A Little Moral Support Pls - Thanks all for your msgs :)

[Tigger&Belle]

Dan, many to you. I hope that your family grows to totally accept you. Nobody should have to live a lie, especially regarding something as paramount as this.

 

[Saxton]

Dan, I just wanted to send my support and well wishes too. It sounds like your mom is coming around and I'm sure your dad will also, he just needs time to process it. I'll also keep your family in my prayers for all the health issues you're dealing with. Make sure you keep us all posted.

 

[paigevz]

Looks like you already have tons of support here Dan, but I'll add mine in anyway. It takes a good deal of courage to finally decide to live your truth when that isn't the "norm". It's extremely difficult, and made so much more so by not knowing who among your people will still be there when the dust settles. I am glad they seem to be sticking by you. I do hope they stick with you 100% and love you like parents should. I don't want to sound patronizing, but I am proud of you!

 

[debbiedoo]

Adding support and encouragement families sometimes do not accept things right away, but they usually will come around. I am happy for you coming forth and letting out your true self. It will all be ok

 

[Caropooh]

Dan, add me to your support group! I've never been where you are right now, but my sister is a lesbian. Our Dad passed away in 1999, I don't know if she ever came out to him and if so, what his reaction was. I know that she came out to my Mom and she still loves her the same. She has never come out to me, but I know anyway. We aren't close, but it doesn't change my feelings for her. She is still my sister and I love her. She is a very sad person and at 50 years old has never had a relationship with either sex.(that I'm aware of) I hope that some day she does find true happiness with someone. I hope you also do. I'm sure it was very hard to tell your parents, but I would also think a weight has been lifted from your shoulders. Just remember that for every person that turns their back on you, there will be another that welcomes you with open arms.

 

[disneynutt1225]

I've never been in your shoes, but I wanted to stop by and lend another shoulder of support.

 

[Aimee K]

Sending you and your family lots of love and light. It sounds like this has been a rough time for all of you in differrent ways, health, change, but I am so glad you were able to begin to live your truth

 

[snowwhitesmom]

Hang in there, hun, and consider yourself hugged!!!!

 

[tevagirl]

Hang in there, hun, and consider yourself hugged!!!!

Dan, trust me when I tell you even a gay guy would love a hug from this one!

 

[Mickey Fliers]

You are very brave! Positive energy and hugs coming from me as well!

 

[Froggyswife]

Dan, trust me when I tell you even a gay guy would love a hug from this one!

Yeah she gives big ol mama bear hugs.

 

[NewJersey]

Sending some support!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Dan, trust me when I tell you even a gay guy would love a hug from this one!

Yeah she gives big ol mama bear hugs.

That's not all...

Dan, I hope that things are going better each and every day.

 

[R.S.Winters]

thanks again to everyone

family r getting sorted gradually.

i think it'll be ok from here on in... FINALLY lol

thanks so much to everyone. all your kind messages made me feel so much better and worth while. helped a great deal. i wasnt sure about posting here the other day, but now i'm glad i did



DAN.

 

[SamIAm21]

Just wanted to stop by and let you know that I am thinking of you and hoping your days are getting better. RickinNYC mentioned on another thread that a DIS'er could use some support, so here I am.

I know how it is to crack under pressure, where you feel like you can't hide anymore. I've never had to break your particular news, but there's something about a crisis that seems to bring everything to a head.

There are a lot of people out there who admire your ability to be true to yourself. Many years from now, you'll look back and realize that that moment was a defining moment!

 

[Parkhopper]

Please add my support to the long list of others! I will be saying a prayer that your family continue to accept and love you for who you are.

Suzi

 

[RickinNYC]

thanks again to everyone

family r getting sorted gradually.

i think it'll be ok from here on in... FINALLY lol

thanks so much to everyone. all your kind messages made me feel so much better and worth while. helped a great deal. i wasnt sure about posting here the other day, but now i'm glad i did

DAN.

We got your back dude. Post whenever you need an "ear". There are those of us that will pray for you and pray hard as all git out, just so that you find the wisdom to make the right choices and the strength of support when you need it. And the choice you made, the ONLY choice involved, to tell your folks was the right one. Good for you!

If I were in your neck of the woods, I'd buy you a pint. Not for courage, you clearly already have that. But for good fellowship.

 

[Crankyshank]

Dan,
I wanted to come over here and to let you know, even though we don't "know" each other, that what you did was an amazingly brave thing and I am proud of you. Be strong, keep your head held high, and be true to yourself. Know that you are loved and supported for who you are and not who you think you should be.

 

[TinkerbellMama]

Way to go, Dan! It's always better to be shunned for who you are than embraced for living a lie. I know it's hard right now but in the end I think you'll see coming out was the right thing to do! Just think--now you can work on developing an honest, meaningful relationship with your family members...vs. spending the rest of your life hiding your true identity from them (and they probably would have known anyway, but the silence does drive a wedge between people). I have a cousin in his 60s who is gay and EVERYONE knows he's gay, but it's never been openly discussed in our family. Well, except by me and my parents/siblings. It's super creepy to me that no one acknowledges the fact that he's gay! And the entire family DOES love and support him...they just don't mention anything about him being gay, so I know for a fact that not coming out and talking about it creates its own problems aside from rejection. Good luck to you and hang in there! I'm sure your family will come around.

 

[debster812]

You have support and prayers, as many as you need. You have taken that INCREDIBLY difficult first step, to living your life as 'you'. In a day, a week, a month, and a year, it will get progressively easier.

I have a cousin who was inadvertandtly 'outed' by his partner's father's obituary. His 72 year old mother was shocked and hurt, but she is OK now.