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[mickeyboat]

Since both you and Marie knew about the 'no Bratz rule', why didn't you ask her why she disregarded it when she told you she had purchased them?

I would not have said anything if it was me. It is none of my business.

Denae

 

[Saphire]

I would not have said anything if it was me. It is none of my business.

Denae

If it were me I would have. I don't think speaking privately from one MIL to another is over the line. They both care about their kids and grandchild. I would simply ask, "what about the no-Bratz rule?"

 

[barkley]

your kids asked a question of you and you honestly answered it. seems like it was the appropriate thing to do.

as far as bratz go-i'm not crazy about them but dd likes them and if nothing else they have created opportunities for us to talk about appropriate choices in clothing and makeup.

 

[welovedisneyx4]

It's going to get very sticky around here after SIL talks to his Mom.. Can I come and spend the holidays at your house?????

You wouldn't want to come to our house b/c this sounds like something that would happen here!!

Things have actually gotten better over the years, but when DD10 was young, there were way too many incidents similar to this. Either the same things got purchased or one grandparent was jealous of what the other bought for DD. We still sometimes have a problem of my DM buying inappropriate things for the kids, and especially not considering our (the parents) feelings about it.

Good luck w/ it and don't let it bug you too much. Just remember that you are loved and appreciated by your DD and DSIL and your DGD!!

 

[bettyann29]

I dont particularly like Bratz dolls either.. Im just lucky DD8 is a tomboy and cant stand dolls..

 

[Mermaid02]

May I ask why Bratz dolls are offensive? I don't know much about them, so I'm sincerely curious.

They look like little baby streetwalkers.

My niece REALLY wants them for Christmas but isn't getting any- nobody will buy them.

 

[KirstenB]

It sounds like she bought a whole slew of Bratz toys. Pretty in-your-face to the parents. One toy, a little disrespectful, but it could slide. But for this to be all she bought....sheesh. Doesn't she know they'll be picking out her nursing home someday?

 

[C.Ann]

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[It's A Happy Day]

The only Ho-Ho-Ho in our house at Christmas is coming out of Santa's mouth While I haven't banned them from the house, it is known and been expressed that we do not wish to have them around I "try" to not make toys like that an out & out forbidden thing as then they really want those things just because "mom said so"

You did the right thing. Question asked & answered and end of your participation in the conversation. What goes on between the other mother has nothing to do with you. Smart to stay out of it.

 

[kejoda]

Son-in-law is on the telephone with her right now..

I'm hiding in my room...

Chicken

 

[xyzabc33]

Doesn't she know they'll be picking out her nursing home someday?

Maybe she is hoping that they take pity on her senility.


I personally dont exactly care for the Bratz dolls myself but we have a no barbie rule until 5 years old in effect around here. (we have enuf My Little Pony pieces lying around already-dont need the fashion doll shoes too LOL) My problem with them is not really the streetwalker look it is more the fact that the dolls (and I know this sounds weird) seem to be too materialistic. Like fancy clothes and sports cars and jewelry, etc. Barbie is bad enuf but the Bratz stuff just looks too bling blingy for my tastes. I will not have a problem if someone else buys one or 2 for her, but I refuse to feed into the whole " I have to support the doll toy industry" thing

Feel for ya C.Ann Dont have the grandkids yet but my mom has the need to to try to outdo my gifts to the DD. She gets ticked if I tell her my DD already has one of "those" Dont even get me started on how I am ruining xmas for everyone by wanting to visit 5 days B4 the actual day

 

[binny]

I can't stand those ugly things. They look like hookers.

Thankfully, dd doesn't like them. But they are still banned here. Funny thing is a lot of the mothers at my kids' school have banned them too.

here too.
My dd sees them in the stores or on TV and says "YUCK Bratz!"
TG cause I can stand the things! I wouldnt buy them for anyone.


Im sorry youre stuck in the Middle C.Ann you could come here but my MIL will be here and I like you too much to do that to you

 

[OceanAnnie]

I hope the issue remains the items purchased against the parents wishes. I hope it does not become deflected in order to side step the "real" problem. Some people are skilled at deflecting. I hope you aren't dealing with one of them. No fun.

 

[kdibattista]

Well.... what happened

 

[C.Ann]

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[mandy200587]

I'll send you my brother's chicken lab/rot mix. Or my so fiercious tea cup poodle

 

[Wishing on a star]

CAnn... Unless you purposefully went running to your daughter and ratted out the MIL, then you have nothing to feel bad about!!! And, it was not as if the MIL asked that it be kept a big secret, right.

Perhaps you could have told your daughter and SIL when they asked that perhaps they should call the MIL and ask her themselves. Hindsight is 20/20!!! Lesson learned!!! If you ever hear anything about MIL every again, always simply refer your daughter and SIL to ask her directly.

To those who say that CAnn should have mentioned the 'no brats' policy to the MIL, I say NO WAY!!! It was none of CAnn's business to question the MIL's choices in gifts. That is the kind of meddling that invites trouble.

This is between the parents and the MIL. Not CAnn.

 

[Serena]

C.Ann, stop feeling guilty, you've done nothing wrong.

 

[Val]

I understand the mom's position- I refuse to have a DOLL that wears thong underwear when I can't (or it would be an aesthetic moral offense!)!!!!

 

[annegal]

We also have a no Bratz rule (as well as Cheetah Girls) and I expect that my parents and in-laws abide by it. Also, some toys my parents buy and I tell them that it's fine, but they toys will stay at the grandparents' house, and that's the deal, and it's fine.

My kids are 5 & 3.

This has me curious. My very strict cousin took her DD to a Cheetah Girls concert...what's bad about them?