A Message From the Moderators....

[hmgolden]

Hi everyone -

We have noticed that there have been a lot of off topic threads on the board lately. While we understand the occasional OT thread dealing with newly married life, the moderators would like to remind you that this board is primarily for discussing your upcoming wedding and/or honeymoon. Before posting an OT thread here, please consider that there may be a different board on the DIS better suited to your question.

Thanks!

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

Sorry.....Im guilty of doing one today.

Ill watch myself

 

[Maggimus]

Ive been the main contributor to off topic threads. This is because I post a lot on the budget board and those moderators over there are very very understanding and allow all off topic threads. They understand that some people feel more comfortable on some boards than others. I figured this board would be much the same- - and sometimes our off topic threads pertain to the people on this board.

Some of my recent OT threads have been about:
Taxes-- The girls here can relate.Within some of the posts that are on topic many post things about financial whoas, etc...

The trading board- They can trade some of their unused Disney things for DFTW things

Money back on online shopping-- Very beneficial considering most of us do a lot of wedding shopping online

Walmart silk roses for .94cents -- the girls use these for their receptions


A lot of other OT posts on this board are about losing weight and losses in family. I feel everything directly pertains to the people who are on this board.

I feel as though since we do not get out of hand and the majority of the threads on this board are directly about weddings, this shouldn't be a problem. This board is the absolute most friendly and has the very least amount of problems out of all of the main boards (Budget, Community, all which i frequent, etc). As long as it stays that way I hope that moderators will welcome off topic posts and see that sometimes there is a need to break the monotony of wedding planning considering this is where a lot of Disney brides spend the majority of their time planning and venting about wedding whoas!

I do realize it is important to keep this thread focussed on disney weddings and honeymoons because if it doesnt then the initial efforts are lost.

Im appologise if my off topic posts are posing a problem on these boards.

 

[Fantasia Sam]

Maggimus this is not a debate, neither is it a demand, it is merely a request, me thinks thou doth protest too much LOL LOL

Honestly everyone we want to keep a happy medium and keep everyone of our posters happy so please we are asking you to bear these OT threads in mind.

We will be monitoring and moderating - we leave our fellow moderators to moderate their boards and they leave us to moderate ours

Again I really do not want this thread to turn into a heated debate - just accept the announcement and lets see how it goes

 

[Maggimus]

I wasnt looking for a debate whatsoever. I was only asking for a little tollerance and showing that even though we place "OT" in the title doesnt mean they dont pertain to the people of this board.

I feel if moderators are here to monitor these boards they need to fairly represent the people within. I should be able to respond to a post by a moderator and they should hear out the people fairly. We shouldnt feel intimidated.... I realize the rules, I understand this isnt a debate, all i wanted was to explain why...

 

[Fantasia Sam]

Here you are Maggimus

"Rule no 6. STAYING ON TOPIC: Each of the DIS boards focuses on a specific topic. Please look the choices over before posting on the wrong board. For instance, you don't want to ask about park hours on the Restaurants Board or tell everyone about your stay at the Caribbean Beach Resort on the Disney Cruise Line Board. It makes it easier for everyone to find what they're looking for when the boards stay on topic."

As Moderators it is our job is to help keep a board on-topic that's what we are doing but we are also listening to our member's feedback and we hope to reach a happy medium on this. This will solely be at the Moderators discretion, that's our job

There is your "why?" Maggimus and I am sorry if you felt I was intimidating that is not my intention at all.

Editted to add : That the Moderators have been tolerant and we have been allowing OT threads we are just reminding you of the rules and guidelines, thanks

 

[dee slack]

sorry to be a pain, but while the mod's are here, please would it be possible for the When Is Your Wedding thread (sticky) be updated? Many thanks!

 

[heatherlynn444]

thanks for reminding us! its so easy to get carried away when you have made good friends on the boards. thanks for keeping us in check!

 

[DisneyBrideWannabe]

I feel like I've made some personal friends on this board, and get excited when I see a post from one these friends or pics, etc... We see pics of one another and share info about our most personal day (after giving birth). I even know a lot of background. (do I sound like a stalker?) Sometimes it is easier to turn to these friends than real life friends who you have to face everyday.
Anyway, I can understand how people feel hurt when they have posted an OT post and feel like they are in "trouble." (Don't want to start a fight here or anger the moderators) I think we need these occasional OT posts to keep things interesting, b/c reading over and over about intimate guest numbers and venue choices can get monotonous I often usually only read the ones that are bit off topic (come on, I know some of you are guilty too). I've noticed the OT ones are often the ones that have the most hits and replys (like the girl whose grandmother is very sick and has three ages of best wishes from us)
If this a problem, could we set up another board or maybe set up a private chatroom once a week where can all meet and gossip or talk about everything from DFTW to marriage, to weight loss, to personal losses, to parenthood, etc.... We all want to meet in person ,so why not meet once a week?
P.S: Do the other boards have the same commraderie? b/c from what I've seen it is just people doing a little trip planning, not steady visitors like us.

