You can't wear what to school?????

[disneyofcourse]

So , I got this call from my little sister who just started middle school. I had just bought her some new clothing for her birthday. Well, basically everything I got her she can't wear!! They have a NO SKIRTS RULE?? Its a public school to. I made her try on each skirt before buying them and three came right to the knee and one went right below the knee. When she puts her hands by her side she still has about 6? inches of fabric at least. Plus I bought her a pair of tights and this school is just saying no to any skirts. Even the other skirts have shorts attached underneath so even if she rolled around outside all you can see would be shorts. I also got her these cute T-shirts and she can't wear those because they show to much arm??? OMG what the heck is going on with school rules?? The sleaves are to short is what they told her. Heres actually one of the ones I bought her. http://www.target.com/gp/detail.htm...-9511831?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&asin=B000QTWHEW

They made her put on a jacket and she complained to them saying it was too hot in the classroom and she didn't feel well. I swear if I didn't live a few states away I would march myself up to that school. She also said they can't wear anything shorter than capri pants. Even in gym shorts arn't allowed?

Ofcourse I even bought them in a size bigger than what she wears so it wouldn't be skin tight(shes growing and doesn't want to show but doesn't want to wear a bra yet) So pretty much a waste of money. At least she can wear clothing on weekends and just wear blankets to school. She also said you can't high five people or basically touch anyone because they'll send you home.

All I have to ask is what happend? I went to middle school 11 or so years ago and nothing was ever said about clothing.

 

[dolphinrescuegirl]

Wow!!! I'm left speechless. Thats really too bad.

 

[KelNottAt]

That's a shame.

 

[mrsklamc]

At my last job you could wear skirts but not skorts...I always wanted ask if they were really going to check.

 

[DisneyPolve]

Our local school district where DH teaches and son goes, there is a long list of items you can NOT wear to school......starting with flip flops, open toe shoes, tank tops, hoop earrings, shirts that promote violence, sexuality, laziness, or disrespects authority. Girls can not wear sweatpants or shorts with saying on the butt ( which I never understood in the first place, but thats because you could put a sentence on mine......lol). There are more but I have a 6 year old boy, so other then the sandals and some t-shirts it doesn't pertain to us. However, I don't really agree with the tank top, flip flop and sandal rules, we are a beach community....we live less the 2 miles from the ocean and delaware bay, and both schools are less then 1/4 mile.

 

[writersblock42]

While I think that a no skirts rule is going a little far, I do believe in a dress code at school. I think that students should be comfortable while they are learning, but I also think that school especially high school and even starting a little in middle school is supposed to start preparing students for the professional world. I think that they need to learn that different clothes are appropriate for different environments. For safety reasons, I can see the reasons for no flip flops and for modest/looking nice reasons I can see the no tank tops, no short skirts, no writing on the butt, stuff like that.
A lot of schools are going more and more toward the uniform-but having the uniform be slacks, a polo shirt or something like that-especially in the south where there seems to be the biggest dress code violations.

 

[irish dancer]

Yikes, what area does your little sis go to school? My DDs go to Catholic school with an 80yr old nun as a principal so the rules are strict but they wear shorts in gym and they have walking shorts as part of their uniform for Sept and May (Oct-Apr jumpers/skirts only). I know the public schools around here have some rules but nothing like you mention.

 

[oldbay]

Wow. I am not 100 percent sure but while teaching we had some girls that only wore skirts because of their religious beliefs. I cannot remember what religion they were but they wore skirts every day to public school. I would think some parents would have a problem with a no skirt rule.

 

[neatokimmo]

That is a shame, I don't see anything wrong with that top, it's cute!

I look around at all the kids that are showing things they've not even got yet. Its nice to see cute little girl clothes that aren't contributing to that older than you look girl look.

 

[funnygarcia]

No skirts?

What about children with religious beliefs that can ONLY wear skirts, such as muslim girls, they often wear skirts plus there other coverings. And mennonite faith, deeply religious christian groups, etc... .

I wonder if their rules violate the students rights?

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I worked at a child care center that would not allow us to wear shorts (only capri length), but that didn't stop one of my young co-workers from wearing a tight skirt. Not a revealing mini skirt, but she looked .. ummm ...cute.
I think the shorts would have been more appropriate in a preschool setting.

 

[luv2nascar]

We are having the same issued with DD12s middle school 7th grade. She has been called out of class twice due to clothing issues. Unbelievable. Honestly she dresses conservatively. She is tall for 12 - 5'7" ish. So shorts on her that are long on other people are average for her. Anyways they have a no shorts or skirts 3 inches above the knee rule. We got new shorts for school and got a call home to bring pants they were too short. I measured them at home they were not. Then she was sent my her homeroom teacher to the principal to check her shirt. He thought there was not enough sleeve??? ***
Principal said it was okay but it seems like harassement to me. They are soooo stick with these kids it is unreal.

 

[Andrea from PA]

All this makes me glad my kids have a uniform!

This would annoy me -- if the rules are so strict then why don't the schools just go to a uniform & tell you exactly what to buy & where to shop. At least then the students wouldn't get pulled from class or sent home!

