Would you let your SON dress up as a princess at Disney?

[Conservative Hippie]

We ain't discussin' gender or gender roles?

I thought we were discussing whether or not you'd let Salma Hayek breastfeed your baby.

 

[Uncle Remus]

I thought we were discussing whether or not you'd let Salma Hayek breastfeed your baby.

There better not be any baby in this house!

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I thought we were discussing whether or not you'd let Salma Hayek breastfeed your baby.

The only responses I've had for this are inappropriate.

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

On the Moms panel a mom asked this question of the panel...

"Attending a character dinner with our 3 yo son who sometimes likes to be the prince & sometimes the princess- how will staff react to a boy dressed in the more girlie costumes? Will staff help us find a new seat if other guests make rude comments?"

Would you allow your son to dress up as a princess at Disney? Especially KNOWING ppl are probably going to stare or make comments? Or would you go with the flow and let the little guy be a princess and not care what other ppl say and do?

Actually saw a boy the other day at WDW dressed for all intents and purposes like a princess right down to the pink sparkly nail polish. Frankly, I have no problem if a grown man wants to cross dress HOWEVER letting a 6 year old cross dress on a regular basis is going to put him line for a world of hurt in school etc. My answer is NO absolutely not! Let him dress as a pirate and even add a little more glitz but not cross dress. We have no control over our sexuality but the key to getting along is flying under the radar.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

You clearly don't understand the concept of debate.

It's no different than talking about breast vs formula or disposable vs cloth. Each side has on opinion but that doesn't make either side right or wrong. It's not always that simple. Just because I argue my side/my opinion, that does NOT mean I am telling you that you are wrong. Obviously you are admitting that you DO think the ppl who don't agree with YOU are wrong since that seems to be the rules for how you think a debate goes.

You clearly don't understand what I'm saying, and I'm not going to take the time to try to explain it to you again.

 

[ebtbmom]

Lost me at "would you ever breastfeed someone else's baby?"

This is a discussion for a whole new thread, who is bold enough to start it and put "would you ever breastfeed...." in the title line?

 

[Conservative Hippie]

This is a discussion for a whole new thread, who is bold enough to start it and put "would you ever breastfeed...." in the title line?

Don't give me any ideas...

 

[Goofyluver]

This is a discussion for a whole new thread, who is bold enough to start it and put "would you ever breastfeed...." in the title line?

You go. Depending on how it goes after the first page or so, I may or may not be joining in.

 

[DisneyLoverUSA]

This is a discussion for a whole new thread, who is bold enough to start it and put "would you ever breastfeed...." in the title line?

I would make sure it was a 20 pager...place the whole shocking title in the title. "Would you ever breastfeed someone else's baby?" Might get interesting.

 

[pyrxtc]

whatever he wants as long as it won't hurt him physically.

 

[Angelhalo]

This thread makes me sad. Especially any posts concerning "social norms". Aren't we able to be adults and change the social norms? Maybe if there weren't so many "social norms" there wouldn't be so much bullying going on. Imagine a world where no one is seen as "weird" just because they are different, because in this non "social norm" world, we ALL get to be different. As it is, it's just a never ending cycle of closed mindedness. Why is it that people are so deathly afraid of change? I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinions.....I just can't understand the logic behind, "No, never, it's weird."

Such a shame

 

[PeterPan09]

You are right, I don't know. That was why I asked.

I will ask you the same thing I asked the other poster. Do you think your parents would have CHOSEN for you to be different and to be bullied? No, of course they wouldn't have.

I would not make a choice that would cause my child to possibly be bullied.

Obviously there are some choices that parents make for children-what school to send them to, what kind of food to have in the house, what kind of entertainment, religion or no...however, my parents drew the line at trying to choose my personality for me. They let that develop on it's own and never tried to force me to like or dislike anything. Other people's opinions were other people's problems. What they gave me was the skill and the foundation to deal with the ignorance of others. I'm not going to say I was never hurt in my life-nobody lives like that. But, that's the point-no matter how hard you try, somewhere, sometime some ignorant fool is going to find a way to pick on your kid.

You know how parents always say-"we just want you to have a happy life"? well, they meant it-a happy life where I followed my own heart.

I've known for a long time how lucky I am to have been born in the family I was-but conversations like this really bring it home.

 

[Magpie]

Actually saw a boy the other day at WDW dressed for all intents and purposes like a princess right down to the pink sparkly nail polish. Frankly, I have no problem if a grown man wants to cross dress HOWEVER letting a 6 year old cross dress on a regular basis is going to put him line for a world of hurt in school etc. My answer is NO absolutely not! Let him dress as a pirate and even add a little more glitz but not cross dress. We have no control over our sexuality but the key to getting along is flying under the radar.