 

[DisneyBrideWannabe]

Hi everyone -
this board is primarily for discussing your upcoming wedding and/or honeymoon.

Or discuss your previous Disney wedding right? Wouldn't want to leave out those who have already had their Disney magic but return to share their knowledge and experiences

 

[dmslush]

Mods,

I know on some of the other boards, particularly the community board, they are able to have a few LONG threads that basically amount to nothing but members who have a few common interests chit chatting. Is it possible for us to have one of those threads over here. That way, we can discuss our off topic stuff with the posters on this board that we have bonded with during the time that we have been planning our weddings, while at the same time not upsetting other posters who don't want to see off topic posts?

 

[gradtchr]

Thanks!

 

[JonetteA]

We want you to share your past experience with the new brides to be! Those of us who have already been through the process know what works well and what does not and we definately want to share those lessons learned.

We moderators understand the uniqueness of our community, and have talked about approaching the Webmasters with different ideas on how to make this work the best for everyone. The bottom line is that we do not have the following that the community board, budget, TPAS, etc have. We are still talking amongst ourselves to see what is the best idea to propose if any at all. Please bear with us as we go through this process. Meanwhile, Helen makes a good point that there may be other forums better suited to asking questions on the OT posts. Thank you for all of the effort that you put into this community. YOU make it a success and make this forum a joy to moderate!

 

[allisonswonderland]

I know that when I posted about something that happened to me at a disney resort on the resort board the thread was moved by the mods to maybe the community board - so maybe you all should do that. I have seen those posts many times on the Restaurant, Resort or Park board- Just stating that I think it is a bit hard for new brides to find info and ask questions when there is a lot of clutter- Thanks for cleaning up Mods!

 

[happylalagirl]

OK, I am guilty of one of the off topic conversations. The reason for sharing it with these girls was because this board has become like a second family to me. I have floated around the other boards and quite honestly have not found a place to talk to anyone or post about our pregnancy and pending birth. I would love any advice as to other boards I could post about this...

I do like the idea of possibly setting up a chat once a week or just a thread for general off topic conversation until the moderators are able to find a better solution.

Thanks.

 

[Maggimus]

It seems as though everyone else is saying exactly what I was trying to say earlier...

Thanks Diane, DisneyBrideWannabe Jonette, & Dmslush-- I knew i wasnt the only one out there enjoying the OT threads and you all really understand the importance of this close community here!

 

[gradtchr]

OK, I am guilty of one of the off topic conversations. The reason for sharing it with these girls was because this board has become like a second family to me. I have floated around the other boards and quite honestly have not found a place to talk to anyone or post about our pregnancy and pending birth. I would love any advice as to other boards I could post about this...

I do like the idea of possibly setting up a chat once a week or just a thread for general off topic conversation until the moderators are able to find a better solution.

Thanks.

Here's a link for a Moms to be thread on the community board.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=684015

 

[DisBride2007]

Just my $0.02...

I was actually glad to see this thread because I have noticed the same problem. I do not think that certain "OT" threads are really off-topic, such as: an illness in the family (usually affecting wedding plans), requesting advice as to how to address family issues or wedding-related drama...

However, some recent posts have really had absolutely nothing to do with weddings.

I think it's pretty obvious which categories the different posts fall into. These posts have made it so I want to spend less time on the boards lately...

 

[IrishCinderella]

Just my $0.02...

I was actually glad to see this thread because I have noticed the same problem. I do not think that certain "OT" threads are really off-topic, such as: an illness in the family (usually affecting wedding plans), requesting advice as to how to address family issues or wedding-related drama...

However, some recent posts have really had absolutely nothing to do with weddings.

I think it's pretty obvious which categories the different posts fall into. These posts have made it so I want to spend less time on the boards lately...

Ditto.

 

[LIGrumpyGirl]

Here's a link for a Moms to be thread on the community board.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=684015

As a new mom...at page 415 on the community board it must be so hard to keep up. I can see what others are saying about having a pregnant/mommy board under the Wedding board. That board is sooooo in detail (I didn't want to tickle in MY cup for visits...I don't think I want to hear how others do and how often!). I think what our friends are asking for here are the small details...how are you feeling? Any new Disney toys or clothes to purchase rotfl2: ) etc.

Like we mentioned in another post...perhaps a sticky? Or can we just start a thread there for DIS board brides only? Is that a no-no?