Would you allow your kids to have sex at EPCOT

[poohandwendy]

I didn't read this whole thread (even though I've laughed a lot at the latest posts).

What if they're adults and living together?

If that were the case, I would expect them to get their own room.

 

[poohandwendy]

But you know what they say- "Use it, or LOSE it!"

That is my motto.

 

[JimFitz]

Don't let them ride POC together. I hear the new Jack Sparrow animitronics can make a good girl do bad things!!

Kidding aside.....if they were my kids they would be in separate rooms and one of them would be chained to the bottom of my bed. I dont need any early grandkids.

 

[beckmrk04]

What if they're adults and living together?

Some people think that their parental status trumps adulthood, and thus, their adult children are "not allowed" to have sex, and certainly not on their dime.

Did I get that right?

(PS- I'm not being snarky- but I DO think it's sort of funny)

Of course, people can do what they want with their money- I go out of my way not to support certain companies because of their business practices, so I guess people going out of their way not to support their kids having sex is sort of the same thing. The power of the almighty dollar!

 

[Planogirl]

If that were the case, I would expect them to get their own room.

To expand on that, I've noticed that a lot of people invite their kids and the kids' SO's to go along on trips and treat them to a room. What about that situation?

 

[beckmrk04]

To expand on that, I've noticed that a lot of people invite their kids and the kids' SO's to go along on trips and treat them to a room. What about that situation?

That's exactly what my inlaws did 5 years ago (and continue to do! I LOVE them).

They knew we were living together, and initially they weren't thrilled with it. And on our first trip they implied that SIL and I would share a room (BIL/SIL weren't married yet either) and DH and his brother would share a room.

We sort of took over the arranging when we got there, and it was fine.

Now they realize that although they weren't initially thrilled with the idea of us living together, we did what was right for US. And it worked out and now we're married, and still going on family trips (which we ALL look forward to).

 

[Nancy]

To the person who said they aren't doing it in Mom and Dad's house: YES THEY AAAARRRREEE!

If there's a will, there's a way with teens. Not to say I did that- I didn't do anything until I was 19 (an old maid by some standards), but I know plenty of kids who did!

That was me, I guess I was thinking in terms of me...I would never have shown disrespect to my parents like that.

Edit to add on some more. If the children are already living on their own and maybe living with someone than of course they would be sharing a room on vacation. (and if I was wealthy enough to be paying for their trip I would be paying for their room). If they were married they would have their own room of course. It really is a matter of just how old the child is and how involved in their support I still am...plus whether or not we want Dad to have a heart attack the first night we are there!

 

[poohandwendy]

Best way I can describe how I feel about it is that if you are still so dependent that I have to pay for your vacation, they I am still raising you. Part of the incentive that makes you want work towards independence, to get out there on your own is because you then make all of the choices and live the way you want. It's also not just a message for the newly adult child, but also the other siblings. So, my values apply when I am footing the bill.

It's a matter of a gently leading your kids towards independence by way of not allowing them to play 'adult' on my dime. I think 'failure to launch' is more likely when you are allowed to live as an adult in your parents home, with parents footing the bill and keeping things too cushy to leave. If that makes any sense.

 

[poohandwendy]

To expand on that, I've noticed that a lot of people invite their kids and the kids' SO's to go along on trips and treat them to a room. What about that situation?

If I am giving a gift and they are already on their own, totally different story.

 

[Tiziminchac]

I don't have kids, but if I did I wouldn't care, if they are over 18. My only rule would be that you had to hook your old man up. If you can't bring enough for everyone then leave it at home!

 

[Froggyswife]

I don't have kids, but if I did I wouldn't care, if they are over 18. My only rule would be that you had to hook your old man up. If you can't bring enough for everyone then leave it at home!

Tiz are you related to chuckie.

 

[disykat]

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Of course, people can do what they want with their money- I go out of my way not to support certain companies because of their business practices, so I guess people going out of their way not to support their kids having sex is sort of the same thing. The power of the almighty dollar!

