Would you attend this wedding?

[Rora]

Maybe some of you remember the girl who I posted about awhile ago with the Orange and Silver wedding colors... we now have a new dilemma!

She and her DFi are planning their wedding for 12/22/12. Everyone is fussing about how "no one will come to the wedding because it's so close to Christmas". There are quite a few people that would need to fly in from out of town.

Before I go any further, children are invited to the wedding so it's not like families would be split up just days before Christmas.

Her reasons for choosing this date are good ones: she'll have just graduated a few weeks before, the majority of her family are teachers (they'll be on winter break), and her friends will be able to attend too as they have winter break. In addition, their date is sentimental to them. If she chose pretty much any other date, there's no guarantee that anyone would come then either (see: teachers), plus, she will have a teaching job and planning a wedding during teaching is not fun business- been there, done that. Also, no summer weddings as many family and friends teach year round school. AND, Florida summer weddings are sticky, hot, and typically no fun.

So, would you attend a wedding just days before Christmas?

EDIT: the majority of people who are upset about the date are close family members (cousins and aunt).

 

[happygirl]

Maybe some of you remember the girl who I posted about awhile ago with the Orange and Silver wedding colors... we now have a new dilemma!

She and her DFi are planning their wedding for 12/22/12. Everyone is fussing about how "no one will come to the wedding because it's so close to Christmas". There are quite a few people that would need to fly in from out of town.

Before I go any further, children are invited to the wedding so it's not like families would be split up just days before Christmas.

Her reasons for choosing this date are good ones: she'll have just graduated a few weeks before, the majority of her family are teachers (they'll be on winter break), and her friends will be able to attend too as they have winter break. In addition, their date is sentimental to them.

So, would you attend a wedding just days before Christmas?

I would have no problem with it if I was close to the person

 

[Liberty Belle]

Sure, if it were in my town or fairly close by. If I had to fly to it, no, unless it was a very close family member.

 

[jrmasm]

Maybe some of you remember the girl who I posted about awhile ago with the Orange and Silver wedding colors... we now have a new dilemma!

She and her DFi are planning their wedding for 12/22/12. Everyone is fussing about how "no one will come to the wedding because it's so close to Christmas". There are quite a few people that would need to fly in from out of town.

Before I go any further, children are invited to the wedding so it's not like families would be split up just days before Christmas.

Her reasons for choosing this date are good ones: she'll have just graduated a few weeks before, the majority of her family are teachers (they'll be on winter break), and her friends will be able to attend too as they have winter break. In addition, their date is sentimental to them.

So, would you attend a wedding just days before Christmas?

For close family, yes. For someone else, if travel was required, no.

 

[LoriABil]

I have attended weddings near Christmas, but I can't recall any THAT close in date.

What about after Christmas? Teachers would still be out on break, and maybe it would be logistically better for those traveling. Flight prices alone for that time are crazy! Of course, the following weekend you are dealing with New Year's...

 

[goofy!]

Count me in as one who would attend if a close relative or friend.

I would attend for casual friends if no travel was required.

I would weigh my options if travel was required for somebody not as close.

Since you said it was South Florida, I would investigate if I could combine it with some vacation time, ie; beach, keys, Universal. If I could kill two birds with one stone, I might consider going for somebody not as close.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If it was in town, I don't care. I got married at the courthouse on 12-21-90.

Anyway, not one will be there because the world will have ended anyway.

 

[KimR]

I wouldn't attend because I don't like going to weddings, so I'll latch on to any excuse I can to avoid it. In that case, 'too close to Christmas' would be an easy out. Aside from that, though, I can see how traveling from out of town might be an issue.

 

[mom2travel]

I'm going with "maybe". It really depends on how close I am to the person (regardless of whether family or friend), whether we need to drive or fly to attend, and what else is going on in our lives at the time. Typically, we do not like the idea of weddings on holiday weekends, whether it be Christmas or July 4th.

We have attended at least one wedding (w/in driving distance) that was the weekend between Christmas and New Years.

 

[bballmom56]

Absolutely if it was a relative or close friend.

 

[Rora]

I have attended weddings near Christmas, but I can't recall any THAT close in date.

What about after Christmas? Teachers would still be out on break, and maybe it would be logistically better for those traveling. Flight prices alone for that time are crazy! Of course, the following weekend you are dealing with New Year's...

Exactly. There's no real good time in December.

Also, their date has sentimental meaning for them. It was the first time they told each other they loved each other. I think it's pretty cute that the day works out to be on a Saturday, etc. They love the idea that they would be getting married on that anniversary. That's the reason they're so tied to the date.

(bolding so others can find it if they have the same question!)

Count me in as one who would attend if a close relative or friend.

I would attend for casual friends if no travel was required.

I would weigh my options if travel was required for somebody not as close.

Since you said it was South Florida, I would investigate if I could combine it with some vacation time, ie; beach, keys, Universal. If I could kill two birds with one stone, I might consider going for somebody not as close.

This is what I suggested some people might do. Heck, I'd love to spend Christmas in Sunny South Florida!

 

[Rora]

If it was in town, I don't care. I got married at the courthouse on 12-21-90.

Anyway, not one will be there because the world will have ended anyway.

EXACTLY!

 

[FINFAN]

I don't see anything wrong with it, I would probably welcome a reason to go from IL to FL in December. My DH company has mandatory closure over Christmas, and everyone has to use a week of their vaca then....so I understand her situation. As long as she understands that costs will prohibit some from attending (flights from Chicago to FL , for example, are usually quite high in the last 2 weeks of December). On the up side, since familes/kids are involved, most will be on school break (along with the teachers) allowing driving to be a possibility.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

It depends on a lot of things. Do I have to fly from far away? If so, is there some close family that I can spend Christmas with?

I attended a wedding this past year 3 days after Christmas and 2 days after my daughter's birthday. But it was 15 miles away, and was my SIL, so there was no real issue

 

[Gigi22]

OP, if there is lots of advance notice of the date so that people can make plans--I don't see a problem. There will always be some people who are unable to attend. That's the way weddings are.

 

[kamik86]

It would depend on several things. If the person were close family definitely. Since the rest of my family is probably going too. You said kids are invited so no worries about what anyone would do with the kids away from home... so yeah no problem. If it was just a friend it would have to be a very close friend or not require travel.

 

[Hoodie]

I'd probably try, but it wouldn't be a priority. I'd imagine airfare would be tough to get that weekend as well since a lot of people would have both that Monday (Christmas Eve) and Tuesday off. I'd think rates would be really high and availability pretty low. If it came down to paying insane airfare vs. Christmas gifts for my immediate family, Christmas gifts would win out.

 

[tlbwriter]

Like others, I would attend if I didn't have to travel very far, if I were very close to that person, etc. I don't see any problem with their date as long as they don't get upset when people decline.

 

[Pigeon]

If it was in town, probably. If it required travel, no. I think you just have to realize that you'll probably have fewer people attend if you pick that date, but that's life.

My sister married her husband on Dec. 26th. His side of the family is Jewish. It ended up being fairly small because of the date, but they were both grad students from across the country, and it was the only date they could do.

 

[daughtersrus]

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