A man in the women's dressing room...what would you do?

[Disney Doll]

I would have been surprised at first. But since he was only coming in to check on his daughter, and not hanging in the room I think I would have been OK with it.

What she said.

 

[shellybaxter]

This is an honest question, not trying to start an arguement here.

But to this poster and the OP---do you use dressing rooms at stores like Old Navy and Gap that are unisex??

I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Unisex dressing rooms generally have full doors. Other dressing rooms have "half" doors. The half doors provide far less privacy than the full doors

 

[Oreo Cookie]

It would not have bothered me at all. Several stores have unisex dressing rooms. I also think it's really sweet that a dad is clothes shopping with his daughter.

 

[LOVEDISNEYLAND]

I wouldn't even think twice about it. I think it's real nice of the dad to be helping his daughter. Now if the guy was by himself just hanging out and trying to peek in on women, then that's when I would have an issue.

 

[kami2199]

Your situation may not have bothered me but a few weeks ago I was at a Motherhood outlet and there was a man in there with three kids who all appeared to be under the age of three and one in a stroller. This was IN the area where the stalls are. The two kids kept running around pulling curtains open and happened to open mine. I was NOT happy about that. The mom was trying clothes on. The dad just told them to stop but did not remove themselves from the area. It was a SMALL area too - maybe 4-6 small stalls. I'm guessing he didn't want to be in there very badly but I don't understand why when someone else came in he didn't take the kids back out into the store instead of staying in the dressing area. Now this situation did bother me. I was constantly worried that my curtain was going to fly open again any minute and dad would be right there!

 

[Vickie46]

No.. I don't like Gap and Old Navy dressing rooms for that reason... I guess I am just too scared these days.. you just never know.. I would never send my teenage daughter to the dressing room by herself for this reason...

I ... was not trying to start any debate... I was just giving my opinion... I am probably a too protective Mom... so my opinion don't count!

 

[marshallandcartersmo]

Unisex dressing rooms generally have full doors. Other dressing rooms have "half" doors. The half doors provide far less privacy than the full doors

ok. But a half door wouldn't show much more than the lower half of someones leg would it? If that?

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

Wouldn't bother me. Even if he could see over the door he wasn't looking over the door. I use unisex dressing rooms all the time. I can't remember the last time I saw a gender specific dressing room. All the dressing rooms at the Kohls I go to are unisex.

 

[java]

I might have been surprised to hear the voice. But honestly I think it wouldn't have bothered me. He was there with his daughter- and in the first stall. Not like he was parading around the fitting room. He may have even waited for a front stall for dd.
But I am not you. So I think you have every right to feel upset by it. Feelings are feelings. And I can't tell you yours are wrong. Just not the ones I think I would have felt.
More importantly did you get the dress?

 

[JunieJay]

Sorry to be weird, but my DH always goes with me when I buy clothes and lately every single chair outside of the fitting rooms are filled with husbands of the women trying on clothes. I Love that DH can tell me the truth in what i am trying on. I do the same for him too. I don't know what the big deal is with that, he's not INSIDE, he's outside giving his opinion, I cannot believe this bothers you.

LOL. You can't believe this bothers me? Uhhh, o.k. Sorry you find me so unbelievable. I find it unbelievable women can't try on clothes without their husbands o.k. so I guess we are even.

That said, the weird scene I was referring to was a man IN the dressing room, standing outside the stall, while his wife tried on clothes. She'd try something on and then had to come out and do a twirl for him. Weird, weird, weird, not to mention rude, rude, rude to all the WOMEN in the WOMEN's dressing room.

 

[RitaZ.]

I can top your story...at my TJ Maxx, the last huge dressing room has a curtain. Yesterday i was in my shorts and bra when the curtain parted...I say "Excuse me?'' and the young woman walks into the dressing room carrying a baby!!!

I stand there, moth agape and again say "EXCUSE ME!!??"

She starts speaking, and I realize she is foreign, possibly Jamacain and asks if I had seen her cell phone...I then pick up all the clothes I had scattere don the bench...tell her "no" and she left.

