Adding a little love

[suejai]

I'm feeling gushy today and find the Dis a little depressing this morning (no offense meant to anyone going through a tough time ) So I thought I would add a little love to the Boards

What are some of the little things your spouse (SO) does that show they love you and are thinking about you?

My DH is more of an "actions speak louder than words" kind of guy. He does tell me that he loves me all the time, but we don't celebrate Valentine's Day, he doesn't get me anything for Mother's Day, we usually only remember our anniversary after the fact... no romantic stuff. But he is unfailingly considerate. When he is home and I was still working he would have lunch made, dinner made, the house clean etc. And then last night he told me the sweetest thing over the phone. NB: He works away from home and is gone for 9 days and home for 5 so it gets kind of lonely sometimes and I tend to get a bit paranoid and wonder what he is up to while he's away. So last night he told me that he saves all my texts to re-read when he is feeling lonely and needs a "Sue fix". I think it means he loves me

 

[alexandria674]

Hmm...lately because my fiance and I have been working a lot we don't have that much time to do something romantic so I decided to look up some Disneyland recipes, you know the favorites and tonight to surprise him I am going to make some Disney clam chowder, it is easy to make and before he comes home I will tell him I am bringing home some fast food so he will be surprised at something home cooked. This morning while I was making coffee he put a sweet note taped on the coffee maker (he never goes near that machine otherwise)

P.S. That was sweet about the text messaging

 

[dismom2]

Mine brings me flowers often, always remembers holidays, holds my hand, hugs me if I am down. He will help clean more if I am tired, or keep the kids busy if I need to get some work done. He also rubs my feet for me and will massage me if I am really sore. I think he does a lot of little things, which is really sweet of him. I try to do the same for him. I make him a nice, hot bath if he's tired and sore after work, and we take turns making a nice breakfast for each other (and the kids, too). That's nice what your DH said about your text messages

I'm feeling gushy today and find the Dis a little depressing this morning (no offense meant to anyone going through a tough time ) So I thought I would add a little love to the Boards

What are some of the little things your spouse (SO) does that show they love you and are thinking about you?

My DH is more of an "actions speak louder than words" kind of guy. He does tell me that he loves me all the time, but we don't celebrate Valentine's Day, he doesn't get me anything for Mother's Day, we usually only remember our anniversary after the fact... no romantic stuff. But he is unfailingly considerate. When he is home and I was still working he would have lunch made, dinner made, the house clean etc. And then last night he told me the sweetest thing over the phone. NB: He works away from home and is gone for 9 days and home for 5 so it gets kind of lonely sometimes and I tend to get a bit paranoid and wonder what he is up to while he's away. So last night he told me that he saves all my texts to re-read when he is feeling lonely and needs a "Sue fix". I think it means he loves me

 

[Jennasis]

My DH is super affectionate. NO problem with PDA or "macking" on me for the world to see. We hold hands, we kiss, we snuggle. He constantly does things...little things...to tell me he loves me, like downloading music I like on my ipod, or putting my favorite Disney podcasts on my ipod first thing every Monday before he goes to work. He'll go see movies he doesn't want to see because I want to see it (like, God help me, Twilight...man I owed him BIG for that debacle).

We end EVERY night in bed with an "I LOVE you" and a kiss. Married 4 years, living together for 9 years. Still like day one!

 

[NMAmy]

We try to do at least one nice thing (but usually more) for each other every day. For example, I'll make him one of his favorite things for dinner (even if I don't really care for it) and he will rub my feet while we watch Jeopardy together.

It makes each of us feel appreciated and makes for a very happy marriage.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Sunday mornings DH makes me breakfast in bed......

Our last anniversary he gave me two Tiffany keys...one a key to his heart & the other to our children's (which we are adopting).

He does so much, I am very blessed~

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

She feeds me...

 

[NHdisneylover]

Most weeks DH works out of the country Monday to Friday--so the kids and I really miss him. He is not a bringing home floweres kind of guy BUT he knows me and he does care and sometimes he does just the right thing. Last week he got major brownie points:

We moved to Germany 6 months ago. The big things i miss are Ice and good Mexican food I am one o fthose people who fills my glass to the brim with ice and then adds drink in the crevices and orders drinks with "extra ice" in the states. We have a small fridge/freezer (standard size in Germany but it is not much bigger than a dorm fridge). I have had the entire freezer taken up with four ice cube trays but that still does not make much--never enough for iced tea. So last week, mid week a elivery showed up unexpectedly at the door from amazon.de it was a countertop ice machine!!!I have been happily drinking iced tea ever since. DH saw one at the hotel he was at and asked for the name (since it seemed to work well) and ordered it for me. He is a good guy

ETA: lovely idea for a thread. Thanks for bringing some cheer to the board.

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

DH does sweet little things for me all the time. He leaves me notes on the kitchen counter before he goes to work and texts me each morning when he gets to work to tell me he loves me and misses me. I tease him that he only brings me roses when it is a birthday, anniversary or when he is trying to get out of the doghouse. We always hold hands in the car and at the table at restaurants. He never misses a chance for a quick pat on the butt too.

