Would you be concerned?

[Banshee]

We have this neighbor down the street from us great family. The wife has watched the kids for us here and there during the summer and we have watched their's. Our children are good friend's with their children. My question is our children and their children were invited to a mutual b-day/halloween party last saturday. Well, the parents of the birthday child last minute asked if we would like to come too for a little while we accepted. They also asked the neighbors down the street the husband didnt come but, the wife did. I got there before my DH and said hi to the neighbor tried to talk to her and she was very aloof and stand offish basically one word responses. So I said oh well she must have had a bad day. Well, when my DH got there she was falling all over herself to talk to him!!! She was really throwing it at him!?! Long story short my DH didnt stay long we had planned earlier in the day to have a fire in the fire pit on the patio because it was just a perfect fall day and the evening was crisp. So he went home to get that started I stayed at the party a little while longer. About 5 minutes after he left I noticed that the neighbor is gone! So I excused my self from the party and went home too. From the time he left to the time I got home about 10 minutes had passed she was at my house on my patio with my DH and my youngest DS! She didnt realize I was there yet and was still beign flirtatious and giggling acting like a school girl. When I appeared her demeanor completely changed and she said "oh, your here I thought you were staying longer at the party." I just said no my back is bothering me I wanted to come home. (I am 6 months pregnant) And she said well, ok I guess I am going to go home. and she gave my DH this look almost like "please say stay" He just said ok bye have a nice night tell **** (her hubby) we said hello. She kinda huffed and left. Now I know that my DH would not in a million years cheat on me he did not even notice her flirty attitude with him and how she was towards me. I hate to say it but he is to dense when it comes to things like this. I have not said a word to him about it but mentioned it to my SIL and BF and they were both shocked they both agree with me that she was flirting with him. The neighbor has been complaining about her hubby for a few months now and about 2 weeks ago she got really upset when she found out that my DH brings me roses every friday and will bring me little gifts out of the blue. So I dont know if it is jealousy or if she really has an attraction to my DH. I hope It is nothing I dont want to feel uncomfortable around her our kids are friends we have had BBQ's together and gone places together.(both family's) I am upset more because I have had a lot of stress in my life for 6 months now between my dad dying and having problems with this pregnancy and she knows all this. Like I said my DH would never ever cheat but do I have to worry now everytime we see her that she is going to be flirting with him and falling all over him?? I dont know what to do? Or should I just let it go?

 

[Uncle Remus]

I don't usually post on these kinda matters,
but today is special. That woman is trouble,
get her outta your family's life. Period.
I am an expert in trouble, so take my word for it.

 

[Banshee]

Thank you Uncle Remus.

 

[KerriSue]

Take her out and beat the snap out of her.

Seriously, I would talk to DH about it and see what he says. I would keep my distance from this so called friend if I were you. She obviously doen not respect you or your relationship with your husband. It isnt something or someone I would want to keep in my life.

Im sorry to hear about your father. I know how tough it is when you loose a loved one.

Dont stress for goodness sake, think of your baby.

Let us know what you decide to do

Hugs,
Kerri

 

[tiggersmom2]

She sounds like a ***** in heat......

I wouldn't let her near my family.

 

[Crankyshank]

I would confront her and tell her to stop coming on to my husband and being a witch to me.

 

[MosMom]

She sounds like a ***** in heat......

I wouldn't let her near my family.

Ditto.

 

[Banshee]

Take her out and beat the snap out of her.

Seriously, I would talk to DH about it and see what he says. I would keep my distance from this so called friend if I were you. She obviously doen not respect you or your relationship with your husband. It isnt something or someone I would want to keep in my life.

Im sorry to hear about your father. I know how tough it is when you loose a loved one.

Dont stress for goodness sake, think of your baby.

Let us know what you decide to do

Hugs,
Kerri

Well, beating the snap outta her would normally be my first reaction, but since I am pregnant I dont see that happening. Do you think I should mention it to my DH though? I didnt because I thought it would make him uncomfortable.

 

[Banshee]

I would confront her and tell her to stop coming on to my husband and being a witch to me.

Well, I thought of that too. But what would she say? Oh I am not coming on to him. And so on and so forth I can hear it now.

 

[Keli]

No way would I let behavior like that go. I'd talk to hubby so he has a heads up and I would ask him to make a point of never being alone with her.
And I'd keep a close eye on her myself.
Maybe it's nothing but maybe its something. I usually trust my gut in these situations. I'm right more often than I'm wrong.
Better safe than sorry.

 

[Chicago526]

Hmmm. I'd try to minimize your contact with her, but that will be hard without your husband knowing why, since your kids are good friends with theirs. It could be your DH has noticed, but didn't want to say anything to you for fear you'd get upset. Maybe just causually say to him "Hey, have you noticed neighbor-lady is really flirty?" and see what he says. If nothing else, if he hasn't noticed it yet, he may in the future since you've said somthing.

 

[Independent]

Any possibility that they may be planning a surprise shower for you?

Your husband sounds really sweet - could he be planning some big surprise with the neighbors?

Perhaps the neighbor thought it was a prime opportunity to discuss details knowing you were at the party. Maybe she thought she had a safe time to talk to your DH.

Otherwise - I agree with the comment that she is a *****-in-heat and needs to be dealt with.

 

[All American]

Always trust your gut. I'd sit down with my husband too and talk about it with him.

 

[Banshee]

I hadnt thought of it like that. I will mention it to him see what he says let him know how I feel. I would hate for the kids to not play anymore they get along really really well.

 

[Keggy]

I would definitely say something to your husband. That would have been the firs thing I would have done.

If she does it again - I would say something to her too.

Kelly

 

[agnes!]

Trust your DH. He sounds like a good man and a great husband and father, what a fine example he is setting for your children in their future relationships.
And, yeah, it's true you *are* hormonal right now but that doesn't mean that you've suddenly become stupid. Your instincts about this former friend are probably and unfortunately correct.

Do NOT trust her.

When you have that talk with your DH, make sure to emphasize that you love/trust/adore him BUT that this woman's behavior is odd enough to have you concerned about what she might attempt when she could be alone with your DH (not that *he* would do anything). She *might* accuse him of some bad actions for whatever strange reason she can think of...to get a rise out of her spouse, to somehow punish your DH for rejecting her (as you know he will do), etc.
At the very least from now on he should NEVER be alone with this woman.

Also, what Uncle Remus said.

agnes!

 

[Banshee]

Any possibility that they may be planning a surprise shower for you?

Your husband sounds really sweet - could he be planning some big surprise with the neighbors?

Perhaps the neighbor thought it was a prime opportunity to discuss details knowing you were at the party. Maybe she thought she had a safe time to talk to your DH.

Otherwise - I agree with the comment that she is a *****-in-heat and needs to be dealt with.

That might be a possibilty? I dont think so though this is our third child and we pretty much have everything from the previous two except for clothes as this one is a girl.

 

[A4Disney]

she sounds like a nutcase,definitely a jealous woman with an ax to grind...I wouldn't socialize with them anymore...

 

[Aidensmom]

I would talk to your husband about it, tell him you don't suspect him of anything but are suspicious of her motives, and ask him to try not to be alone with her.

 

[Banshee]

Your all right! The more I am thinking about it the more I feel I should have metioned it to him saturday night after she left. Now I feel like an idiot.