it's not, trust me)
Vacations, when we did take them (about once every 4 or 5 years) were low key. We drove, we camped, a splurge for us was staying in a hotel - and even then we didn't do that until we were in our 30s. Our biggest vacations to date were to rent a cabin for a week in Tennessee and go to Dollywood, the other was 5 days at WDW. Vacations are always an "oh, I'd love to, but, no, too expensive".
Well, since I came into this "found money", we decided to do the trip of a lifetime. My DD is turning 18 this spring, graduating from High school, we celebrated 25 years of matrimony together a year ago, my hubby just turned 50, I turn 50 next year - in other words, it's a big couple years for us. So - while yes, we could easily follow our usual route and do the prudent thing and invest all of it, we decided to split out some of it and do this trip. Why? because it's a big couple of years, we don't do this stuff EVER, my DD will soon be leaving the nest and frankly we just needed to mark this season in our lives with something unforgettable. Do I still feel that twinge of guilt over "wasting" money on a frivolous vacation - heck yes! But for me, we have a good enough reason to do something out of the ordinary and for once, be wild and crazy. (Up till now, the craziest thing I've ever done is to fly to Milwaukee with some friends to attend a dear friend's funeral)
I feel like this is something I can do, and will look back and be able to say - for once I did something out of the ordinary, that I'll never forget and will not regret. If you feel this way too, I'd say "go for it". But in the end, whether we validate your decision or not, you're the one you have to look at in the mirror.