Your opinion?

[stargazer2892]

I would return the gifts (if you give her the receipts then she will get the money) and treat yourself to a nice lunch out. I feel bad for saying this but I'm almost hoping her new baby doesn't fit correctly in pampers and shes left with a bunch of diapers she cant use, and if she does it's blow out city. Only one of my kids fit properly in pampers, the other fit into huggies. my boss's oldest could only use target brand. So it really could happen.

 

[Dawnlight]

The shower is during the workday, and as a nurse, I rarely can just drop what I am doing to go attend. Yesterday I returned all the clothes/outfits I purchased for a refund if 56 including taxes. I purchased one big tub of "boogie wipes" for 8.99. I wrapped them and put a big bow on top. Did you know there is such a thing as boogie wipes? I laughed when I saw them. Perfect gift for a snotty mom. She said she wanted wipes. and I saved over 40 bucks.

I can just imagine what she's going to think when she opens the package, "Damn, I was specific enough!"

She's getting a lot more from you than what she deserves.

I hope you follow up, OP, I think many of us want to hear how the "sprinkle" goes.

 

[North of Mouse]

You're absolutely right--she gets nothing. If she's going to dictate exactly what she wants and basically tells you anything less isn't acceptable, write her off the list.

Someone failed to teach this ungrateful person what a 'gift' really means!!!!

 

[goofyintoronto]

You're absolutely right--she gets nothing. If she's going to dictate exactly what she wants and basically tells you anything less isn't acceptable, write her off the list.

Yep. I agree! She'd get a big ol' basket full of nothing from me!

The shower is during the workday, and as a nurse, I rarely can just drop what I am doing to go attend. Yesterday I returned all the clothes/outfits I purchased for a refund if 56 including taxes. I purchased one big tub of "boogie wipes" for 8.99. I wrapped them and put a big bow on top. Did you know there is such a thing as boogie wipes? I laughed when I saw them. Perfect gift for a snotty mom. She said she wanted wipes. and I saved over 40 bucks.

This is wonderful!

 

[Andtototoo]

I feel for you, OP. I am so tired of the entitled, spoiled attitudes when it comes to gift giving.

I have a relative, an unfortunately close relative on my dh's side. She's nice "enough," but has been spoiled by her parents and especially one particular grandparent, hence why she will be called "SB, for Spoiled Brat in this story. In his family, that level of relation has an expectation of gifts. SB has always wanted to learn how to bake, but didn't have any equipment. SB gets engaged with a date set 2 years hence. For over a year and a half and with SB's mother's knowledge and approval, I assiduously collected good--high quality bakeware because of course, only the best would do for SB! I collected them when I found them on clearance, piece by piece. I accumulated an excellent collection for a burgeoning baker, along with 2 classic cookbooks.

I get the shower invitation and noted the "Cash preferred" written on it. I did not read that as "Cash only" and sent off my gift (which cost an arm and a leg to send, btw). After more than 2 months had passed, I called to make sure she had actually gotten the gift as a little nudge. She sighed and said, "If you're expecting a thank you note, forget it. You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was CASH! Can't you read? So no thank you note for you!"

Needless to say, I did not attend nor give her a wedding gift. She had the gall to call up and ask me why. I told her, "You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was thank you note. So no wedding gift for you!"

She's no longer speaking to me. I can live pretty blissfully with that silence.

 

[DopeyDame]

The shower is during the workday, and as a nurse, I rarely can just drop what I am doing to go attend. Yesterday I returned all the clothes/outfits I purchased for a refund if 56 including taxes. I purchased one big tub of "boogie wipes" for 8.99. I wrapped them and put a big bow on top. Did you know there is such a thing as boogie wipes? I laughed when I saw them. Perfect gift for a snotty mom. She said she wanted wipes. and I saved over 40 bucks.

Absolutely, 100% perfect!

(And for the record, I have a 2.5 year old and I do love those boogie wipes!)

 

[hereyago]

Since everyone is aware of snot mom's demands I am not sure how it would be a bad mark on OP if she didnt enable the bad behavior. If my job only put my worth in if I went to every little thing or in this case enable bratty behavior instead of my real teamwoek proof,I honestly wouldnt care because they apparently have messed up priorities.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

I think your gift is perfect since you said you probably won't see her after the baby is born.

