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[C.Ann]

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[luvwinnie]

May I ask why Bratz dolls are offensive? I don't know much about them, so I'm sincerely curious.

 

[Beth E. (NJ)]

Oy I feel for you. I think you did the right thing by telling. What else could you have done -- lie to them about not seeing the list? Too easy to get caught that way.

But wait you're saying that in the past an adult gave her money specifically for Bratz items? Did this person know that no Bratz rule?

Personally, I'm not a big fan or Bratz dolls but my daughters like them. They are 8 and 11. To them they are just like any other Barbie type doll. They do know that I do not like the Bratz big babies. I explained to them that I do not like a baby doll that is dressed up like a grown up. I wont' buy them.

 

[Pop Daddy]

take the problem people campimg

 

[Beth76]

I don't see how this is on you at all. MIL shared her list with you and she didn't say it was a surprise. This is between her and your SIL and daughter--not you. She knew what she was getting into.

 

[kejoda]

May I ask why Bratz dolls are offensive? I don't know much about them, so I'm sincerely curious.

They are built weird and dress like tramps. At least thats my thought on those.

C.Ann come to MN. It would be a blast listening to all your stories.

As for the MIL should your dd and SIL be surprised after what she pulled on your DGD's birthday?

 

[HelenePA]

they look like dolls that should be standing on the street corner if you ask me... they aren't allowed in my house or wanted by my girls *whew*

I'm sorry your dealing with holiday drama... I hope you can get this all worked out

 

[mom2grace]

You so did the RIGHT thing!

Think about from this perspective (and maybe laugh a little):

You and MIL are sisters, 10 & 8. MIL did something she wasn't supposed to, she broke a house rule. Wouldn't you tell? Wouldn't the punishment be worse if you knew and didn't tell?!

Imagine the disaster on the day you would be opening gifts, DGD opens the Bratz gifts, is over the moon, DD and DSIL are irate, and there is a big blow up at Christmas.

A big blow up now is better than during the celebration!

We also have a no Bratz rule (as well as Cheetah Girls) and I expect that my parents and in-laws abide by it. Also, some toys my parents buy and I tell them that it's fine, but they toys will stay at the grandparents' house, and that's the deal, and it's fine.

My kids are 5 & 3.

 

[lulugirl]

Well, I think the whole "outrage" some parents feel over Bratz dolls is silly.

That said...the other Grandma knew about the no Bratz rule and disregarded it, I find that really disrespectful.
You did the right thing IMO, sorry you're caught in the middle.

 

[C.Ann]

When it comes to what my DD and her DH feel is appropriate for my DGD I keep my nose out of it.. I'm her Grandma - not her parents - and therefore I abide by their rules..

 

[Hedy]

I don't think it's your fault, but I can see why this is stressful.

 

[BionicEar]

I can't stand those ugly things. They look like hookers.

Thankfully, dd doesn't like them. But they are still banned here. Funny thing is a lot of the mothers at my kids' school have banned them too.

 

[Pam]

take the problem people campimg

Yeah - one trip to the lake with the MIL will do the trick!!

 

[mickeyboat]

CAnn - don't worry about it. It's not your problem. MIL knew the rules and she broke them, it's for her and the kids to sort out.

I don't like the Bratz dolls, either. I will not buy them, but I have not imposed a ban in my house. We have received as gifts the Bratz Twister game and a Bratz make-up game. The kids didn't really express any desire for Bratz dolls, and I didn't make a big deal about them, so no worries.

Maybe if MIL's gifts are Bratz-related but not the actual trampy Bratz dolls, your DD might be o.k. with them. The skating rink thing looks pretty cool!

Denae

 

[bjgrazi]

Come on over to Joisey we have room for you!!

You didn't do anything wrong. Some people just love to

Happy Holidays!!!!

 

[Saphire]

Since both you and Marie knew about the 'no Bratz rule', why didn't you ask her why she disregarded it when she told you she had purchased them?

 

[minniecarousel]

That wowan is a piece of work. I agree - it's better that it come out now rather than on Christmas. I think it stinks that you're caught in the middle.

Hang in there!

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

You have expressed a desire to stay out of it. That's the right call. The opportunity to stay out of it should have been taken when the inquiry as to what they bought happened. Your response should have been to say they'll have to ask them themselves. That takes you out of it entirely. That way, you don't get blamed for being the messenger.

 

[luvmy2sams]

You're in the right here, CAnn. Think of how much worse it would have been if DGD opened all these lovely packages on Christmas, and then your DD found out that you knew what was coming. MIL is just asking for it, IMO, since she knows the "No Bratz" rules.

For the record this is the only line of toys that are not allowed in our home. Tramp dolls would be a glorified name for what DH and I call them. Nasty!

 

[C.Ann]

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