Would you be hurt? I am

[Wishing on a star]

I get it!!! I do understand how you feel. Feelings like that are always valid!

However, I agree with the others, that I would really try not to let it stick with me. I am sure that your mother just did not 'get it' how important the tournament will be to your son. This garage sale is a pre-set date that has been planned for a while. And, since we have a similar situation with an annual garage sale where I live, I know that this can be a big deal as well. People collect up all kinds of stuff, and clean it and box it and price it. I am sure your mother was counting on your help. So, this is why you really had to impress upon her how your son, and you, really needed to go to the tournament. (Which may have come off like you felt you were 'Begging')

I think you are completely in the right to let her know that you can not help her. You gave he plenty of notice. But, I also think that she is in the right to make her decision to shut down a couple hours early one day to attend the party.

I say, try to put it behind you... Live and let live!

 

[Miss Inga Depointe]

oops, I see Marybet already beat me to my brilliant conclusion. Great minds think alike!

 

[Buckalew11]

I don't agree with your hurt. And maybe she is thinking that since the sale isn't as much of a priority to you that it isn't to her either. plus I bet her DH would rather go to the party than do a garage sale so maybe he strongly suggested they go to his brother's party and she agreed. Too often I think people get hurt over others not attending their kid's functions. . (not that you are) Go and enjoy your son's tourney.


Let me add I do not agree with her thinking either.

 

[VSL]

I would be more upset (and angry) with the fact that she 'told' you that you wouldn't be allowed to take your own son to the tournament than anything else

I can understand why you feel how you feel though (my parents - especially my mother - choose their friends and stuff over me all the time anyway, but I'm at the point where I just don't care anymore).

 

[golfgal]

While I would be a little hurt, I don't blame her. TKD tournaments are really boring except for the 5 minutes your kids are participating (I have 3 black belts and have been to MANY tournaments).

 

[PaulaSue]

I wouldn't be hurt but then again I wouldn't have thought to invite the grandparents to something like that.

 

[SteeleTig]

My neice is a junior olympic gold medalist in sparring and form in TKD (she's GM'ed as both a 1st degree black belt and 2nd degree, this years she's going to skip it because she's preparing for her 3rd degree) and her own mother doesn't go to the tournaments, it's not her thing. No one's feelings are hurt, her father and I always go. Let your mom party.

 

[disykat]

I agree - no big deal that she's not coming - I don't think the OP even mentioned that. BUT a very big deal that she expected your ds not to be in the tournament because of her garage sale.