Ahhhh, possible Disney trip could be ruined

[jaysmom4285]

sorry, wrong thread

 

[BBGraph]

My Opinion would be yeah go ahead and go my sensible side says wait . As an Adult I would say if He just goes without permission of anykind he is showing a lack of resposibility if he wants to show his responsibility he should sit down with his parents laydown his plans Maybe with the girl friend and figure out what the parents ojection really is .

 

[Goobergal99]

OP ~ just in case you might follow through with your plans without your parents' permission, save yourself a couple tanks of gas. Disney will not allow you to stay on site without a notarized permission slip from your parent(s). I do not know what, if any, rulings other hotel chains have.

This is not true, I went with my friends who were 18 and over and I was only 17, I didn't show anything but my drivers license at check in at all star sports (a Disney resort, if not mistaken )

 

[Goobergal99]

If you were my son, you would not be going. Ever 18 is too young to be traveling 10 hours with no adults(real adults).

I feel for your children, just when is an adult a "real adult" I consider an adult someone who can vote and fight for their country (my BIL is in Iraq and is only 19) so 18 is definently an adult

 

[fancythemouse]

Okay kid, I support your efforts. I don't know what the "relationship" is between you and the girl, it could be totally innocent. If your parents let you go then they believe that you are mature enough to handle it. Its kinda funny because my sister has a guy friend who is her BEST friend and they are just friends but everyone always assumes they are dating....but yeah its jut funny because people are already accusing you of doing some immoral. I think if you guys are not doing anything wrong then its cool. Its always best to have your parents trust

 

[fancythemouse]

I feel for your children, just when is an adult a "real adult" I consider an adult someone who can vote and fight for their country (my BIL is in Iraq and is only 19) so 18 is definently an adult

I agree. Its funny because parents can see their kids as always kids at age 18 but they are old enough to die for their country but not stay out late....makes no sense

 

[Goobergal99]

I agree. Its funny because parents can see their kids as always kids at age 18 but they are old enough to die for their country but not stay out late....makes no sense

I know it really irks me actually, this is the reason kids go off to college and party hard every night, their parents are sheltering the heck out of them and as soon as they have their first taste of freedom they go crazy.

I'm not saying you should hand condoms out at Christmas or give your kids free whim to do whatever they want, but lets be realistic, 17 about to graduate HS, wants to go to Disney for a few days. Heck, I would feel the same way my mom did when I went, she said "Well at least it's Disney and not Cancun, I'd rather see you on a vacation planing video with Mickey then on girls gone wild with Snoop Dogg" Gotta love my mom

 

[momrek06]

Hahaha, hello people. I had no idea I would get this many responses. To answer some questions, my friend and I are fully paying for the trip ourselves. Also, we have been friends for 4 years and there is absolutely no sexual attraction at all. I am a junior in college, so I wouldn't be missing some of the most important school days. My friend will be out of school by the time the trip rolls around. As I said before, I probably would say no if I was a parent, but, I'm hoping my parents will trust me. Thanks for your interest!!

I don't have anything to say/comment on your pending trip to WDW....BUT what I would like to know is how you can be 17 and a JUNIOR in College. My son just turned 20yo and he is a sophomore in college.....

That is pretty amazing!

 

[jann1033]

PS I don't see how people can be prepared to send their kids off to college and LIVE a whole other state at 18 but not be prepared to allow them to take a short trip at 17? At 18 I moved half way across the UK to go to University - thank God I'd not been sheltered enough to never go anywhere else by myself before or I'd have been totally shell-shocked.

good point and imo if the kid can't handle himself by then it's kind of late in the game for parents to start trying to instill that . i read a good analogy about teens once,,,it 's like holding a spring,,,if you hold it too tight for too long you'll exhaust yourself and once you let it go it flies all over the place so instead you gradually let it go. 17 needs to be let go "some" and once they are in college is way to late to think you can still "control " them. hopefully if you have a good relationship they'll ask for your opinions but they have to make decisions sometimes on their own too.

i wouldn't have wanted my kids to go 1 :1 with the opposite sex altough op said it's platonic,but they were allowed to drive almost that far when they graduated ( with at least 1 same sex friend, a cell phone and during the day with minimal stops along the way as i was paranoid about rest areas or gas stops where some nut would see them) but a lot depends on the young person too and how responsible they are. my kids didn't overdrink( well didn't drink at all at that age) or do drugs and were pretty responsible at that age.

i do agree op, if your parents say "not" show them you are mature, accept it and make plans for when you are older.

and if is he is in his jr yr in college, good for him, it shows he has paid attention to his studies. although unless it is necessary for him not to take time off , why not wait till school is out?

