WWYD - 2 cabins or one?

[NJMomto2]

So my adult (20 yr old) son recently moved back home. My 5 year old daughter and I had a 7 night southern caribbean cruise booked. She is excited to have her brother home but sad that her mommy and me trip has changed.

Since it is so close (53 days away) and is now more expensive - I cannot make up my mind on staterooms. They will fight over the TV and dressing will be difficult but I understand folks do this everyday.

It will cost $1000 more to get him his own inside cabin. If I gave up my extended verandah, I could get two insides for the same price as the three of us in the verandah room. It only sleeps three.

WWYD?

 

[havaneselover]

So my adult (20 yr old) son recently moved back home. My 5 year old daughter and I had a 7 night southern caribbean cruise booked. She is excited to have her brother home but sad that her mommy and me trip has changed.

Since it is so close (53 days away) and is now more expensive - I cannot make up my mind on staterooms. They will fight over the TV and dressing will be difficult but I understand folks do this everyday.

It will cost $1000 more to get him his own inside cabin. If I gave up my extended verandah, I could get two insides for the same price as the three of us in the verandah room. It only sleeps three.

WWYD?

I'd keep the verandah and tell your 20 year old not to fight with his sister over the tv. Also you could send him to the gym to shower. How much are you typically in the room? I definitely wouldn't do two inside staterooms if you were planning on a verandah.

 

[LSUfan4444]

WWYD?

They will fight over the TV

I would keep the room I have and tell my 20 year old adult son he has three choices

1 - Come and not be a disruption.
2 -Don't go.
3 - Pay for his own room.

There is plenty for a 20 year old to do on the ship and I can understand your little one sitting down, watching some TV (while Mom gets ready), relaxing, napping but he has access to the adult areas. he can go nap there.

I wouldnt spend more money to give up my verandah and bring my adult child if his intentions were to sit in the room and bicker with a 5 year old about what to watch on TV.

 

[AndreAggie]

I would keep the room I have and tell my 20 year old adult son he has three choices

1 - Come and not be a disruption.
2 -Don't go.
3 - Pay for his own room.

There is plenty for a 20 year old to do on the ship and I can understand your little one sitting down, watching some TV (while Mom gets ready), relaxing, napping but he has access to the adult areas. he can go nap there.

I wouldnt spend more money to give up my verandah and bring my adult child if his intentions were to sit in the room and bicker with a 5 year old about what to watch on TV.

Finally something an Aggie and Tiger agree on.

 

[dragynally]

So my adult (20 yr old) son recently moved back home. My 5 year old daughter and I had a 7 night southern caribbean cruise booked. She is excited to have her brother home but sad that her mommy and me trip has changed.

Since it is so close (53 days away) and is now more expensive - I cannot make up my mind on staterooms. They will fight over the TV and dressing will be difficult but I understand folks do this everyday.

It will cost $1000 more to get him his own inside cabin. If I gave up my extended verandah, I could get two insides for the same price as the three of us in the verandah room. It only sleeps three.

WWYD?

Honestly I'd have him save the $1000 extra needed to get his own room but allows you to keep the verandah. If they have to be in the room together it's your 5 year old's trip. She should get priority.

 

[Dug720]

So my adult (20 yr old) son recently moved back home. My 5 year old daughter and I had a 7 night southern caribbean cruise booked. She is excited to have her brother home but sad that her mommy and me trip has changed.

Since it is so close (53 days away) and is now more expensive - I cannot make up my mind on staterooms. They will fight over the TV and dressing will be difficult but I understand folks do this everyday.

It will cost $1000 more to get him his own inside cabin. If I gave up my extended verandah, I could get two insides for the same price as the three of us in the verandah room. It only sleeps three.

WWYD?

BIG question here... Are you ok sharing the Queen bed with your 5 year old? Because a cabin that sleeps three has TWO beds in it. The Queen and the sofa bed.


Second big question... Why does he have to come along? Can he not be left home as an adult?

If he has to come, I'd probably get him his own inside cabin - but put him on a payment plan to pay it back.

 

[dragynally]

BIG question here... Are you ok sharing the Queen bed with your 5 year old? Because a cabin that sleeps three has TWO beds in it. The Queen and the sofa bed.

Great point!

 

[NJMomto2]

Thanks so much for the feedback! It really helps me know that I am on the right path. He is booked in our room right now and it was a tough one between leaving him home alone in my house and bringing him.

I also hated the idea of giving up my verandah as this trip is much needed relaxation for a single mom of 2 working Corporate America!

