A couple of things for this post:
First off be aware that the wearing a loud shirt at the pool thing may sometimes back fire on you. One year I got one of those shirts for my husband. The only problem was that he fell asleep on the bed before we made it out to the pool and got lost in one of those hotel bed spreads. It took us DAYS to find him and we think it was on purpose too! Now we keep snacks on hand to lure him out of his hiding place so he joins us on vacation. A well placed placed Oreo cookie is irresistable to a cranky husband. Throw in a beer and he'll follow you everywhere.
Now for the second thing..... There is a thread for people who hate the Beach Club????? GEEZ!!
OK, here comes the third thing. There is no such thing as a bad parent when that parent is letting their child carefully spread their wings in a well supervised setting. Only the parent of a particular child would be in a position to "judge" whether that child is capable of some level of independence. Listen to what other people have to say but don't be intimidated or allow yourself to feel judged. Just try to think of it as another source of info that you may want to consider when making your decision. Only you know your children the best.
Just my 2 cents....
Marlton Mom