 

[fancythemouse]

Hahaha, hello people. I had no idea I would get this many responses. To answer some questions, my friend and I are fully paying for the trip ourselves. Also, we have been friends for 4 years and there is absolutely no sexual attraction at all. I am a junior in college, so I wouldn't be missing some of the most important school days. My friend will be out of school by the time the trip rolls around. As I said before, I probably would say no if I was a parent, but, I'm hoping my parents will trust me. Thanks for your interest!!

seventeen and a junior in college?? is that a typo?? I'm 17 and graduating high school and attending college at the same time.

 

[Yookeroo]

If he's been a mature and responsible kid up to this point, there's absolutely no reason why he shouldn't be allowed to go. Even if he were romantically involved with the girl, there's no reason to say no.

 

[Sleepy]

I don't have anything to say/comment on your pending trip to WDW....BUT what I would like to know is how you can be 17 and a JUNIOR in College. My son just turned 20yo and he is a sophomore in college.....

That is pretty amazing!

A previous thread indicates, just this past Halloween, he was a junior in HIGH SCHOOL.

 

[eam]

No flames here. I agree with you 100%. As a mom to 1 teenager and another soon to be one (plus a preschooler), I would be more than a little ticked to find out my teen was planning a trip like this.

I agree with the above two posters completely!!!

 

[DisFlan]

I caught the post stating he was a junior in HS last October. He advances well.

I'm bowing out at this point. I don't think we're getting the whole story here. Or we're getting a whole lotta something. At any rate, I'm feeling a tug on my leg.


DisFlan

 

[dwkwootton]

Goobergal ... followed up on that a couple pages ago ... not sure why the difference, but maybe because it was DVC?

Sleepy ... interesting catch!

So, I would think that any young adult that can advance through the last year of high school and the first two years of college inside of 6 months has demonstrated that he has not skipped too many classes.

 

[wdwgoofeeee]

Well, I guess I get to post a dissenting opinion so I will don my flame proof suit.

You are 17--you are a minor. Your parents are 100% responsible for your care and well being until you are 18. They are also responsible for making sure you attend school--in some districts parents can be put in jail if their child has unexcused absences. You live under their roof, and they take care of you financially--you live with their rules. If they tell you you can't go, then the mature thing to do is to respect their decision and wait until you are 18 AND living on your own, AND completely supporting yourself to do things they don't agree with. Unless you turn 17 today, that is less than a year to wait. Learning to delay gratification is a sign of responsibility and maturity. Disney will still be there--not sure if the girl will, but another one will come along.

I won't even go into the moral aspects of a 3 night hotel stay with a member of the opposite sex and the possible future complications of that. Yes, it seems fun and cute now to play "grown up" and get a hotel and go on a vacation and all that, but you aren't grown up. And when you do grow up you will find out that you can't just "skip" work (right now school is your work) for a few days because you REALLY want to go and have fun instead of living up to your responsibilities as a man. Perhaps your parents are trying to teach you this valuable lesson.

As a parent I would be really angry to find out that total strangers are encouraging my minor child to disobey my household rules. In fact, in my home, it would result in loss of all computer privileges for that child at the very least.

Cancel your plans, stay in school and after you graduate go to college or get a job. Go to Disney with your family (current or future) or after you are completely self sufficient. I waited 33 years for my first trip to WDW (and whined and cried and schemed for years before that to try to get to go). Sharing my "first time" with my husband and 2 children was WAY more gratifying than a "quickie" trip with just anybody would have been. And it sounds likely you have been before so it isn't your "first time". You can wait.

That is the sign of a true man worthy of his parents trust and respect.

Very well written. Far more adults should consider the examples they are setting for the younger generation.

 

[SnackyStacky]

After 7 pages, I think this thread is done. First of all, it's not really on topic for Theme Parks. Second of all, the original poster, regardless of age or circumstance, did not ask for critiques, or analysis of his situation.