Would This Bother You?

[DMRick]

Great post TXgirl, I hope she's paying attention.

 

[Disneynutbsv]

Well...I can see that you are a bit stressed. But, that is no excuse for walking out on her birthday. My mother did that to me once, she felt she'd have a better time somewhere else (like you did renting a movie, all by yourself). I've never forgotten that, forgiven, yes, forgotten??? No. It's always there

Anyhow, I see that you are defensive because you aren't getting quite the reactions that you wanted to hear. Yes, your dh should've stepped in, yes, your daughter shouldn't mumble when she knows that you are hard of hearing, yes your son shouldn't have been fooling around with the water. I totally understand you there, as I have 8 year old twins myself. But...they are 8, they are actually acting their age. Accidents happen...didn't you ever spill something when you were a child? I know I did, and I KNOW my children have spilled something in a restaurant before and yes, on me as well.

I think doing what you did for your daughter was great, I bet she had a great time, but she probably wanted to see more of you...even if its sitting by the pool, watching her or taking pictures, whatever. My daughter for some reason is attached at my hip right now, lol. There's going to come a time when she wants to just be with her friends and not her parents. Take advantage of this time! Maybe she just wants to be with you. Its hard raising children, it is definately not an easy job. I hope all works out between you and your family Take a breather...take your daughter out for a walk, just you two...have a little talk. I bet you both will feel better after.

 

[buddy&wooz]

Six pages now? Well, guess you can't say you're being ignored . You're either a lying troll or very angry confused person- nothing anyone says here will change that. Either way- it's sad.

 

[krahema]

Oh, and yes, the children are "twins" However, they have different birthdays. Now, does that give you something to ponder? Have fun--maybe you can write your mystery novel yet!

First, I want to make it clear that I am not taking the OP's side on things - I think she overreacted and needs serious help. But, I just wanted to say that technically her children could be twins and have birthdays that are 2 years apart. They may have been in-vitro pregnancies, meaning they were "conceived" on the same day, but the embryos were implanted on different occasions. It's a stretch, but possible! For that matter, if she did go through that trouble to have her children, I find it very sad that she has become such a bitter, angry mother at this point. There are so many adults out there who are unable to have children, despite how hard and what methods they try, that would be overjoyed to be the parents of her "less-than perfect" (I being sarcastic) children.

Please, OP, talk to a family friend, pastor, or someone who can help you work through your bitterness. Not only are you hurting your children and possibly your marriage, you are hurting yourself. Take it from someone who has been very bitter at times. Life is a lot more fun when you can take things in stride.

 

[septbride2002]

People, obviously the original poster wanted sympathy and instead she got good honest advice. She seems to me to be a very unhappy person who thinks the world should revolved around her. I truly hope she gets some counseling of some sort. Meanwhile, I suggest we all move along and let her continue her pity party.


~Amanda

 

[babybeag]

I didnt know that I was a member of the "Perfect Mommy" club!!! Cool!!!!!!!!!

I think that the OP is feeding off of this thread and it shoudl be ended. Some people live for controversy. I personally dont think that this is an appropriate topic for this board. It is not even loosely connected to Disney - more like dysfunctional families.

BTW - I am a speech therapist. I am hard pressed to think that your daughter is "mumbling" because of her teeth. She may have difficulty with articulation which is not her fault. Maybe get her some therapy and be proactive. That, in conjunction with a hearing aide may do wonders for this mother/daughter relationship. (I am being totally serious - not sarcastic!!!)

 

[DMRick]

They may have been in-vitro pregnancies, meaning they were "conceived" on the same day, but the embryos were implanted on different occasions. QUOTE]

We have in-vitro in our family, but they are brother and sister, not twins. I suppose that is possible, of couse, and while it's possible (although I'm not clear in on far apart in age they are..I keep reading different amounts..I have the son anywhere from 6-9) she clearly in the past gave them the same age. I guess in the scheme of things this is a small thing. Reading back over other posts, I still think that she really needs to seek help (along with her husband) before she does irrepairable damage to herself or the kids. She seems to be under a lot of stress, which is very, very bad with the RA she has.