 

[DiznNut]

My kids go to public school and we have a rule on the length shorts must be and they must be at least two inches below the tip of the longest finger when arms are by your side. No tank tops unless there is a shirt with sleeves underneath it. Skorts are preferred but skirts are allowed as long as they follow the shorts length rule. Nothing indecent in print on clothing, if so they have the option of wearing clothing inside out or going home to change. Students aren't allowed to have "droopy bottoms" on where their underwear is exposed. My son's principal told the boys last year that if they had a problem keeping their pants up where they should be that he had some rope in his office that he would be more than happy to give them to keep their pants up where they belong; and the principal received a standing ovation from the parents.

 

[FoodLover]

So , I got this call from my little sister who just started middle school. I had just bought her some new clothing for her birthday. Well, basically everything I got her she can't wear!! They have a NO SKIRTS RULE??

I hate to ask this, but is there any chance she's making this up because she doesn't want to wear the clothes you got her for some reason? (Middle school girls can be really weird about clothing.) It just seems unbelievable to me that a public school would not allow girls to wear skirts!

Heck, when I was in grade school, girls were not allowed to wear pants. Seriously. I am older than dirt, though (44) and I grew up in a small town.

Mary
MouseSavers.com

 

[ceecee]

Our school has no tanks, bare midriffs and no shorts shorter than your arms hanging down. Of course every Friday the cheerleaders wear their uniform ...super short skirt with the little panties under it and they really do show, I wish they would keep that a little more conservative, they all have the same 1st thru 6th.
My first thought was the same as the above poster, I know a lot of middle school age girls who will not wear skirts anymore. I would be tempted to call the school and ask about what's wrong with a tee shirt and a skirt that goes to the knee.

 

[D&D's Mom]

While it does seem like the OP's sis's school has an excessively stringent dress code, I am in favor of an enforced dress code in general. I am a substitute teacher in a middle school & cannot believe some of the outfits I see worn by both girls & boys. Basically, all I see enforced is that the bottom of the top must meet the top of the bottom for girls, no spaghetti straps for girls & boys must pull up their pants so their underoos aren't seen. It's quite enlightening to see 12-14 year old girls wearing skirts sitting in the floor to work on projects, hooking their thumbs under the side string parts of their thong underwear which is above the top of waist (although it is low on the hip) of their jeans or shorts, and now I am grateful when I see bra straps hanging out at their shoulders - at least it is better than them not wearing one! I have older boys & they certainly are not perfect, but neither had dress code violation issues. They even wear belts with most of their pants. When did it get to be the norm for teens to dress this way?

 

[irish dancer]

Heck, when I was in grade school, girls were not allowed to wear pants. Seriously. I am older than dirt, though (44) and I grew up in a small town.

Mary
MouseSavers.com

LOL, my two older sisters (46 & 47yrs) have a story about one very cold winter day back in the 70s our mom sent them to middle school in pant-suits that she made for them. They were sent to the principal's office for wearing pants, lol. This was public school in a Chicago suburb.

 

[KatRob]

No skirts?

What about children with religious beliefs that can ONLY wear skirts, such as muslim girls, they often wear skirts plus there other coverings. And mennonite faith, deeply religious christian groups, etc... .

I wonder if their rules violate the students rights?QUOTE]

There is usually a loophole when it comes to religious beliefs and requirements. The muslim girls at DD's school may keep their heads covered but the pants are not an issue. All you have to do is provide a note from your pastor, church leader, whoever can state that it is due to religious convictions.

In HS the handbook calls it "panache": no jeans, try to start looking "professional", no bellies or backsides showing, nothing low cut.
I actually had to add snaps to her blouses because even though they looked great and grown up, the top button was at bra level! She insisted that I "fix" them before she was comfortable with her new clothes.

And I am one of those people who remembers having to fight to get to wear pants back in the very early 70's. It took a lot of work from open minded teachers and a strong student council to get that changed.

 

[FoodLover]

LOL, my two older sisters (46 & 47yrs) have a story about one very cold winter day back in the 70s our mom sent them to middle school in pant-suits that she made for them. They were sent to the principal's office for wearing pants, lol. This was public school in a Chicago suburb.

I can still remember the first pant suit I wore to school when they finally started letting girls wear pants. It was purple polyester double knit, with bell bottom pants and a matching long vest worn over a white blouse with puffy sleeves. My mom made it. I picked the color.

Oops, sorry, this really belongs on the "bring back the good ol' days" thread.

Mary
MouseSavers.com

 

[dudspizza]

I am a teacher here, so I may be biased, BUT, kids know what the dress code is. DD (11) started middle school this year and has been very clear about what she cannot wear. Dress these days is very flashy and you see many middle school girls dressed in spaghetti straps, short skirts/short, and other things at the mall. The rules are very clear and they tend to follow them. The 8th graders who led orientation really stressed the proper way to dress for school.

School is a place to learn and kids should dress as such. They get so caught up in the popularity issues that they don't think about what they are doing. DD's friend said to me the other day that she wears all of her cute clothes a the beginning of the school year to make an impression, then she can go to a baggy t-shirt or something later in the year as kids don't notice as much.... too bad image is everything to our teens......

duds