Would you allow your kids to have sex at EPCOT

[Freyja]

I can´t imagine I would have a problem with it.

 

[Tink9748]

I guess I don't understand what money or anything else has to do it with it. Last time I checked, you are a legal adult at age 18. As long as they were in a seperate room (don't care if I am paying for it or not) that is their choice. If they want to do it, they will find a way whether you like it or not.

 

[Nancy]

I guess this is one of the few things I'm still old fashioned about -- I'm not stupid, I know there's a good chance my kids will be having sex by then. But I don't have to facilitate it.

Yep, as the Mom of a very soon to be 18 year old daughter (July 2nd) I would have to be really naive to think that she wiill not be having sex before marriage. I just don't have to be the one telling her "ok have your own room and have a good time."

That said, if she were 5 years older and engaged I might feel a bit different about it, right now at just turned 18, no way.

 

[TDC Nala]

No, I wouldn't. Good thing I don't have kids. It'd be boys in one room and girls in another. If they want to make whoopee they can save up the cash and go by themselves.

And, maybe the kids should be warned that they have cameras in the dark rides.

 

[Evil Queen]

My oldest son and his partner, pay for their own rooms. Their gift last year was partial payment of Fl. PAP's for both of them.

And yes, my DS10 goes with us too.

But they are both in their early 20's pay their own way completely, so it's none of my business.

 

[Nancy]

I guess I don't understand what money or anything else has to do it with it. Last time I checked, you are a legal adult at age 18. As long as they were in a seperate room (don't care if I am paying for it or not) that is their choice. If they want to do it, they will find a way whether you like it or not.

that's true they are considered legal adults, but most 18 year olds are still living at home or going away to school on Mommy and Daddy's money and they live at home when not in school. They are still on parents insurance etc. Maybe they are ahving tons of sex in school, but when they are home you can bet they are not having sex in Mom and Dad's house. I feel it's the same thing if I'm paying for their room on vacation and I am still supporting the child..so no, they would not be sharing a room. If at a young age 18-22 they were living on their own, self supportive and paying for their own hotel room..then I would have no say in the matter. So my thinking on the same room idea is more on the lines of 18, 19 year olds...not 23, 24, 25 year olds.

 

[chobie]

Honestly, if I liked my child's SO enough to pay for a trip to WDW for them I probably wouldn't care if they slept together, especially if I knew they were using protection. My oldest is 12 so I might change my mind before then, but I would be a hypocrite to have a no sex before marriage rule for my kids.

EDA: 18 and older only.

 

[U2_rocks]

18+? Then yes. Less than 18, no.

Actually, it wouldn't be that cut and dried...I would take other things into account too, such as the length of time they'd been dating, whether they shared an apt in "real life" (ie, not on vacation), if they were graduated from high school (some 18 yos are still in high school).

So, assuming 18+, appropriate length of relationship, living arrangement when not on vaca, and level of schooling, then probably. I think there comes a point when their lives are theirs.

Now, ask me what my DH would say...

Yup, I'm with you. My parents felt that way too, and when DH and I travelled with them when I was 22, there was no question that DH and I would have our own room. Mind you, we were engaged but not married yet.

At 18 I would hesitate more, and there would have to be compelling reasons why I would think it was appropriate, but my though process would be similar to yours.

 

[Aidensmom]

An 18 year old is an adult, and it would not be my place to tell my child at that age what he could do. It is my place to teach him the values I think he should have, but when he is an adult, it is really up to him what he chooses to do.

I can't imagine bringing a girlfriend along on vacation unless the relationship was very serious anyways. If it was not, I would solve the whole problem by leaving her at home.

 

[FroggyinArk]

An 18 year old is an adult, and it would not be my place to tell my child at that age what he could do. It is my place to teach him the values I think he should have, but when he is an adult, it is really up to him what he chooses to do.

I can't imagine bringing a girlfriend along on vacation unless the relationship was very serious anyways. If it was not, I would solve the whole problem by leaving her at home.

amen.


and we went through this with dd a while back wanting her boy friend to go camping with us. no he stays home. end of discussion,

heck my mom made dw and i sleep in seperate rooms for the first two years we lived together before ew got married

 

[Froggyswife]

amen.


and we went through this with dd a while back wanting her boy friend to go camping with us. no he stays home. end of discussion,

heck my mom made dw and i sleep in seperate rooms for the first two years we lived together before ew got married

Don't remind me. and we were in our 30's

 

[beckmrk04]

My inlaws took Mark and I on several trips together before we were married, and we always stayed in the same room. We were living together.

I think on the first trip they were a little uncomfortable, but honestly- it wasn't like we were going on a trip WITH THE PARENTS for a sexy getaway!

Now we're married, and they officially know we're doing it.

 

[Caradana]

My boyfriend and I spent five nights in Disney when we were 20 and 19. We celebrated finishing our freshman years @ Pton. We saved up all year to do it, and paid our own way. It was a great time - really fun.

 

[beckmrk04]

To the person who said they aren't doing it in Mom and Dad's house: YES THEY AAAARRRREEE!

If there's a will, there's a way with teens. Not to say I did that- I didn't do anything until I was 19 (an old maid by some standards), but I know plenty of kids who did!

 

[FroggyinArk]

Don't remind me. and we were in our 30's

but we put a stop to that when they came to our house and we made them sleep in seperate rooms.

 

[beckmrk04]

but we put a stop to that when they came to our house and we made them sleep in seperate rooms.

This made me

 

[Froggyswife]

amen.


and we went through this with dd a while back wanting her boy friend to go camping with us. no he stays home. end of discussion,

heck my mom made dw and i sleep in seperate rooms for the first two years we lived together before ew got married

That doesn't count our dd is only 14 of course the answer was NO!!!!!!!!

Sometimes I wonder about you hon.

 

[poohandwendy]

If my adult child was supporting themselves, theya re obviously allowed to do whatever they want. But, if it is a trip where I am supporting them and it's obvious that I am paying for the trip as a parent (not a gift), then I would not pay for them to have a separate room. And it's unlikely the BF/GF would be invited.

I just don't believe in paying for my children to play house. When they are in a relationship to that point, it's up to them to take care of financing their lifestyle.

I also do not pay for birth control. If you are mature enough to make that decision, you are mature enough to take care of paying for it too. JMHO.

 

[Disney Doll]

If I am paying for the trip, no. My checkbook, my rules.

 

[poohandwendy]

To the person who said they aren't doing it in Mom and Dad's house: YES THEY AAAARRRREEE

LOL, but not with my blessing and it would not be pretty if they were caught.