Will you pay for your DD's wedding?

[MamaLema]

I have 3 boys

Seriously, if you want to help I think that's really sweet

 

[disykat]

- But once people are paying for something they feel they're entitled to a say in what happens.

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I had to laugh at this because I think it's an understatement! I'd say if they are paying for something they are definately entitled to a say in what happens!

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

My dad said he'd help pay for the wedding but wont pay for all of it himself. Which is understandable. A marriage is a union between 2 people so I think both parties should help foot the bill. I think the belief that it's all up to the bride's father is way outdated.

 

[lissawynn]

As of now, we don't have a DD, but I know we'll contribute to DS's wedding, if he decides to marry.
DH and I paid for our wedding. We married when we were older (me 27, DH 34) and were both well-established in our careers.

 

[SC Minnie]

My parents paid for our wedding- DH and I paid for the honeymoon. The wedding was around $5000 total including the reception and dress. They also paid for my college education. I am very grateful for both. My parents were not well off but I am the only girl and my brother did not go to college.

We are prepaying for DD's college. Since she is an only child I am sure we will probably give her a set amount for a wedding. Dh will be near retirement age by then so money will not be free flowing. If she is older and able to afford it on all her own we will still do something for her.

 

[mickyzzzzz05]

We paid for our DD's wedding and her husband's family paid for 1/2 the reception cost. The groom bought the rings, bridal bouquet, his tux and the mother's flowers.


For our son we paid for 1/2 the reception cost, the entire rehearsal dinner and he paid for the groom's things listed above.

Both weddings had over 400 people invited. It was expensive but we all really enjoyed it.

 

[jrydberg]

My daughter won't be allowed to date... ever! So it won't be an issue

Seriously though, I'm planning on paying for it when the time comes.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

3 boys

I keep telling them to marry RICH so it won't be an issue.

 

[mrsltg]

I am expecting my second girl and I plan to pay for both weddings. My parents gave me a wonderful wedding and I will do the same. I will also pay for college.

Erin

 

[nativetxn]

If I had been blessed with a daughter, I would pay for her wedding but I wouldn't be spending $20,000, that's for sure.

My son married in July and we paid for the rehearsal dinner and a bridal brunch. Both were very nice affairs.

Katholyn

 

[pearlieq]

We'll probably offer a cash gift that could be used for the wedding/honeymoon/downpayment, etc. That's what both of our parents did for us.

Together it came to about half of the wedding cost, but ours was by no means an extravagant wedding--we had the reception in the Fellowship Hall of our church, had only basic music, etc. I just couldn't bear the idea of spending $30,000 for 8 hours (not that it was an option for two poor college kids!)

 

[ead79]

If I have a daughter, I will likely do the same thing my parents did for me. I received a set amount of money to do with what I wanted (it was up to me whether to use it for my wedding or for something else) with no strings attached (my parents didn’t make me do what they wanted in terms of my wedding details). That amount will not change, so any amount over the amount given is up to the child. I saved some money as well to add to their amount. I deeply appreciated my parents’ generosity, and I hope I am able to do the same for my kids when I have them.

 

[Munchies]

My Dad paid for the wedding reception, my mum paid for my dress and my DH and I paid for everything else. I think paying for more than half of the cost made us really appreciate what we had on the day and we were less inclined to squander the money on unnecessary things.

 

[katerkat]

And if you pay for all of these for your children, at what point do you think they will understand the value of a dollar?

I used to work with a guy who gave his kids the world! And their friends too, if it meant keeping the friends. There was nothing this guy would say no to when it came to what his kids wanted. Everyone who worked with him have always wondered how they would survive having work and earn their own money, and pay their own bills, ect. They will have no clue. Daddy will pay for it. Well, daddy will not be around forever. I'm sorry.

If Daddy does it right, there's no problem. Trust me. My parents bought my first car, paid for my rather expensive private college education, and paid for my semi-expensive wedding. However, growing up, my sisters and I weren't given everything we wanted. Just ask my little sister about her Sweet Sixteen party. Somehow, we managed to grow up, get jobs, and pay our own bills. In fact, I've done so well with budgeting that my husband and I were able to have our first baby a year earlier - and the top priority for that was for me to be able to stay home with the kiddo. And we can do that on a 1LT's salary because Daddy taught me the value of financial planning.

And because Daddy did so well, he gets a grandson named after him.

 

[leighe]

If Daddy does it right, there's no problem. Trust me. My parents bought my first car, paid for my rather expensive private college education, and paid for my semi-expensive wedding. However, growing up, my sisters and I weren't given everything we wanted. Just ask my little sister about her Sweet Sixteen party. Somehow, we managed to grow up, get jobs, and pay our own bills. In fact, I've done so well with budgeting that my husband and I were able to have our first baby a year earlier - and the top priority for that was for me to be able to stay home with the kiddo. And we can do that on a 1LT's salary because Daddy taught me the value of financial planning.

Bingo. We're currently investing for kids we haven't had yet.

 

[remyandhollandsmommy]

Remy asked us about paying for her wedding a few months ago.
DH said, "Remy, we are paying for college. Once you head off to school, the rest of us are moving and not giving you our new address. You won't be able to track us down to get any money for weddings."
Remy, "Dad, I will find you."
DH, "No, I've been training to lose you. Why do you think I work for the military?"
Remy just rolled her eyes and continued to tell us about the horse drawn carriage made of gold she wants to take her to the church. Did I mention that mermaids that will be painted on the side of the coach?!

 

[CEDmom]

Remy asked us about paying for her wedding a few months ago.
DH said, "Remy, we are paying for college. Once you head off to school, the rest of us are moving and not giving you our new address. You won't be able to track us down to get any money for weddings."
Remy, "Dad, I will find you."
DH, "No, I've been training to lose you. Why do you think I work for the military?"
Remy just rolled her eyes and continued to tell us about the horse drawn carriage made of gold she wants to take her to the church. Did I mention that mermaids that will be painted on the side of the coach?!

That's too funny .

When it comes to weddings all my DD talks about is the really big cake.

 

[twojo21]

me & my fiance are getting married next march & we are paying for our own wedding at wdw for 55 guests. we are in our 20's, both in college/grad school, have careers, live together & wanted our wedding to be ours. our parents however are/have hosting/hosted some prewedding parties which we appreciate it. its the thought that counts.

i think its very sweet paying for your childs wedding. however i think college definetly warrants parents financial support more than a wedding. i figure one day when we have children of our own, we will pay for their college & contribute to some of the wedding events.