Finally you understand!

 

[lillygator]

you may not allow them in the same room but if sex is what they are after they will find a way and have it regardless...(and probably have more fun)....

NOW, the mom in me...and speaking for DH and our two very young DD's NO WAY~! But by the time they are 18+ who knows??

 

[Cool-Beans]

Some people think that their parental status trumps adulthood, and thus, their adult children are "not allowed" to have sex, and certainly not on their dime.

Did I get that right?

Pretty much.

They can do it (if they must), but they should sneak around and PRETEND that they don't. Out of respect for me and the fact that they don't want me to pass out and crack my head open on the cement.

And for as long as I am paying for WHATEVER, my rules are still in force. If they pay for their own room, I can't really say anything except, "Please God don't do this to your poor mother!"

But I wouldn't say it. I'd make a comment about how I hoped they'd be able to get connecting rooms or be on the same floor and then I would stay in another hotel and pretend that they were in seperate rooms.

Luckily everyone in my family understands that I need my denial and would play along!

 

[cardaway]

I'm curious what these "no way" parents would do if their children decided to live with somebody for a couple years. If they are living together why not consider them a couple and treat them as you would if they were married?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Pretty much.

They can do it (if they must), but they should sneak around and PRETEND that they don't. Out of respect for me and the fact that they don't want me to pass out and crack my head open on the cement.

And for as long as I am paying for WHATEVER, my rules are still in force. If they pay for their own room, I can't really say anything except, "Please God don't do this to your poor mother!"

But I wouldn't say it. I'd make a comment about how I hoped they'd be able to get connecting rooms or be on the same floor and then I would stay in another hotel and pretend that they were in seperate rooms.

Luckily everyone in my family understands that I need my denial and would play along!

Cardaway, if they are living with someone, I am not going to be supporting them, so it's a moot point.

 

[cardaway]

Cardaway, if they are living with someone, I am not going to be supporting them, so it's a moot point.

Actually I have heard of many parents taking treating their kids to a vacation even if they happen to 18-20 years old and living together.

 

[Cool-Beans]

I'm curious what these "no way" parents would do if their children decided to live with somebody for a couple years. If they are living together why not consider them a couple and treat them as you would if they were married?

I don't mean to sound like a smarty pants here (really), but I wouldn't treat Living-togethers as married because they aren't married.

Even as an old married person, when DH and I go with his family to their cabin for a weekend, we don't have you-know-what while we're there.

 

[disykat]

I'm curious what these "no way" parents would do if their children decided to live with somebody for a couple years. If they are living together why not consider them a couple and treat them as you would if they were married?

They will know I don't agree with their choice and, while I'll respect their choices on their own turf, I'll expect them to sleep seperately if they choose to come to my house. We wouldn't be traveling together in those circumstances nor would I be subsidizing their living arrangements.

My brother lived with his wife before they were married and we all get along fine. They came to my house and slept in different rooms. We didn't visit them at their home until after they were married, nor did we travel together. We've done both now that they are married.

My brother certainly knew my parents religious beliefs when he made his choices. He also knew mine. He respectfully called and told us all when they decided to move in together. We all told him we appreciated his telling us and wished them happiness. However, they understood that we have different beliefs than they do and didn't expect us to ignore our own belief system just because they chose differently.

I guess we were lucky. We were able to respect each others differences without expecting the other party to change to our own beliefs. I didn't expect him to not live with someone and he didn't expect me to act as if it was the same as marriage.

 

[poohandwendy]

Even as an old married person, when DH and I go with his family to their cabin for a weekend, we don't have you-know-what while we're there.

LOL, that made me laugh because even after 20 years of marriage, any time we are vacationing with others...for some reason, that brings out the 'randy' in my Dh and he will not leave me alone...if you know what I mean. He is a naughty, naughty boy.