Advice needed

[anb163]

Hello. I may should post this on the teen board, but I am on this one all the time. I figured maybe you guys could give me some advice. My prom is on Friday, and I have had a date for over a month. He informs me yesterday he is not going anymore! Basically he doesn't want to spend the money on a tux, and he waited to inform me till the last minute because he was afraid of my reaction. He has some other reasons also, but he has turned into a real jerk. It is not like he didn't know what he was getting into. He is the one who asked me! By the way, the prom is on Friday.

Anyway, I am really angry, but this is not what the thread is about. Would you still go to the prom? This is my senior year, but I went last year and had the experience. Nobody else is going alone, and over 200 students and their dates will be there. I can hang with friends, but I am scared of being a third wheel.

Has anyone ever experienced this? In ten years will I regret not going to my senior prom? My mother thinks I will be lonely, but I want some more opinions.

 

[beckmrk04]

Hello. I may should post this on the teen board, but I am on this one all the time. I figured maybe you guys could give me some advice. My prom is on Friday, and I have had a date for over a month. He informs me yesterday he is not going anymore! Basically he doesn't want to spend the money on a tux, and he waited to inform me till the last minute because he was afraid of my reaction. He has some other reasons also, but he has turned into a real jerk. It is not like he didn't know what he was getting into. He is the one who asked me! By the way, the prom is on Friday.

Anyway, I am really angry, but this is not what the thread is about. Would you still go to the prom? This is my senior year, but I went last year and had the experience. Nobody else is going alone, and over 200 students and their dates will be there. I can hang with friends, but I am scared of being a third wheel.

Has anyone ever experienced this? In ten years will I regret not going to my senior prom? My mother thinks I will be lonely, but I want some more opinions.

GOOO! Youonly get one Senior prom. Have fun.

I went by myself, after having a horrible time with a date at prom my junior year. Lots of my friends went solo- no biggie!

And you won't be a third wheel- 1/2 the guys won't dance to the fast songs anyway- so get out there with your girls and shake it.

And in ten years- you probably won't regret not going- you'll have much bigger things on your mind by then!! Husbands, babies, jobs, whatever.

I say, go and have fun.

 

[Buckalew11]

I am sorry a jerk asked you to the prom.
I am sorry he backed out at the last minute.

Do I think you should go? If you were my friend and I had a date already, I would still want you to go. The friends I hung out with would have felt the same and we would have all had a good time together.

Do I think you'd regret not going to your Senior Prom? Maybe, maybe not. But I'm the girl who could have done w/o a wedding and never regretted it even though DH thought I would.

If you go, I hope you have a wonderful time with your friends. What kind of thoughts/vibes do you get from them about it? Anyone esle you would want to ask?
How about Caradana's brother??!! (Can't believe I remember that one...long, sweet story)

 

[ashjohnson80]

Go! You'll regret missing your senior prom if you don't go. Besides, even the people who have dates, probably most of them aren't couples. I went to my proms with "dates" but they were guy friends and we all just ended up hanging out in groups of people.

 

[MAKmom]

Find a cute Junior to go with. You have IM power use it.

BTW: I would tell your Mother to call his Mother & let her know what a great son she has.

 

[daisyduck123]

If your friends said to come along with them & you think they really mean it...then go with them & have fun. I actually remember very little from my prom & it's not due to the alcohol that was there -- it was over 20 years ago & was not a huge deal to me.

Thumbs down to that guy though....it makes me want to call his mother!!

 

[Caradana]

Are you anywhere near the State of New Jersey??? My brother and his friends are on speed-dial. I can get this deal done!

- Dana, who has some history with DIS Prom Date setups

 

[anb163]

I know my friends mean it. One of my best friends wants me to ride with her and her date. They are just friends and he does not care. I'm sure I would have fun, but I know my Mom does not want me to go alone. All the juniors have dates also. It is a junior senior prom. My friend tried to set me up with her cousin but that fell thorugh. I guess I will have to think it through some more.

 

[MzDiz]

Definitely go. Be beautiful, smile, and have a wonderful time. Don't let one idiot ruin YOUR fun.

 

[anb163]

Sorry. I live in Alabama.

