Advice needed dividing estate property tomorrow!

[AirForceRocks]

Another idea would be to combine the list method and the draw from a hat method. Draw to see who goes first, then go in birth order from there with each picking one item. Then on the next round, let the person that went second go first, the person that went second, go third, etc., then the person that went first go last.

Repeat until everything is gone.

 

[C.Ann]

I think names should be drawn from a hat - no need to punish the youngest because of birth order..

And I don't think there should be anyone involved but the natural children..

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

There are going to be hard feelings no matter how fairly it is done. I don't agree with 1st born going first. I am a middle child and I would be upset if it were done this way. Put 5 numbers in a hat and each sibling gets to draw a number. The person with number 1 goes first and so on.

My FIL has been trying to divide up a family farm for 5 years with his brother. There is no good way to do it. Everyone will feel that the other one got the best land and so on.... I would hate to see it sold. A lot of housing is going up on their road where there once were huge family farms. It is so sad.

Lori

 

[we3luvdisney]

Originally posted by Cindy B
I know this can be an ugly situation, and I want it to be as harmonious as possible.

Keep us posted on how well it goes tomorrow. I'm sure there will be many people who would like to know what selection process you used and if everyone got along. Good luck!

 

[Mskanga]

Originally posted by we3luvdisney
I may be out of line, but I think only the natural siblings should be at the home, dividing the estate. Leave the kids and spouses at home.

That's what we almost did when my inlaws died two years ago, we all went to the house BUT the natural siblings were the ones to make all the decisions. I was the only official spouse there, the other two were boyfriends.
I don't agree with the way things went there, but they are not my parents and I have no saying on it.
There was one major other thing they did and that's what caused me to write them off as a family, FIL left some money to each of them and they made my dh promise that he wouldn't tell me until everything had passed, but in the meantime that same night my two SIL's and BIL all went out with their boyfriends to the home depot to buy kitchen cabinets and windows , while I stayed home watching all my nephews and nieces, thinking my inlaws were taking care of funeral arrangement business. I have not seen them again , neither has dh .
Since they didn't consider me family then, they can continue that way, and when they need something, they can call someone else.