You are a terrible parent!!!!!!

[Auggietina]

Well, today was another bad parent day.

The first day of school and the bus was almost 30 minutes late and I made her wait and refused to drive her to school.

BUT the worst thing was I was wearing a purple and white shirt, jeans, and black shoes, which was exactly what she was wearing and if her friends saw me out of the bus window, well, I can not discribe the horror that would have caused her. Sometimes it's fun being a bad parent

 

[FinallyBoughtDVC]

LOVE it!

Sad but true



I saw that and felt terrible for you Mine only go t camp for 2 weeks. DS loves it but that is about all we can afford, and he is good with 2 weeks. DD is not a camp kind of kid, but has tried it and did go to language camp this summer and did okay--and it was soooo good for her. I, on the other hand, was a camp lover. I lived for my weeks at camp every summer. If my parents had had the financial ability to send me for 8 weeks they would have because I WANTED to go; they missed me (like I miss my own when htey are in camp) and would have enjoyed having me home more, but they knew I would enjoy camp the most. I think it is great that you can send you kids to a camp they enjoy for the summer.


I think that makes you a brilliant parent

Actually, I haven't seen anything on here that makes anyone a bad parent. Lots of choices I wouldn't make, lots of choices I would make and many htat I have made but no really bad (and certainly no horrifying) choices at all.

Thanks so much. I know how important camp has been to our family - unless someone has experienced it, they don't know what they're commenting about. I look forward to the day my grandchildren go. My dd's godparents (who are newlyweds) came up for parents' weekend, and they are sold - their unborn children will be going someday. It's a magical place. I'm sure there are kids who get shipped off because mommy needs a break, but I have never seen one child who has gone to my children's camps ever reflect that.

My 10yo dd was reading along in the other thread and she just was cracking up at some of the comments. I looked at her and joked, "I'm pretty horrifying, I'm a terrible mother making you go away...I just suck." She cracked up and said, "those people are nuts."

It's funny because this was the first summer when the kids were gone (years and years now) that I really enjoyed myself with my husband. Usually, I'm counting down the days until the kids come home. This year, we were like honeymooners. And, I certainly won't apologize for that! We had an amazing summer and the kids were so happy to hear everything we did, while they breathlessly filled us in on all their accomplishments.

I have the benefit of having gone through it all already (having one who's 21yo already) - and I know how some of the battles parents fight are really silly at the end of the day.

Anyway, it doesn't matter. I'm a horrifying parent. I suck. I'm lazy and have no interest in parenting my children. Etc. I couldn't care less if they forget their textbook at home, I'm not dropping it off at school. It's not my responsiblity to stay up all night doing their projects. I'm not going to call their teachers and yell at them because my child failed a test and it's not fair. I'm not going to be that parent at the board of ed meeting shouting that the whole school should have to a. not go on a trip or b. not read a book or c. have to accept every child on the team or d. whatever other self-centered thing I may conjure up for my child.

I'm going to start my own club - only lazy, horrifying parents need apply.

 

[Auggietina]

Anyway, it doesn't matter. I'm a horrifying parent. I suck. I'm lazy and have no interest in parenting my children. Etc. I couldn't care less if they forget their textbook at home, I'm not dropping it off at school. It's not my responsiblity to stay up all night doing their projects. I'm not going to call their teachers and yell at them because my child failed a test and it's not fair. I'm not going to be that parent at the board of ed meeting shouting that the whole school should have to a. not go on a trip or b. not read a book or c. have to accept every child on the team or d. whatever other self-centered thing I may conjure up for my child.

I'm going to start my own club - only lazy, horrifying parents need apply.

I love you

 

[Darsa]

I'm going to start my own club - only lazy, horrifying parents need apply.

Can I be a member??

 

[Mrs.Toad]

FinallyBoughtDVC, I was on that thread, too, and while I did post that I couldn't imagine my kids going to camp that long, either, I want to tell you I certainly don't think it's "horrifying", or even "bad", that you and others do.

Of course, we have year-round schools here and only have a five week summer, so it would be pretty hard to go anywhere for eight weeks!

I want to join your club, too!