 

[dragynally]

Thanks so much for the feedback! It really helps me know that I am on the right path. He is booked in our room right now and it was a tough one between leaving him home alone in my house and bringing him.

I also hated the idea of giving up my verandah as this trip is much needed relaxation for a single mom of 2 working Corporate America!

Girl get your verandah! And I understand. You'd think a 20 year old would be fine home alone but my brother is 26 and still has issues being home alone. Nothing big just issues.

 

[NJMomto2]

When we traveled in Dec with me and my daughter, she slept 50% on sofa bed and 50 % with me so that is not a huge concern.

I am not 100% comfortable leaving him home although I considered it. He did not live with us for 1.5 years as he left at 18. He has only been back for a few weeks. Has not even moved his belongings back yet.

 

[kid-at-heart]

I would have no problem sleeping with my daughter when she was five but she was not a kicker. If sleeping with your daughter is an issue, could you "upgrade" to a different verandah room that sleeps four? I agree with the others, keep your room and tell son either come and be an adult (not bicker with a five year old), pay for his own room, or stay home. One-on-one time is very important for children. We have only one child (now age 19) and always had "family vacations" and vacations that were "one-on-one", Dad and Sarah, or Mom and Sarah. And one time even (this year) a Mom and Dad only vacation. I had forgotten what it felt like to hang out with just my wonderful spouse. We will be doing that again.

 

[ckelly14]

I just curious as to why you think there would be such "bickering". If he left at 18, she was only 3. I can't imagine that they would fight much at those ages...

 

[Cackyschmackers]

My only advice is definitely see if you can get a room with 3 beds (pull down upper berth most likely in verandah room).

No, that is not my only advice: KEEP YOUR VERANDAH ROOM! lol

 

[NJMomto2]

So we did a Christmas cruise in an oceanview family stateroom with the three or 4 beds including a murphy bed and he took two beds, claimed everything in the curtain area was his and bickered over what shows to watch on tv, complained when she needed to nap, and rushed us to get ready for dinner, complained when she wanted to look out the window, etc.

The larger family verandah room is also $1000 more and thus not worth it.

of course part of the problem is his entitled attitude when he is paying for nothing as he has no job but if I yell the entire cruise to cut it out, it ruins the vacation.

 

[dragynally]

So we did a Christmas cruise in an oceanview family stateroom with the three or 4 beds including a murphy bed and he took two beds, claimed everything in the curtain area was his and bickered over what shows to watch on tv, complained when she needed to nap, and rushed us to get ready for dinner, complained when she wanted to look out the window, etc.

The larger family verandah room is also $1000 more and thus not worth it.

of course part of the problem is his entitled attitude when he is paying for nothing as he has no job but if I yell the entire cruise to cut it out, it ruins the vacation.

Leave his ungrateful butt home!! (Sorry I'm in jerry springer mode). All joking aside, maybe you should enjoy mommy daughter time.

 

[KirbKirb]

So we did a Christmas cruise in an oceanview family stateroom with the three or 4 beds including a murphy bed and he took two beds, claimed everything in the curtain area was his and bickered over what shows to watch on tv, complained when she needed to nap, and rushed us to get ready for dinner, complained when she wanted to look out the window, etc.

The larger family verandah room is also $1000 more and thus not worth it.

of course part of the problem is his entitled attitude when he is paying for nothing as he has no job but if I yell the entire cruise to cut it out, it ruins the vacation.

How much for a hotel room in your hometown for a week?

 

[NJMomto2]

good point - hotel room at home is much less...

 

[SpaceSquirrel]

I say share a cabin, no question. It'll be fun for you and your two children to share this awesome adventure together.
At 20 he's still a kid, too, imo. Let him be a kid this last family vacation

 

[morgan98]

I don't have a particular opinion on the room situation, OP, but from the way you describe the dynamics of the relationship with your son this trip seems like it could be a disaster in the making.

Suddenly you are adding your son back into the mix and by your own admission taking him on a cruise in the past was a real downer. I know we don't know the backstory, but I too wonder if there is an option for him to not come on the trip. Or if he does come, there needs to be some type of expectations for his behavior. From the way you have made it sound, this does not sound too promising in terms of being a fun, family trip.

 

[CamColt]

I agree with the majority here, keep your verandah and add DS to the room. On the occasion all 3 of you are in the room, 1 can be out on the verandah to avoid tv fights.

Also, if he is anything like my 20 yo DS you will hardly see him.