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[Pembo]

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[RNMOM]

Yep, you have your hands full.

Sometimes a quiet discussion about what was done, why it is wrong and what can be done better can be just as effective. It also catches them off guard.

If he seems to be always needing punishment/correction, try the above for a little while and see if things get a little better. Try to get him on your side to do the right things. Good luck.

 

[doxdogy]

My nephew was just like your son at that age. I found that if I sat down and explained to him why the behavior was unacceptable it helped. The hardest part was making him understand that he was responsible for his behavior and that if he made the wrong decision that it was his choice and therefore he had to bare the brunt of the punishment for making the wrong decision.

 

[shortbun]

When I find DS having a week like this, I know something else
is happening. BTW, what's with the one hand on the cart? I
hate when DS holds the cart, seems to slow me down and make
me tired, LOL! Your DS is smart to test the rules like he does.
If you could find some other way to deal rather than take things
away, it doesn't seem to be working. Not a flame but an
observation, mine just turned 9 last week. I have a VERY active
and VERY smart 9yo, he is always testing me. I try really hard
to keep him busy so he stays out of trouble. I really avoid taking
him into stores. When he was 3, he said," I don't like the grocery store, it makes me feel sad." He still feels that way, We NEVER
go as a family-too hard on the kids therfore too hard on me.

 

[The Sweetness]

Is the little ^angel^ bored? Just be sure to think a decision through before you opt for harsh discipline. After all, he does have to learn how to behave, but still, he is just a little boy.

Try, if you can, in the next couple of days, to give yourself a little treat to unwind~ A long bath, a favorite meal, or a couple of quiet hours at Barnes and Noble. Sounds like you REALLY need it

 

[suz72]

I feel exactly the same way about DD4. I am waiting "impatiently" for kindergarten to start.

Going to the grocery store with DD4 and DD1 is a nightmare. My problem is that she constantly hangs on the cart (which she is not allowed to do). She has tipped over those smaller carts (Old Navy) 3 times in the past year...with DD1 in them.

She doesn't mean to harm anyone...always wants my attention (positive or negative)...drives me bananas.

I worked as a teacher for 8 years, so I've dealt with handfuls before...but geez, this has been a long summer.

One book I bought gives some good advice, I got it at Amazon... Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (Paperback)

Helped give me insight into my daughter's personality...I know she thrives on routine, activities, etc.....so summer is hard for her.

HTH, Susan

 

[Pembo]

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[piglet too]

Sorry that he is pushing your buttons so much right now. I think that was about the age that my oldest decided he was too cool to hold onto the cart and stuff like that. The first thing that came to my mind (after thinking he is acting his age) is that maybe he is acting out due to all thea has happened in his life these past few months. Maybe when school starts up he can sit down with the school counselor and have a nice talk.

Please do not take this as my saying you and your husband have done anything wrong! I don't know if he has already been talking to someone or not. But, I know that sometimes we tend to overlook that the kids are feeling the problems too. I know that my oldest DS went to his teacher to talk a lot the last few months of school. As much as we had tried to shelter our money problems from the kids, he knew and it bothered him. The same with when he saw an elderly neighbor die from a heart attack, he lashed out in a lot of the ways your son is now and we did not put two and two together at first. When it finally hit us, and he talked to someone, it turned out that it had been the root of pretty much all his behavior.

I hope this all settles down for you soon!

 

[Pembo]

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[parrothead365]

We still go through times when our 11yo DS does dumb stuff. I think he has momentary bouts of stupidity. From what I get from our friends that have lived through these ages already, it is a normal thing they go through. So I wouldn't worry too much. Just be consistent.