 

[DVC Sadie]

I'm not a bad parent...I was told today I was a HORRIFYING parent because I send my kids to sleep away camp, which they love like crazy - sucks to actually make them happy. I should be jailed - Horrifying, I say...just horrifying.

Horrifying is now my word of the week.

I was also on that thread and not only was I a horrifying parent for sending our son to summer camp every year but my parents were horrifying as well, not only for sending me to camp yearly but for sending me to boarding school.

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

When he was 16 he told me he was having sex with his girlfriend he had been dating a year and asked if I would take him to WalMart to buy condoms. And I did

That makes you a responsible parent in my book!

 

[taximomfor4]

Oh yes, I was told I was a bad parent because I am not willing to pay for a class ring for dd and wouldn't approve of her spending her money on one. The fact that dd does not even WANT a class ring is irrelevant because apparently to certain posters the most significant signifier of good parenting is not my dd's personality, character, or accomplishments, but if she's wearing an overpriced, ugly piece of junk on her finger for about a year before she decides it's irrelevant and shoves it into her underwear drawer.

I'm a terrible parent. Not only did I bribe (eerrrrrrr, OFFER) dd a nice piece of jewelry for a graduation gift instead of a class ring in 11th grade, I am also ALLOWING her to skip commencement next June. She believes, at this point in time, that she gets a diploma with or without sitting through a 5 hr ceremony watching 800+ kids (most of whom she's never even met b/c the darned HS is so huge), walk across a stage in alphabetical order.

Even DH thinks I am a bad parent for not forcing her to attend. This is the same kid who thinks prom is just another school dance with more expensive trappings, and unless she has a SERIOUS boyfriend at the time, who is dying to attend, she wants no part of it.

 

[FinallyBoughtDVC]

I was also on that thread and not only was I a horrifying parent for sending our son to summer camp every year but my parents were horrifying as well, not only for sending me to camp yearly but for sending me to boarding school.

I saw that! I don't know, I think it's just what you know. I happen to love our public schools - it's a tiny district in a town where everyone knows everyone. My dh and I both went to the schools here (and both took the same 6th grade trip our children took). It works for my kids - for some it's too small. If one of my children wasn't happy here, I'd have no problems sending them to boarding school. I just don't believe kids belong to us - they're lent to us. And, I believe it's our job to give them the tools they need to go on their way and build their lives.

Other parents live through their kids and have an need to be in control of every second of their kids' lives. Definitely not my cup of tea, and I really believe there's a BIG difference between being INVOLVED and being IN CONTROL. As the employer of many teens and college aged students, I can tell you the ones whose mommies call for job applications, call them in sick, call me AT HOME at 10:45pm to tell me Sarah can't work the next morning (after having the schedule for over a month) because they're having a family barbecue and she (the mom) wants her there, etc...that's the end result of all this lunacy.

Anyway, I'll take being a horrifying mom to all the perfect moms any day of the week. I love being lectured by the perfect moms - and then seeing their 10 & 11 year old daughters on facebook all summer long...

Honestly, sometimes I read the threads here - and I'm not on that often, but sometimes I read the threads from these perfect moms and I just have this vision of some dirty looking person with stringy hair and dirty clothes, with a cigarette hanging out of her mouth, with the house filthy dirty, screaming at her kids to simmer down while they gorge on twinkies and chicken nuggets because she's "busy".

As they say...Whatevs.

 

[FinallyBoughtDVC]

Uh-oh! My dd saw all the PotC movies by age 5! Guess that makes me a bad parent, too, but she just loves Captain Jack!

That makes you a good parent in my book!

OMG, this reminded me of the time my dh and his brother were watching the kids while I was cooking. They popped a movie in. My daughter was all of 4 or 5 at the time. The rest of the kids were all boys (my sons and nephews).

They were watching Austin Powers. I had never seen this movie, and wasn't really paying attention.

I went in to tell them dinner was ready, and my beautiful daugther says to me, "Mommy, I'm Dixie. Dixie Normous."

I nearly died laughing - while ready to kill my dh and dbil. I still laugh about it to this day.

I guess that makes my dh a sucky parent too. We're a sucky parental unit.