And a side note...Boogie Wipes is having a video/voting contest and guess what??? The grand prize is...A Disney Cruise!!!!!

The name of the contest is...(no joke)..Motherhood is Snot Easy, but I bet you already knew that!

 

[Rafiki31]

I feel for you, OP. I am so tired of the entitled, spoiled attitudes when it comes to gift giving.

I have a relative, an unfortunately close relative on my dh's side. She's nice "enough," but has been spoiled by her parents and especially one particular grandparent, hence why she will be called "SB, for Spoiled Brat in this story. In his family, that level of relation has an expectation of gifts. SB has always wanted to learn how to bake, but didn't have any equipment. SB gets engaged with a date set 2 years hence. For over a year and a half and with SB's mother's knowledge and approval, I assiduously collected good--high quality bakeware because of course, only the best would do for SB! I collected them when I found them on clearance, piece by piece. I accumulated an excellent collection for a burgeoning baker, along with 2 classic cookbooks.

I get the shower invitation and noted the "Cash preferred" written on it. I did not read that as "Cash only" and sent off my gift (which cost an arm and a leg to send, btw). After more than 2 months had passed, I called to make sure she had actually gotten the gift as a little nudge. She sighed and said, "If you're expecting a thank you note, forget it. You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was CASH! Can't you read? So no thank you note for you!"

Needless to say, I did not attend nor give her a wedding gift. She had the gall to call up and ask me why. I told her, "You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was thank you note. So no wedding gift for you!"

She's no longer speaking to me. I can live pretty blissfully with that silence.

Ugh, you we better off being cut off from each other. Think of all the grief it will save you.

 

[Dawnlight]

I feel for you, OP. I am so tired of the entitled, spoiled attitudes when it comes to gift giving.

I have a relative, an unfortunately close relative on my dh's side. She's nice "enough," but has been spoiled by her parents and especially one particular grandparent, hence why she will be called "SB, for Spoiled Brat in this story. In his family, that level of relation has an expectation of gifts. SB has always wanted to learn how to bake, but didn't have any equipment. SB gets engaged with a date set 2 years hence. For over a year and a half and with SB's mother's knowledge and approval, I assiduously collected good--high quality bakeware because of course, only the best would do for SB! I collected them when I found them on clearance, piece by piece. I accumulated an excellent collection for a burgeoning baker, along with 2 classic cookbooks.

I get the shower invitation and noted the "Cash preferred" written on it. I did not read that as "Cash only" and sent off my gift (which cost an arm and a leg to send, btw). After more than 2 months had passed, I called to make sure she had actually gotten the gift as a little nudge. She sighed and said, "If you're expecting a thank you note, forget it. You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was CASH! Can't you read? So no thank you note for you!"

Needless to say, I did not attend nor give her a wedding gift. She had the gall to call up and ask me why. I told her, "You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was thank you note. So no wedding gift for you!"

She's no longer speaking to me. I can live pretty blissfully with that silence.

What an entitled ungracious witch! Your gift was so thoughtful and took effort to assemble! I hope whatever she bakes burns.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I feel for you, OP. I am so tired of the entitled, spoiled attitudes when it comes to gift giving.

I have a relative, an unfortunately close relative on my dh's side. She's nice "enough," but has been spoiled by her parents and especially one particular grandparent, hence why she will be called "SB, for Spoiled Brat in this story. In his family, that level of relation has an expectation of gifts. SB has always wanted to learn how to bake, but didn't have any equipment. SB gets engaged with a date set 2 years hence. For over a year and a half and with SB's mother's knowledge and approval, I assiduously collected good--high quality bakeware because of course, only the best would do for SB! I collected them when I found them on clearance, piece by piece. I accumulated an excellent collection for a burgeoning baker, along with 2 classic cookbooks.

I get the shower invitation and noted the "Cash preferred" written on it. I did not read that as "Cash only" and sent off my gift (which cost an arm and a leg to send, btw). After more than 2 months had passed, I called to make sure she had actually gotten the gift as a little nudge. She sighed and said, "If you're expecting a thank you note, forget it. You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was CASH! Can't you read? So no thank you note for you!"

Needless to say, I did not attend nor give her a wedding gift. She had the gall to call up and ask me why. I told her, "You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was thank you note. So no wedding gift for you!"

She's no longer speaking to me. I can live pretty blissfully with that silence.