But did you point and and laugh? Or allow your children to point and laugh? I'm betting no. In fact, I'm betting no one was making fun of that little boy you saw the other day.

If he chooses to dress up at WDW, his classmates need never know. As for whether or not he dresses like that at school, whether he's bullied, and whether or not he's in for "a world of hurt" in life... you can't know any of that. It really depends on where he's living, where he's going to school, all sorts of factors.

Shockingly, he may not be the only little boy in his school painting his fingernails. My children went to a very "crunchy granola" alternative school with several little boys who had long hair. I volunteered every week. One kindergarten boy came to school in painted fingernails, and the next week there were three more boys doing the same thing. My son started his own little fad, when he decided to start wearing a tie to school. The kids didn't say, "painted fingernails are for girls and ties are for boys", they just said, "That's cool, I want to try that!" And the adults around them encouraged them, instead of trying to "protect" them from each other.

If we believe that boys and girls are equally valuable in this world, we can't act as if it's a good thing to be a boy and a bad thing to be a girl. After all, no one says to girls, "Ha, ha, you're such a boy!"

Change starts with us, and the lessons we teach our children. My proudest moments have come when my children have refused to "fly under the radar", standing up for what they know is right.

 

[Magpie]

This is a discussion for a whole new thread, who is bold enough to start it and put "would you ever breastfeed...." in the title line?

If no one's started the thread yet, I think I will!

 

[TinkPirateMom]

I would not allow my young son to dress as a princess in the parks, no.

 

[bunkkinsmom]

You know this thread makes me very very sad. I am all for a good debate, discussion, whatever folks want to call this thread. I am all for people having different opinions.

I guess what bothers me is this condescending tone that seems to be taking over. Lots of laughing smilies at other people's posts, lots of snippy remarks about other people's opinions. It amazes me how sometimes the people who think they are the most open minded are the first to be so, I don't know, obnoxious. I think it's the tone of self righteousness that gets me the most. The way some of the posts here are written really gives off the impression that if you do not agree with them, then you are backwoods and stupid.

I really hope that's not the case.

 

[Aisling]

This thread makes me sad. Especially any posts concerning "social norms". Aren't we able to be adults and change the social norms? Maybe if there weren't so many "social norms" there wouldn't be so much bullying going on. Imagine a world where no one is seen as "weird" just because they are different, because in this non "social norm" world, we ALL get to be different. As it is, it's just a never ending cycle of closed mindedness. Why is it that people are so deathly afraid of change? I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinions.....I just can't understand the logic behind, "No, never, it's weird."

Such a shame

I'm one that isn't "afraid" of change, but I feel comfortable following social norms. So my son wouldn't be allowed to wear a princess dress in public.

 

[PeterPan09]

You know this thread makes me very very sad. I am all for a good debate, discussion, whatever folks want to call this thread. I am all for people having different opinions.

I guess what bothers me is this condescending tone that seems to be taking over. Lots of laughing smilies at other people's posts, lots of snippy remarks about other people's opinions. It amazes me how sometimes the people who think they are the most open minded are the first to be so, I don't know, obnoxious. I think it's the tone of self righteousness that gets me the most. The way some of the posts here are written really gives off the impression that if you do not agree with them, then you are backwoods and stupid.

I really hope that's not the case.

I've found the comments about "open mindedness" to be a bit condescending as well, as if you don't have a rigid definition of gender roles then you are some kind of fruitcake.

As has been said-I am and will continue to be intolerant of other people's intolerance. Intolerance creates the kind of bully that parents want to protect their kids from.

 

[Aisling]

As has been said-I am and will continue to be intolerant of other people's intolerance. Intolerance creates the kind of bully that parents want to protect their kids from.

I know you weren't speaking to me, but I just wanted to say I'm tolerant of whatever anyone wants to wear. I'd never criticize a child or his parents for the boy wearing a princess dress. If my sons ever asked well, why can't we wear princess dresses in the parks, I'd say because in our family little boys don't wear princess dresses. I keep it simple.

 

[Wall-E1]

I'd like to add that I'm pretty tolerant of what anyone wants to wear... boys in girl clothes, girls in boy clothes, etc. Of course, I have my limits. So in the interest of fairness, I will confess that I have no tolerance for the mullet...

And if I saw some poor, innocent boy or girl that was forced to rock this most heinous of hair styles, I would have to set those parents straight!