I try to do things for him too - pack his lunch every day for work and leave little notes inside, buy him little treats when I am out shopping and make sure he gets to watch his TV shows uninterrupted (especially during football season!). Whenever he goes out of town I tuck little notes in the pockets of his clothes or in his shaving kit so he will find them. We also text, email and IM while he is at work just to say I love you or tell each other how sexy they look today.

 

[suejai]

Most weeks DH works out of the country Monday to Friday--so the kids and I really miss him. He is not a bringing home floweres kind of guy BUT he knows me and he does care and sometimes he does just the right thing. Last week he got major brownie points:

We moved to Germany 6 months ago. The big things i miss are Ice and good Mexican food I am one o fthose people who fills my glass to the brim with ice and then adds drink in the crevices and orders drinks with "extra ice" in the states. We have a small fridge/freezer (standard size in Germany but it is not much bigger than a dorm fridge). I have had the entire freezer taken up with four ice cube trays but that still does not make much--never enough for iced tea. So last week, mid week a elivery showed up unexpectedly at the door from amazon.de it was a countertop ice machine!!!I have been happily drinking iced tea ever since. DH saw one at the hotel he was at and asked for the name (since it seemed to work well) and ordered it for me. He is a good guy

ETA: lovely idea for a thread. Thanks for bringing some cheer to the board.

Totally OT: I know what you mean about Germany. I have family there and once spent 6 weeks. I missed having still water, they only seemed to drink carbonated stuff. My brother lived there for 5 years and he couldn't wait to get back to Canada. He missed, if you can believe this..a proper McDonald's Cheeseburger... while living in a country with some of the best food I have ever eaten. Do people there still do daily grocery shopping..to the butcher, bakery etc. Last time I went, in 1986, grocery stores like we have here were just starting up and we went every other day to the bakery to get fresh buns for breakfast...what a treat. and to the market every Wednesday and Saturday in the town my grandmother lived. I think I rather envy you the opportunity to live in Europe, from your other posts it seems like you are making the most of it

 

[NHdisneylover]

Totally OT: I know what you mean about Germany. I have family there and once spent 6 weeks. I missed having still water, they only seemed to drink carbonated stuff. My brother lived there for 5 years and he couldn't wait to get back to Canada. He missed, if you can believe this..a proper McDonald's Cheeseburger... while living in a country with some of the best food I have ever eaten. Do people there still do daily grocery shopping..to the butcher, bakery etc. Last time I went, in 1986, grocery stores like we have here were just starting up and we went every other day to the bakery to get fresh buns for breakfast...what a treat. and to the market every Wednesday and Saturday in the town my grandmother lived. I think I rather envy you the opportunity to live in Europe, from your other posts it seems like you are making the most of it

Overall I LOVE living here. It is an experience I wouldn't trade for the world. But, no place is perfect (USA or Germany). There are quite a few "big" grocery stores here now. Most people (us included) go there once a week or so plus go to teh bakery almost daily, perfer to get fresh veggies from a veggie stand (and kitchens are too small to store them long) a couple of times a week and prefer meat from a good, small butcher (we don't eat much meat. I generall buy brats or basic chicken breast at teh big stores but get meat to grill out on the weekend at teh butcher on Friday afternoon). I do spend a lot more time shopping here than I did in the USA. Oh, and I learned how to say "still water" on the first day here--and we bought a britta water filter for the house first thing

OP--sorry for the hijack

 

[suejai]

OP--sorry for the hijack

That's okay I am the OP

But to get back on topic. I'm reading everyone's posts and it got me thinking and wondering if I do enough to show DH how I feel about him ( besides feeding him ). Any time I have ever asked him this question he says it makes him happy when I am happy. I'll have to be extra special nice to him when he comes home.

 

[NHdisneylover]

That's okay I am the OP

But to get back on topic. I'm reading everyone's posts and it got me thinking and wondering if I do enough to show DH how I feel about him ( besides feeding him ). Any time I have ever asked him this question he says it makes him happy when I am happy. I'll have to be extra special nice to him when he comes home.

DUH! Sorry 'bout that

If you are thinking about it I am sure you are doing enough for your DH (and he says he is happy so that is good)

I wanted to come back and post that most of what DH does for me (and i for him) does not involve buying anything--I felt bad about posting something involving spending money (I posted it because it was soemthing that would really mean a lot to me but is not "obvious" like jewelry or flowers so ti shows he REALLY pays attention to what I care about which I find very special and romantic). Anyway:

We make chocolate soufle togetherIt is best when he does the early steps (lots of vigourous beating) and I do the later steps (lots of gentle folding)--neother of us makes it nearly as good alone

We "chat" a bit on skype every night. He knows I don't sleep well when he is not here so he knows to try me no matter how late he gets to the hotel (normally not too late but when coworkers are traveling with him it can be).

On Saturday mornings if he awakens before me he will fix me a Coke (my version of coffee) as soon as he hears me stirring (and if I wake before him I do the same with coffee).

He holds my hand when we are out.

So many things. You know, people who have just met us (and not the kids) often mistake us for newlyweds--which I think is a good thing. They usually say it is the way we look at each other I know I love him just as much (more if possible) now as I did 13 years ago when we got married (or almost 19 years ago when we started dating)