Well, we are not moving to Florida


My DH dropped the ball, didn't follow up, and the detailer gave the job to someone else. I am SO, SO, SO angry at DH and at the detailer right now.
So now we get to "choose" between
Japan (which I think would be awesome, but DH won't consider)
Everett, Washington (I didn't know there was a town named after my DS)
San Diego, CA (the thought of driving cross country with two cats and a toddler, no thank you)
Bahrain or Afganistan- for a year deployment
Norfolk, VA (which DH wants to take)
Really, my idea option would be for DH to take the year in Bahrain, and for DS and I to either move back to Florida solo or just live with my parents.
Before you think I'm totally heartless, DH is guaranteed
at least one 7-8 month deployment in Norfolk, plus various exercises, which would mean conservatively he would be gone for at least 9 months. Of course, if anything goes wrong anywhere (hurricane, earthquake, tsunami, famine, Libya, etc), he will have to go out again, so he could potentially be gone for LONGER than year.
If we take this job in Norfolk that means we have to commit to two more years of being jerked around by the military, but his commitment is up in May of 2013, so if he does the year in Bahrain we can just be completely done with the military when it is over. That is a very appealing idea to me.
I don't think
potentially spending three extra months together is worth having to live in dirty Norfolk, which is extremely high crime and really depressing, with the worst environment military bases have to offer (strip clubs, seedy bars, pawn shops).
If he won't do the year, I can't force him, but I am so, so disappointed. I was really looking forward to moving back into MY house, returning to MY job, spending time with MY friends and enjoying life in MY state. Instead I have to do triage, deciding between the least worst options.
Truthfully, I'm not really even looking forward to my upcoming trips anymore, because it just highlights what I won't be able to enjoy while trapped in Norfolk.
