Would you want your adult kids to inherit money?

[ronandannette]

If they do lose it, that's on them. The money is theirs to do with as they wish after you die. If they want to blow it on a huge house and fancy cars, they can. If they want to invest it, they can. Some people (as shown in this thread) have a hard time letting go of the idea they have control over how the money is spent once they are dead.

My read is that it isn't about MONEY...it vibes more like the inability to accept their child living a lifestyle possibly different than the one they "envision" for them. Also with the OP, it seems like she is offended that her parents would presume to "make a transaction" with her children that she does not sanction, almost as if they are trying to interfere with her parenting decisions. I guess with little kids it's hard to imagine them as mature atonmous adults, who relate independently to the world (and their own Grandparents). That iron-fisted grip of control has a way of slipping as the years roll on though in my experience.

 

[JanaDee]

My read is that it isn't about MONEY...it vibes more like the inability to accept their child living a lifestyle possibly different than the one they "envision" for them. I guess with little kids it's hard to imagine them as mature atonmous adults. That iron-fisted grip of control has a way of slipping as the years roll on though in my experience.

I completely agree and you said it better than I did. That is more like what I was trying to express.