Yes another Thanksgiving question.

[Mizzoufan]

I'd just eat sides

 

[shoney]

I wouldn't have a problem with someone bringing a turkey breast, but only you know your host.

Every year I host St. Patricks' Day dinner, corned beef dinner. My aunts husband (ex now!) would come and eat a potato and head to McDonald's on the way home. Not my issue. You can't cater to everyone.

 

[DisneyNutMary]

If I were hosting, I would not be offended at all. Knowing a guest has health issues that involve dietary restrictions, I would try to cook something that person can enjoy, but if a guest offers to bring what they can safely enjoy, I'd be thrilled to save some prep time, and just keep a spot open in the oven to heat it up in time for dinner.

 

[Bec3b1g]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

My SIL brings her own food to family dinners at my MIL's. She had her gall bladder out and has trouble digesting my MIL's cooking. Nobody gives it a second thought.

 

[littleblackegg]

I think it would be perfectly appropriate for you to roast a turkey and bring it with. The guests can have the option of fried turkey or roast turkey, your husband gets turkey, everyone can have the cajun turkey, and hopefully the GI issues will stay in check. I'd check with his GI doc and find out if she/he recommends any pre-meds as a first strike. This is super common and you might already be doing this.

 

[7165red]

I see no problem at all.

 

[NotUrsula]

I'd talk to your SIL. I have the exact same dietary restrictions as your DH, and the turkey is one of the few things on a typical Thanksgiving table that I *can* eat. Spicy doesn't bother me, but my BIL never could take lots of pepper.
My family's solution is that we fry TWO small turkeys, one with the Cajun injector, and one with a simple broth injection; it never fails that both get devoured. Also, one of the key items to try to include would be some steamed veggies rather than the typical casserole-style that normally shows up at Thanksgiving. Also, get some packet gravy; it's normally fat-free, and you can pop into her kitchen to mix it up in no time (gravy is another possible source of his digestive distress, because homemade gravy normally has a ton of fat.)

As long as your DH is eating white meat cut nowhere near the surface or carcass of the bird, then it isn't the frying itself that is causing the problem, because there is almost no fat absorption at that area. What it might be, however, is a reaction to the oil being used, depending on what's in it. Frying oil is very expensive (normally about $50 for enough fresh peanut oil for a 14 lb. bird), so it is often reused, and it definitely absorbs and intensifies spices.

Talk to your SIL about how you'd like to accommodate your DH' medical issues without having to skip the family party. (If he has been really ill, the odds are that quite a few people are concerned about him and would like to see him.)
Offer to help her cook so that the extra stuff isn't a burden.

(And if they like Cajun turkey, buy some Andouille and French Bread as a gift, and put the carcasses and leftover meat into a crockpot when dinner is over; because Black Friday Gumbo is a modern Cajun tradition. )

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

If someone is offended that is their problem and they should seriously take a good look at themselves. Your DH's top priority should be his health and not hurting an adult's snowflake's feelings. Even when I used to eat turkey there is no way I would haven eaten a fried one.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

I wouldn't have a problem with someone bringing a turkey breast, but only you know your host.

Every year I host St. Patricks' Day dinner, corned beef dinner. My aunts husband (ex now!) would come and eat a potato and head to McDonald's on the way home. Not my issue. You can't cater to everyone.

Ha. My sister used to bring a McDonald's kid's meal to our parents house for her son on Christmas for dinner. Drove my other sister nuts. I always said "who freaking cares?".

 

[pat fan]

(And if they like Cajun turkey, buy some Andouille and French Bread as a gift, and put the carcasses and leftover meat into a crockpot when dinner is over; because Black Friday Gumbo is a modern Cajun tradition. )

Could I get that recipe? That sounds delicious!

 

[Callie]

I see no reason they should be offended! My aunt comes down every year to my uncles feast, and always brings a special ham and cooks sides that she can enjoy.