Just when I thought that there could be no real new scenarios.

Good for you. You had put so much thought into your gift. It's sad she couldn't appreciate it. She lost a lot more than just the cash, in my estimation.

 

[Pixiedustaway]

I don't necessarily think this is one of those "in my area" things. Some people are just rude. Here we include a registry card, but people are free to do as they please. I'm glad you saved yourself some money, op. I'd stay far, far away from this woman

 

[Bluestars]

I feel for you, OP. I am so tired of the entitled, spoiled attitudes when it comes to gift giving.

I have a relative, an unfortunately close relative on my dh's side. She's nice "enough," but has been spoiled by her parents and especially one particular grandparent, hence why she will be called "SB, for Spoiled Brat in this story. In his family, that level of relation has an expectation of gifts. SB has always wanted to learn how to bake, but didn't have any equipment. SB gets engaged with a date set 2 years hence. For over a year and a half and with SB's mother's knowledge and approval, I assiduously collected good--high quality bakeware because of course, only the best would do for SB! I collected them when I found them on clearance, piece by piece. I accumulated an excellent collection for a burgeoning baker, along with 2 classic cookbooks.

I get the shower invitation and noted the "Cash preferred" written on it. I did not read that as "Cash only" and sent off my gift (which cost an arm and a leg to send, btw). After more than 2 months had passed, I called to make sure she had actually gotten the gift as a little nudge. She sighed and said, "If you're expecting a thank you note, forget it. You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was CASH! Can't you read? So no thank you note for you!"

Needless to say, I did not attend nor give her a wedding gift. She had the gall to call up and ask me why. I told her, "You didn't give me what I wanted -- which was thank you note. So no wedding gift for you!"

She's no longer speaking to me. I can live pretty blissfully with that silence.

Unbelievable. I would have asked her to return the gift to me since she didn't want it. I love your response to her about the wedding.

 

[TheSchragFamily]

Hey, those Boogie Wipes are awesome! We have them and use them everyday! Used one just a few minutes ago, in fact! I think you did the perfect thing. What a ridiculously entitled brat!

 

[HM]

As much as I'd be tempted not to get her anything at all, since it is a coworker I'd probably return the gifts I bought and give her a package of wipes to keep the peace. Work isn't the time or place to be taking a stand against rudeness/stupidity; it is too likely to come back to bite you later.

However, it would serve her right if Pampers didn't work out for the baby. I'd never do a "diapers and wipes" party, as an experienced mom, because we ended up using a different brand for each kid based on fit and skin sensitivity. What worked for one was a dismal failure on the next.

Yeah, my son fit Pampers best and my DD used Huggies. We had to experiment to find what worked best for each since their body shapes were so different.

 

[dakcp2001]

The shower is Friday and from the buzz I've heard at work today, it's going to be an interesting shower. I am actually going to try to attend, because I have a feeling there won't be a lot of pampers and wipes in the gift pile. No one is really saying what they got, but everyone's been giggling.

 

[Bluestars]

The shower is Friday and from the buzz I've heard at work today, it's going to be an interesting shower. I am actually going to try to attend, because I have a feeling there won't be a lot of pampers and wipes in the gift pile. No one is really saying what they got, but everyone's been giggling.

Please let us know!

 

[Ceila]

The shower is Friday and from the buzz I've heard at work today, it's going to be an interesting shower. I am actually going to try to attend, because I have a feeling there won't be a lot of pampers and wipes in the gift pile. No one is really saying what they got, but everyone's been giggling.

Hmm, should we start taking guesses? How about a gift certificate to a diaper service?

 

[DopeyDame]

The shower is Friday and from the buzz I've heard at work today, it's going to be an interesting shower. I am actually going to try to attend, because I have a feeling there won't be a lot of pampers and wipes in the gift pile. No one is really saying what they got, but everyone's been giggling.

Oh pretty please, go and report back!

 

[Dawnlight]

The shower is Friday and from the buzz I've heard at work today, it's going to be an interesting shower. I am actually going to try to attend, because I have a feeling there won't be a lot of pampers and wipes in the gift pile. No one is really saying what they got, but everyone's been giggling.

You've got a crowd of curious DISers waiting to hear about the snot-nosed brat's shower!

Hmm, should we start taking guesses? How about a gift certificate to a diaper service?

My guess- Depends!