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[onecoolmama]

help your son talk to them himself. I think it would be good for everyone if he said something to them!

 

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[msdznyduck]

Where is your DH? He should be talking to them, with or without your son......they are his parents.

 

[FroggyinArk]

personaly i would keep my kids home,,let the grandparents wonder why they are suddenly not seeing them,, get your kids a small pool to play in, try and find other kids ( not relatives) and have them over , take your klids to the park or playground, find things to keep the kids occupied, the grands will see the rror in thier actions, or the kids will see that the grands really arent that grand take dd and get her nails done professionally, let her see the "SMART" ( PROFESSIONAL) ladies at the salon getrting manicures and she might change her mind but i would not let the kids go to grands for awhiole,

 

[floridafam]

I say enjoy your life and just tell the kids not to go down there for a while.

They don't sound like they are ever going to admit they favor the girls.

My Mom felt that her Mother favored her brother their entire lives. She still feels that way. She kept trying to do everything to please her Mother.

Don't waste your time and don't let your kids waste their time doing the same thing.

Good luck.

 

[hercamore]

I guess I'd keep my kids away unless they were specially invited.

also, yes have your dh talk to his parents.

I just don't comphrhend how grandparents can treat their grandkids differently like that. Yet it happens all the time.


herc.

 

[Kallison]

Oh man I feel for you. My ILS were the same way - favored my SIL's kids. The oldest DS is 14 now and had favored my Mom over his MIL for years. It is her loss. She doesn't know her grandkids. I agree - your DH s hould confront his parents and then keep your kids away. That can be so damaging to the poor kid and use specific examples.

 

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[Scratch42]

If your DH isn't man enough to talk to his parents and deal with this situation then don't subject the children to this!

It's a shame that children are always the ones to suffer for adults who are selfish!

Good Luck and give your kids a hug!

Scratch

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Yes it is OK to tell your kids not to go down there BUT speaking from experience it does not work. I live it too. Then you get into what about holidays & family get togethers? Are you planning on cutting them out completely? If not then the kids are confused. They will say why can't they go over there _______, but I have to go there for this event??? Then it turns into a power struggle with your Dh & his family. UGH, it really stinks!

A real solution for you would be to move. Otherwise I would just deal with it. Try and explain as best as you can why grandma & grandpa behaves in a certain way toward him. Sometimes it is time for the truth.

Do you see your parents? That is my saving grace, my mom.

 

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[karebear1]

Good luck!

 

[Beth76]

What a terrible situation to be in. I absolutely feel that there is no reason you need to have any of those people in your life. I don't care if they are "family". They're not treating you like "family" at all. If they were simply friends or neighbors, what would you do? I don't think you need to feel guilty about not inviting them over or not allowing your children to go over there anymore. It sounds like sending your children over there is much more hurtful than anything. Why expose them to that, just for "family's sake". It's not worth it. They need to earn a place in your lives.

 

[kilee]

Obviously it doesn't matter to them-- you say you went six months w/o speaking and this didn't get their attention?? If DH can't straighten it out-- then give up. I wouldn't allow them to hurt my kids. They are in the wrong and personally I wouldn't allow it. I would also expect DH to really, really do something about it though too.