 

[beckmrk04]

I know my friends mean it. One of my best friends wants me to ride with her and her date. They are just friends and he does not care. I'm sure I would have fun, but I know my Mom does not want me to go alone. All the juniors have dates also. It is a junior senior prom. My friend tried to set me up with her cousin but that fell thorugh. I guess I will have to think it through some more.

What's your Mom's hang up about you going alone? Why would it matter?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I was dumped by my boyfriend a few weeks before prom.

I ended up going with a large stag group--that later hooked up with our friends with dates and we had a blast

A bunch of us dateless on prom night--and I wouldn't change it for the world.

It was only girls--then we had a friend...a football player who wasn't going b/c he was dateless--so we invited him along..said instead of no date--he could have 5.


Don't ditch it just b/c you don't have a date. Dont' start now to let a man rule your life (even though he has removed himself from the situation).

GOOOOO!!!!

and not fair for mom to say you should have a date. that is silly!

 

[Buckalew11]

Are you anywhere near the State of New Jersey??? My brother and his friends are on speed-dial. I can get this deal done!

- Dana, who has some history with DIS Prom Date setups

Hey Dana, did you see my post??!!

 

[MAKmom]

You have to go. GO with your friends it will be so much better than sitting home thinking your missing this great time.

 

[anb163]

My mom said she wouldn't go alone. I think she is scared I will be miserable. The one thing I am worried about is leadout. A friend of mine said her boyfriend would walk me through, but I feel kind of weird about that, even though he is a friend.

 

[Nancyg56]

I know my friends mean it. One of my best friends wants me to ride with her and her date. They are just friends and he does not care. I'm sure I would have fun, but I know my Mom does not want me to go alone. All the juniors have dates also. It is a junior senior prom. My friend tried to set me up with her cousin but that fell thorugh. I guess I will have to think it through some more.

Awwww, Honey, go to your prom. I am 49 years old, and did not go to my senior prom because the guy I was dating said he had to work. Looking back, I wish that I had gone. It sounds like the group you would be with are friends, and really wants you to join them. I wonder why your Mom thinks you need a date?

 

[In a hurry]

Go, and enjoy yourself! So many of the people you are close to now will drift away, and you will have yet another awesome memory of your time together! Granted it was a bagillion years ago, but we didn't hang in couples thruout our prom!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If you don't go, you just won't be "in the loop"! People will be talking about it at school and it will bum you out over & over again. Don't let a guy do THAT to you!
Tell your mom, if you are "miserable" you will give her a call...that should get you out the door.

 

[Disney Doll]

I'd go, if only to prove a point to the jerk...I'm stubborn that way!!!
I also wouldn't be having my Mom call his Mom or anything like that...that's just going to make you look small and needy. Life will teach him, someday, what a heel he was...maybe when his own daughter gets blown off for her prom by a "man" just like him!!! Karma is funny that way. As far as your Mom, she may be worried that you'll be sad at the prom without a date, or be lonely when all your friends are dancing with their dates and you don't have one, but that may not happen. Every friend is not going to be dancing every dance with their dates. Maybe she's a bit old-fashioned too...you know, "it's a prom, you need a date".

Do I think in 10 years you'll regret missing your prom? I don't think in a year you'd regret missing it...life will take you in other directions and you'll be busy with other things. But it's a fun social event right now where all your friends are going to be, so there's no reason to miss it.

I broke up with my boyfriend in HS 3 weeks before my prom, and everyone thought I was nuts! But he wasn't treating me properly...he was calling at the last minute for dates, if his buddies couldn't go out and whatnot. I did that a coupel fo times, and decided that I didn't particularly like being an afterthought, so we broke up. Turns out he liked me more than I thought, because he was a bit surprised that I would do that, and it really turned his behavior around, and we did end up going to our prom together. But I was fully prepared to go alone.

 

[emilymad]

I say go and don't worry about it but I do understand how it could be uncomfortable. For my senior prom I had a friend set me up with a date without me knowing until she had already agreed for me. It was someone I was friendly with and I didn't have my heart set on going with someone else so I went. My date was a distaster. He sat there and melted sugar on a spoon from the heat of the candles on the table. No, I am not making that up! I ended up having a blast with my girlfriends. I would be glad you found out what this guy is like before the prom. No date is much better then a bad date!