dear pbager......
.
..with great interest, i read your response. it has become my
feeling,..that no life..is a waste of time. ever. no matter the
how short the timeline is... & that there are
"dynamics" ..way beyond our meager understandings.
..lately...my strongest feeling...about gaining value/s thru life..
is~ simple awarness...leading to greater apprication...on what
can easily be missed, misunderstood and/or taken for granted.
recycle...is only a new concept to us..but has ..been around on
earth...for ages. therefore, any life, touching= connecting to
another...goes on..in mind & spirit.
on my side of the fence, i have loss alot of memories that depended
on what otehrs told me. and then there are those...that are no
longer...living but are very, very dear.
yes, i think your observation.."we are still losing way too many newborns",
is accurate.
. we - [ the staff ], were discussing...my work
related experiences.., and rightly so, they added its been 30 years. [ a
significant amount of time]...however, * not completely..cos our kids
were born..in the early/late 80's/ and lat 90's. what good is our fancy
monitors...when they are not there/or asleep {don't understand}..
the warning signs? ..with jordan..i "howled"...so she got immediately
reactions..& there you go..how sad..even if one lil'one..is deny
life...becos others..we pay $$$, was..not paying attention? sadly,
there have been alot more..lost. sometimes, there are worst things..
then dying..."damaging the brain". "we"..have been on both side of
the fence....blessings & great sadness.
..however, we have come a very long..way..in a short period of time.
back to the 1940's...& my family first born..never made it out
of the delivery room. A prefect baby...that required respiratory
support. my fahter talked how "hard"..the doctor "worked" to save
his life. curiously, i asked my father what he did? without even
questioning..."he dunked him first in warm water than cold".
its hard to believe, but the intensive care treatements/rooms,
were not around...until..the late 60's.
....though...no longer living..the nurses/doctors...i had the privileged
learning/working with..were developing..today...standards. we
can simple do better..by using them. & that no much to ask..or
hope for. education..is much like building the foundation and the
framing..however, without the nurse mentors'..there are no skills
for the knowledge application.[ i know this from those giving me
every single insight i practiced today.]. it's so
depressing,
knowing..so much "great" knowledge..is not being used..cos of
a system...protecting...their selfish interests. { blood $$$, by
my opinion].
not only life preserving but as easy..as pie...that is also the frustration,
of those ..doing the work...that knows better.
* tell me?....what do you think?..we have admins..allowing
nursing home candiates..be placed..in our ward..acute pysch>/
think its abuse?..or permitting clients admissions..without the staffing
available...forcing staff..to work over and over. how good can care
be..if the staff...is facing dangerous clients...& totally exhausted.
the same people...then will turned around..and scape goat..staff
giving. or how would like to be a young graduate..."told"..you have
...to do the life/death doctoring....in an intensive care unit..cos
the covering..dr. , has no icu knowledge..& i mean zero? where's
the real abuse is occuring? back to the future, ..
....some miscarriages..are nature way. i believe that, some
life systems..,while well-desigend...can be adverse-effected,
by alot of factors..like genetics. while there are too many...
miscarriages.....that could/should have been prevented.
a long time ago..in 2 separate incidents, there were 2 lil ' miracles
that...will always..stay with me. both were boys. however, in
medical circles..it is true..if a delivery...running into diffculties..
the staff..is hoping...for a girl...due to their abilties to over come
& survive.
* what raised the diffculties..levels..was the rn assigned to us..
was a nursery nurse..with very lil'ob experience.
& it
got worst...from that. any ob nurses?...another...factor....was
missing his date..* he was in the "oven"..almost..a month over..
[ after 40 weeks..the life support systems..begin to deteriorate
...& we were in their "birthing" room...when we needed a c-section
and no doctors...in the hospital...with a baby head..way too
big...for his own good....
, ..all i could do...was whispered...
to my wife, honey-we're in alot of trouble..& its all up to you. god
bless!..my lil'miracle worker...
, so any
dcl she desires, i am
happy to give. to me, she is the best.
however, iam
...for the other losses..
Just drove past Robert Mondavi winery today. I could grab my own bottle, put some wine in a travel mug, wrap up some cheese in foil, bring a baggie of grapes, and pop a squat along the parade route. 
I mean things were bad enough with new house and DH not getting overtime almost the ENTIRE year last year (which cuts our income in half btw and that's never happened in all the years he's worked there! figures huh?) -but then they also changed the vacation rules for him. He used to be able to take the vacation pay whenever he wanted- then take off for his vacation and just not get paid during that time- which works perfectly for paying way ahead for vacations right? well now they will only do either/or. If he takes the vacation pay now to pay for the vacation- he can't have the time off later to actually GO on the vacation- he's just being "paid off" for the vacation. 
......
aboard to all the newbies