 

[Darsa]

OMG, this reminded me of the time my dh and his brother were watching the kids while I was cooking. They popped a movie in. My daughter was all of 4 or 5 at the time. The rest of the kids were all boys (my sons and nephews).

They were watching Austin Powers. I had never seen this movie, and wasn't really paying attention.

I went in to tell them dinner was ready, and my beautiful daugther says to me, "Mommy, I'm Dixie. Dixie Normous."

I nearly died laughing - while ready to kill my dh and dbil. I still laugh about it to this day.

I guess that makes my dh a sucky parent too. We're a sucky parental unit.

AAAAAHAHAHAHAA!!!

 

[SydneyFalco]

I would definitely be a bad parent, if I were to become a parent. I'm a bad Canadian, a bad consumer, a bad

 

[Mrs.Toad]

We lied to dd when she was 8. Told her RnRC doesn't go upside down to get her to ride it! (she loved it!)

We also bribed her with $5 to try another (looping, feet hang free) coaster at our local amusement park at a similar age. She loved that one, too!

We also "forced" our younger dd to ride a couple of rides she was anxious about, all of which she ended up enjoying.

 

[SydneyFalco]

poster on threads, a bad Disney fan, a bad lieutenant, and all around a bad, bad Leroy Brown.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

I went in to tell them dinner was ready, and my beautiful daugther says to me, "Mommy, I'm Dixie. Dixie Normous."

That's hysterical!

 

[Metsfan520]

I'm not a bad parent...I was told today I was a HORRIFYING parent because I send my kids to sleep away camp, which they love like crazy - sucks to actually make them happy. I should be jailed - Horrifying, I say...just horrifying.

Horrifying is now my word of the week.

I saw that--that was just a bit over the top. But good for you for having a sense of humor about the whole thing.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

We lied to dd when she was 8. Told her RnRC doesn't go upside down to get her to ride it! (she loved it!)

We also bribed her with $5 to try another (looping, feet hang free) coaster at our local amusement park at a similar age. She loved that one, too!

We also "forced" our younger dd to ride a couple of rides she was anxious about, all of which she ended up enjoying.

lol..
I bribed my daughter that I'd clean her (horrible) room if she pierced her ears...

She has WANTED to do it for years, but chickens out everytime we get to the mall to do it. Day before her bday, we took her baby sister to get her ears pierced. After she saw she barely cried, she said she'd do it. I asked a hundred times if she was sure, because when she opened the earrings, we had to pay regardless (last time this happened, thats how my oldest DD got her 2nd holes, she chickened out)
Anyways... the lady has the gun thing to her ear and DD starts freaking out saying I dont want to I dont want to. I say 'c'mon baby, you wont have to clean your room I'll do it for you'.. She says ok, so I tell the lady to hurry.
As soon as she does the 1st ear, my DD says "What the heck, that didn't even hurt"

So, my DD9 FINALLY has her ears pierced, is soo glad she did it, and I'm a bad parent for bribing her while crying

 

[FinallyBoughtDVC]

I saw that--that was just a bit over the top. But good for you for having a sense of humor about the whole thing.

Thanks! Honestly, you and I should both be members emeritus in the sucky parent club simply for being Mets fans and sucking our poor, defenseless children into our world of pain, loss and disappointment.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

I'm a bad adopted doggy "parent." I give the boys table scraps when my roommate isn't around, I let them sleep on my bed (not against the rules, but some people think it's gross), and I even let them get on the couch. Does that count?

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Honestly, sometimes I read the threads here - and I'm not on that often, but sometimes I read the threads from these perfect moms and I just have this vision of some dirty looking person with stringy hair and dirty clothes, with a cigarette hanging out of her mouth, with the house filthy dirty, screaming at her kids to simmer down while they gorge on twinkies and chicken nuggets because she's "busy".

As they say...Whatevs.

Why don't we keep this thread as why we're horrible parents, and not point out what we feel are others' shortcomings? I feel comments like the above might be what turns this thread into a debate thread, instead of a self-bashing, self-loathing funfest. Some here very well might think you're pointing at them and take offense, KWIM?