Some of the items that are weighing in on our decision.
DH's dad just passed away in July.
DH has had a ton of medical issues this year, with continuing digestive issues, that have put him in the hospital twice now.
DH's mom is 89, not the greatest of health and her dementia is getting worse since her husband passed.
DH's disability doesn't kick in until after Thanksgiving, so funds are still tight and doing a full meal at our place for the 4 of us would be a major grocery budget kill.
For the last 6/7 years Thanksgiving has been at our nieces house. For the last 3, they have done a deep fried turkey. The first year, they did just a standard butter injection infusion. The last two, they did a creole injection infusion. The spices did not set well with DH's stomach at all.
With DH's medical issues, fried food has been almost a total no go. It just tears him up. If I do fires or wings at home, he is ok but eating out it's ok in small amounts here but not there. And with spicy foods, it's the same hit and miss. At one place he can eat and be ok, but at another not at all.
With that food situation and knowing that they already plan on the fried turkey, would you be offended if I offered to make a small roasted turkey for DH to eat at the family dinner. This would not put a huge crunch on the budget for us. Or do we just go and he not eat the turkey they fix and load up on everything else. Or eat the turkey they offer and face any possible digestive issues that may occur. The niece who hosts is an NP and has been there with us for a lot of medical decisions, so she is very much aware of the issues he has been dealing with. But at the same time I don't want to appear to be stepping on her toes with the offer. With DH's dad passing and mom's declining health, we want to make sure we have a much holiday family time as we can.
If you had to make this call, what would you do?
DH's dad just passed away in July.
DH has had a ton of medical issues this year, with continuing digestive issues, that have put him in the hospital twice now.
DH's mom is 89, not the greatest of health and her dementia is getting worse since her husband passed.
DH's disability doesn't kick in until after Thanksgiving, so funds are still tight and doing a full meal at our place for the 4 of us would be a major grocery budget kill.
For the last 6/7 years Thanksgiving has been at our nieces house. For the last 3, they have done a deep fried turkey. The first year, they did just a standard butter injection infusion. The last two, they did a creole injection infusion. The spices did not set well with DH's stomach at all.
With DH's medical issues, fried food has been almost a total no go. It just tears him up. If I do fires or wings at home, he is ok but eating out it's ok in small amounts here but not there. And with spicy foods, it's the same hit and miss. At one place he can eat and be ok, but at another not at all.
With that food situation and knowing that they already plan on the fried turkey, would you be offended if I offered to make a small roasted turkey for DH to eat at the family dinner. This would not put a huge crunch on the budget for us. Or do we just go and he not eat the turkey they fix and load up on everything else. Or eat the turkey they offer and face any possible digestive issues that may occur. The niece who hosts is an NP and has been there with us for a lot of medical decisions, so she is very much aware of the issues he has been dealing with. But at the same time I don't want to appear to be stepping on her toes with the offer. With DH's dad passing and mom's declining health, we want to make sure we have a much holiday family time as we can.
If you had to make this call, what would you do?
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