The man helping his daughter wouldn't have bothered me, but the situation above would have.

 

[belle&beast]

You say it like he was IN the fitting room with you, or peeping at you over the door. I really don't understand what the big deal is. But then again, I've gone into the men's dressing rooms or restrooms, or used unisex fitting rooms before. No biggie, unless someone's trying to come into my room.

If it was clear that the man was simply helping his daughter, then I'm not sure why you got so up in arms over it in the first place.

Anyway, just let it go. If that's the worst thing that happens to you all week, you're doing pretty good.

First of all, I am not "up in arms". I simply asked what others would do in this situation because I was uncomfortable.

Secondly, I have nothing to "let go", I was wondering what others think.

 

[belle&beast]

This is an honest question, not trying to start an arguement here.

But to this poster and the OP---do you use dressing rooms at stores like Old Navy and Gap that are unisex??

I wouldn't have a problem with it.

The unisex dressing rooms offer privacy. Had he turned around, he would have seen right into my fitting room because the doors are not full size.

 

[belle&beast]

I might have been surprised to hear the voice. But honestly I think it wouldn't have bothered me. He was there with his daughter- and in the first stall. Not like he was parading around the fitting room. He may have even waited for a front stall for dd.
But I am not you. So I think you have every right to feel upset by it. Feelings are feelings. And I can't tell you yours are wrong. Just not the ones I think I would have felt.
More importantly did you get the dress?

I did get a dress, but not that one- it didn't fit right anyway!

 

[Michie]

The unisex dressing rooms offer privacy. Had he turned around, he would have seen right into my fitting room because the doors are not full size.

That is the way most if not all of the stores where I shop, dressing rooms are. I know when I am standing outside the dressing when my DD is trying on clothes, I can see her.

They way I look at it, if a man is going to see me half naked, I better get a movie and a meal out of it!

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I probably would have jumped hearing a man's voice in a woman's fitting room, but once I realized he was helping his daughter, I probably wouldn't have minded. OP, I certainly understand why you would be uncomfortable though

I also see nothing wrong with a woman wanting a second opinion on something she's tried on. As long as someone's not hogging a dressing room for half an hour, I see nothing wrong with it.

 

[Andy B]

I am not trying to cause trouble, just looking for opinions.

I think the surprise of it made me uncomfortable. And I think if I were reading this post, I would feel like it was no big deal, but when I was the half naked woman in the dressing room with a strange man, it was a different story.

But you were not in the room with him were you? you were in your own cubicle and YOU looked over at him.

 

[Ladybison]

None of the scenarios mentioned would bother me the least little bit. If the man was walking around deliberately looking over the doors. I'd be PO'ed. I've heard male voices several times and it's never bothered me.

I wonder how some of you would feel about some of the dressing rooms in NYC. Some have no door, no curtain. Some are just a big room with hooks. And the husbands sitting outside the dressing room- why should I care about what someone else is doing?

Once I was in a womens clothing store in Atlanta and a gay guy came into the fitting room. He was buying a blazer and wanted to see it from all angles and only the dressing room had that 3 way mirror thing. Some women stared but didn't say anything. When I came out I said, "Oh that looks so nice on you." It did.

 

[LiteBrite]

I would have understood why the man needed to be there with his daughter, but I would still have been uncomfortable. This situation does not compare to the Old Navy dressing rooms, which have a full door that locks. There is no way that anyone could see me in there.

With the kind of doors the OP is describing, whatever the guy's intentions were, he could easily have seen her undressed without even trying hard, and possibly even by accident, and that would definitely make me uncomfortable. I probably wouldn't complain, just due to the circumstances, but I still wouldn't enjoy being in there.

 

[MushyMushy]

I won't even go into a fitting room that doesn't have a locking, full door, so the point is kinda moot. I get uncomfortable with half doors and curtains even with just women around, so I take the clothes home to try on.

And I'm with JunieJay about the scenario she described -- very weird. I value my husband's opinion about the clothes I buy, but I don't need him to hold my hand when I'm shopping.