 

[jeannejj]

Don't feed the trolls!



Jeanne

 

[cymomtx]

I think that the OP is feeding off of this thread and it shoudl be ended. Some people live for controversy. I personally dont think that this is an appropriate topic for this board. It is not even loosely connected to Disney - more like dysfunctional families. (I am being totally serious - not sarcastic!!!)

If you read the OP previous post's on other threads, a majority have negative tones.

 

[kidshop]

OP---do you live in Nashville?

 

[babybeag]

If you read the OP previous post's on other threads they all have negative tones.

Very interesting indeed.

 

[6_Time_Momma]

First, I want to make it clear that I am not taking the OP's side on things - I think she overreacted and needs serious help. But, I just wanted to say that technically her children could be twins and have birthdays that are 2 years apart. They may have been in-vitro pregnancies, meaning they were "conceived" on the same day, but the embryos were implanted on different occasions. It's a stretch, but possible! For that matter, if she did go through that trouble to have her children, I find it very sad that she has become such a bitter, angry mother at this point. There are so many adults out there who are unable to have children, despite how hard and what methods they try, that would be overjoyed to be the parents of her "less-than perfect" (I being sarcastic) children.

Please, OP, talk to a family friend, pastor, or someone who can help you work through your bitterness. Not only are you hurting your children and possibly your marriage, you are hurting yourself. Take it from someone who has been very bitter at times. Life is a lot more fun when you can take things in stride.

Yes, that may be the case. But, most people in that situation don't refer to their kids as twins. They might mention once that they are "technically" twins, but they wouldn't usually say "I have a set of twins." If they do, I find that kind of odd.

 

[eeyore45]

OK, forgive me, but IF, and only IF the OP does have a hearing loss as she stated... I will chime in as I do understand too what it is to live in a verbal, hearing world and you are left out.

To be hard of hearing, and not deaf means you do not belong in either world. It is unfortunate that hoh have a very high incident of drug and alcohol abuse, as well as high incident of depression.

So I stand with everyone that thinks the OP is angry, and she needs help, more help than an internet posting community can give. No one can make you make the call to get help, but if you dont have hearing aids, let me tell you that they have made more strides in aides, major strides in technology, again, I know what I'm talking about, you're right, unlike glasses hearing aids do NOT FIX your hearing, but the digital aides have made a huge difference. They did a report on the Chicago News saying the digital hearing aids have leaped more this year than in the past ten years combined!!

And hearing aides are hugely expensive, I know... but if wearing hearing aides enable you to join in your family, instead of being angry for missing out, its an investment you have to have...

 

[C.Ann]

If you read the OP previous post's on other threads they all have negative tones.

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After reading all these comments about the OP's past posts I decided to check them out myself.. And you know what I found?

I found that the "Past Post Dis Police" are once again exaggerating to the max.. "All" of the past posts do not have "negative tones", but I'm sure if that's what you're looking for, then that's all you'll find..

Just wanted to clarify the incorrect sweeping generalization.. Carry on!

 

[DMRick]

I guess people should have just said many many of the posts. In any case, this family needs much help based on this post and a good portion of the past ones.

 

[6_Time_Momma]

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After reading all these comments about the OP's past posts I decided to check them out myself.. And you know what I found?

I found that the "Past Post Dis Police" are once again exaggerating to the max.. "All" of the past posts do not have "negative tones", but I'm sure if that's what you're looking for, then that's all you'll find..

Just wanted to clarify the incorrect sweeping generalization.. Carry on!

Just wondering C. Ann, do you honestly think she was justified in walking out on her daughter and that her daughter was purposely trying to piss her off? You don't think that, just maybe, she read a little more into her daughter's actions than she should have?

You've been supportive of her and that's okay. You're a good person to give her that support. But, I don't think you should come down on the "Past post DIS police" because one person used the word "all" instead of "most".

