Would YOU consider this "harrassment"?? Update pg2..

[C.Ann]

The last thing I need in my life right now is more crap going on (sorry for the language but, it's the only word that seems to fit) but that's never stopped stuff from happening before so I guess I shouldn't be surprised that this would be the perfect time for a ghost from my past to come back and haunt me.. Grrrrr...

I don't want to rehash all the gory details right now (although some of you may remember the problems I had with this individual a couple of years ago) but the bottom line is that we were being harrassed and threatened via the telephone by someone known to us and I ended up having to send this person a registered letter demanding that there be no further contact..

Well - this September it will have been 2 years with no problems but unfortunately it started all over again this morning..

The first angry call (the machine picked it up) was demanding to know why I was "ignoring" this person.. Obviously I didn't pick up and then the hang-ups began.. (I have caller ID so I know all the calls were from the same person.)

The calls came at:

9:09 am

9:11 am

9:12 am

9:14 am

9:16 am

9:20 am

9:24 am

9:42 am
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I'm not quite sure what to do about it.. This person is in another state (out west) and I have no address for him.. (He was living in the south 2 years ago.) He's angry, violent, and mentally unstable.. If he STAYS out west I don't think we're in any real physical danger, but when he gets really aggravated and feels he's being ignored, the things he says and the way he says them would send chills down the Grim Reaper's spine.. The messages are VERY upsetting..

So - would the police consider this harrassment and is there really anything they can do about it with his living in another state and my not having his address?

I swear - one of these days I'm just going to pack it in and run off to God knows where...

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Unfortunately, most police would not consider this means for action. But try anyway. You may get someone who can do soemthing.

 

[Stimpy]

Yes, I think the police would consider it harrassment, especially if he is making threats. I don't think there is too much they can do about though at this point. They'll are able to trace the number to find out where he is calling from.

Good Luck to you!

 

[caitycaity]

i went through this a few years ago, though i knew who the person was and where they lived.

i would call the police. though there may not be anything they can do about it, at least you'll have it on file.

you can also call the phone company and get the number and have that number blocked. that is what we did after we filed a police report.

 

[minniepumpernickel]

C. Ann if it is really bad could you get an unlisted phone number? Maybe then you would get rid of this person for good!

 

[Hillbeans]

C. Ann, I agree. Get the phone # blocked.

 

[ckay87]

I would not hesitate to change my number and have it unlisted. Sounds like you are worried enough to just absorb the extra cost or hassle that would be involved. Sorry you have to go through this, though.

 

[cabmom]

My neice did the same thing to my sister, phoning and hanging up. My sister didn't know it was the neice right away. My sister called the phone company and put a trace on it, then the phone company called the police. The police called the number she was calling from and gave them a warning. It stopped! As for my neice she's mentally not her age(22), she's more like 12!

 

[Sarah'sMomfrom PA]

You can go to www.anywho.com and do a reverse look up and you should be able to find out his address and then call your phone company and report this (plus I wouldn't delete the message or numbers on caller id). You can also have his number blocked to your phone number so that he will not be able to phone you anymore--there is a monthly fee for this but it is minimal. Good luck.

 

[C.Ann]

You're probably right - about changing the phone number.. I already have a private number, but this is a "family" member so that's why he had the current number.. If I remember correctly though I don't think I have to pay for the change if I contact the phone compnay first and agree to press charges if they catch up with him.. I'll just have to make sure everyone ELSE in the family does NOT give him the number for ANY reason whatsoever..

As "proof" of his past behavior, I DID save the tapes from the answering machine I was using 2 years ago that contained all the threats and I also kept a copy of the registered letter that I sent to him, along with the receipt that he signed when he got it..

The answering machine I have now doesn't use a tape so I'm just not erasing the calls from him until I figure out what the best action to take is.. The more I've got on him, the better off I am and perhaps the police will see how dangerous he is..

Why can't some people just get a life and leave everyone else alone?????????

 

[southernclass]

Hmm I wonder why this just started happening again??

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by Sarah'sMomfrom PA
You can go to www.anywho.com and do a reverse look up and you should be able to find out his address and then call your phone company and report this (plus I wouldn't delete the message or numbers on caller id). You can also have his number blocked to your phone number so that he will not be able to phone you anymore--there is a monthly fee for this but it is minimal. Good luck.

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It appears to be a cell phone - which doesn't surprise me because he's probably either living on the streets or sponging off of some poor unsuspecting soul - his usual MO..

 

[k&a&c'smom]

In our state, the police come and put a tap on your phone, and you can press charges for harassment, get a restraining order.

This happened to me a few years ago, no talking when I picked up the phone, but constant calls (I was a day sleeper.) I was afraid to turn off the phone, in case my kids got hurt or something.

Called the cops, they came over and told me to keep a log and they would contact the phone company. It took a couple of days at that time, so I kept my log and waited for the tap to catch the perpetrator. Oddly, the day the tap started, the calls stopped. I only told 2 people very close to me about the tap, but of course, everyone in the neighborhood saw the police cruiser in my driveway. Never found out who was doing it.

Good luck, it sounds like a scary and dangerous situation. I would definitely notify the police.

 

[Philharmagik]

You have received a ot of good advice. You may also want to check if there is any interstate violations or FCC violations because the harrassment and-or threats cross state lines.
In the meantime, try changing he number and blocking his. I'm also sending you lots of Pixie Dust becuase you have so many troubles. I hope everything gets better for you ASAP.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

C.Ann, I was able to get our phone harrasser to stop calling us dead in his/her tracks.

PM me if you need to know how we solved the problem, ok?

 

[cynsaun]

Good Luck, C. Ann, and be careful!

I would suggest changing your number to an unlisted one, and having his number blocked!

Be safe!

 

[kadaten]

Originally posted by C.Ann
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It appears to be a cell phone - which doesn't surprise me because he's probably either living on the streets or sponging off of some poor unsuspecting soul - his usual MO..

C.Ann If this is a cell phone, remember that he could be calling from anywhere! Go ahead and let the police know....they can get the cell phone company to trace his calls and see where they're originating from....could at least tell you if he's still "out west" or actually much closer than you might think. YIKES!!

 

[Microcell]

Be careful and relly keep an eye out when you go to your car or come home. Sorry this is happening. I know it can be scary.

 

[canwegosoon]

I agree with Kadaten...changing the number might just infuriate him more...I would rather know where he is for sure, and getting an order of protection or other police involvement. You really don't need this .

 

[sandramaac]

I agree I would not change your phone number. In additoin to getting this person more upset, cell phones are almost like GPS, people can be tracked by where the calls are being originated from. Everytime you leave one area to another your phone will go out and look for the new cell tower. This is how the FBI and and such track people also.