You are being critical of posters on this thread, but noone has been mean to the op and noone was even harsh until she was rude for no reason to these posters.

And, yes, I would say most of her past posts contain anger.

 

[DMRick]

I found that the "Past Post Dis Police" are once again exaggerating to the max..

I also want to say I think it is rude to call someone "past post dis police", when for the most part, people (including myself) were going back to try and clear up some real inconsistancies. Put this way, makes it sound like we have done something wrong instead of just going back to look at a person's past posing about their family (you post them, you are responsible for them). Police makes it sound like we are trying to control or make someone obey. I'm not sure why this phrase would be applicable here. I have often gone back on a persons post to clear up confusion, and I never considered myself a bad person for it. Sometimes I've looked at my own back posts...and sometimes, I've even looked at your past posts, before I got your family members figured out (who was who)

 

[C.Ann]

Just wondering C. Ann, do you honestly think she was justified in walking out on her daughter and that her daughter was purposely trying to piss her off? You don't think that, just maybe, she read a little more into her daughter's actions than she should have?

You've been supportive of her and that's okay. You're a good person to give her that support. But, I don't think you should come down on the "Past post DIS police" because one person used the word "all" instead of "most".

You are being critical of posters on this thread, but noone has been mean to the op and noone was even harsh until she was rude for no reason to these posters.

And, yes, I would say most of her past posts contain anger.

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"Justified" isn't necessarily the word I would use here.. Based on the tone of her original post (as well as subsequent posts on this thread) she is/was clearly a mother who had reached the absolute end of her rope - regardless of the reasons.. And let me be clear on this - I'm not speaking of the every day Mom's-end-of-the-rope situation.. There are serious problems in this family and in her emotional condition the BEST thing she could have done was to leave that restaurant and go home before the situation became much, much worse.. I can only imagine what the responses here would have been had she stayed and the situation deteriorated further..

I don't know if her DD was "purposely" trying to piss her off because I wasn't there.. On the other hand, you don't know that she wasn't, because you weren't there either..

Stating "all" is an attempt by other posters to sway people into believing that it's a "fact", when in actuality it's not.. If you find it critical of me to point out the truth, that's certainly your right - just not one that I agree with..

If I am supporting anything here, I'm supporting the fact that this woman was clearly at the end of her rope (regardless of the reasons why) and the only support she received from her DH was a comment of "Lighten up.." That to me speaks volumes about where her stress and anger is coming from..

I guess I'm just looking a little deeper into the root cause here than other posters are..

 

[justhat]

Yes, a lot of the past posts were negative, but maybe not all (a lot were about getting handicapped rooms at various hotels). Some though struck me as odd, implying that this behavior at dinner is not unusual for her (the mom, not her daughter). One was about how she always has meltdowns during the family trips to Disney-she said her kids and husband are fine but it's her who has the meltdowns. Seems like the case during this dinner too. That seems like it warrants a visit to a therapist because it sounds to me (as a psychology doctoral student) that she needs someone to talk to, to learn how to manage those feels of stress/tension.

Another post was about how attached the cat is to her and it's very hard on the cat when she's away. She said in the post that maybe she should stay home with the cat and let her husband and kids go on the trip. That seems a bit extreme to me and would lead me to wonder who the priority is. My mom's beagle is the same way. He won't eat and vomits every time she goes away. Even if the dog stays with me, and I've known him since the day he came to our house (I picked him out!), he still gets sick. Does that make my mom stop living? No. She doesn't stop visiting her granddaughter because it would upset the dog, even though she loves the dog very much (he sleeps in her bed everynight).

So that's what I got from past posts. Well, that, and yeah, the conflicting ages (where sometimes it says twins, sometimes they're different ages) and also a story about getting stuck at MGM and taking a boat to the TTC/DTD and then a bus to WL.

 

[6_Time_Momma]

There are serious problems in this family and

Well, I will agree with you on this point.

But, I will disagree that other posters aren't looking into the root cause.