Why would they do this--sports team related?

[Stacerita]

Another funny thing I just noticed. Our state gives out an award to select high school students for their excellence in Arts, Athletics and Academics called the Triple A Award--she was one of the recipients .

So you don't think she deserves the award because she is not going to this comp? All her other hard work shouldn't count? Oh please.

 

[Tink888]

I think the amount of commitment is going to depend on the kid and how much their parents believe they should force the issue.

Some kids are willing to give up anything and everything for their sport. Oldest Ds was that way about baseball. From the age of 9 through high school, the only game he ever missed was on the day of his grandfather's funeral.

Other kids just are not that committed. To them the sport they play is a game and not their life.

You can't change people to hold the same things important that you do. We used to have kids going on vacation right in the middle of All-Star tournaments! We were highly insulted! But, they still won state--twice.



Maybe the coach has more faith in the JV player than she is being given credit for? The focus of the team and its parents should be on building up the team and this JV player and making sure they know they can win without this senior.

Another funny thing I just noticed. Our state gives out an award to select high school students for their excellence in Arts, Athletics and Academics called the Triple A Award--she was one of the recipients .

Then it sounds like, with the exception of this instance, she is an otherwise dedicated student and athlete and not a person in the habit of continually bailing out on commitments.

 

[golfgal]

So you don't think she deserves the award because she is not going to this comp? All her other hard work shouldn't count? Oh please.

No, I found it ironic.

 

[dis-happy]

I have to chuckle a bit....the entire country lauded Phil Mickelson when he said he would pull out his lead position in the US Open in order to attend the birth of his first child (leaving his sponsors and caddy with a substantial financial loss, and fans attending the tournament in the lurch) yet this poor girl is vilified for attending her own high school graduation party (which may be totally out of hands as far as scheduling goes if her mom planned it, or it's the only time Grandma can make it from out of town, or whatever).

This isn't even the US Open (something I often remind other parents at tennis matches when they get close to screaming "that's not fair!"). Sometimes you have to teach kids to make the best of things even if it's not totally fair and not how you would do it.

At this point I bet that girl wishes she would have faked an injury instead!

 

[AshleyW]

This thread just cracks me up. No one knows why this girl chose to schedule her party at this time. Maybe she's got family in town, or maybe they had to schedule it around a family member's work schedule, yadda yadda yadda... who really knows. and really, who cares? If the top 4 scores count, and she is typically #6.. it's unlikely that she would have had a freak score during this one tournament to put her in the top 4 scores. If the rest of the girls are so good, they won't have a problem making up for this girls absence, eh?

Instead of moaning and groaning about this girl who chose to celebrate her graduation from high school, you all should focus your energy on being happy for the JV girl who gets a shot in this tournament.

 

[Stacerita]

No, I found it ironic.

I guess I don't see the irony is someone who is desrving of an award actually recieving it.

 

[Jennasis]

Is it possible the real "culprits" are the parents? Maybe they scheduled the party.

 

[dis-happy]

Is it possible the real "culprits" are the parents? Maybe they scheduled the party.

My money: the mom did it just to annoy the other team moms.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Maybe they didnt pay any attention to the golf schedule when they planned the open house? and they had already sent out the invitations before they realized that she should be playing golf instead?? not saying it is right maybe they just made a huge mistake and didnt want to change the date after the invites were sent out???

so if now is golf season in your area when is soccer? just curious because my dd plays both.

Our soccer season is in the fall as well, just like OP. And golf is in spring.

Fall:
Soccer
Football
XC
Field Hockey

Winter:
Swim
Basketball
Ski & Snowboarding (obviously)

Spring:
Golf
Lacrosse
Track & Field
Tennis
Softball & Baseball

Year-round:
Dance
Cheerleading
Equestrian

I'm sure I'm missing something but this is how our seasons are set up.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

Or is it possible that since she is going to school on a soccer scholarship that she has camps, orientation or anything else that may interfere with the final tournament? If she does, then she is doing the right thing pulling out of the preliminary one too in order to give the JV player a shot at both.

Or, maybe she has summer employment for those college expenses, didn't anticipate at the beginning of the season that she might not be able to get the time off.

There are so many valid reasons she could have withdrawn from the competition that to just jump to accusing her of being a loser is pretty drastic.

And let's face it, if she is mentally done with golf and did just decide to have her party, the team should be saying good riddance. She certainly wouldn't play her best if she didn't want to be there.

So, give the JV kid a chance. Really, the team still has its top 5 players to get those 4 scores. And the JV kid might just surprise everybody.

OP, did your daughter get one of those AAA awards? Because I am sensing a bit of jealousy of this girl and her family.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

OP I'm really sorry. This stinks.

I don't really know what to do for you other than .

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

I am very interested in how this plays out. If the JV girl goes.... and the team moves on.... who golfs in the next tournament, the girl that bailed or the JV girl?

If I was coaching it would definitely be the JV girl.

Sports are supposed to teach life lessons. Commitment. Teamwork. Sacrifice. Apparently the girl that is bailing on her team missed the memo.

I will say that as an athlete, coach, parent and fan.... I feel this is 100% wrong. If my parents had done this to me, I would tell them sorry, I have made a commitment to my team and I HAVE TO follow through. Not that they ever would have....

 

[kbeverina]

My money: the mom did it just to annoy the other team moms.

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. It would be a typical pageant mom maneuver designed to make the other pageant moms mad.

I honestly think the girl, being number 6, might have thought her presence wouldn't have mattered anyway. Nothing could keep my son from playing, he loves it and would put it over anything. Maybe this girl, for whatever reason, didn't feel so much a part of the team.

 

[dis-happy]

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. It would be a typical pageant mom maneuver designed to make the other pageant moms mad.

I honestly think the girl, being number 6, might have thought her presence wouldn't have mattered anyway. Nothing could keep my son from playing, he loves it and would put it over anything. Maybe this girl, for whatever reason, didn't feel so much a part of the team.

I wonder if she was ambivalent about playing (since she is really a soccer player) and the coach recruited her to the team with a private understanding that she would be free to miss a couple of the matches. It makes sense if her stroke avr. is 10-15 pts. better than the next good player in the school.

This happens in high school tennis (private coaches try to discourage the very best players from playing on their high school teams because it takes away from training time, while high school coaches encourage/beg them to play on the team with the understanding that they may miss practices or matches due to other individual USTA higher level tournaments). The school team doesn't help the player's game, but it does look good in the stats of the school coach. Both golf and tennis are solitary sports and I see a lot of similarities.

 

[kbeverina]

I wonder if she was ambivalent about playing (since she is really a soccer player) and the coach recruited her to the team with a private understanding that she would be free to miss a couple of the matches. It makes sense if her stroke avr. is 10-15 pts. better than the next good player in the school.

This happens in high school tennis (private coaches try to discourage the very best players from playing on their high school teams because it takes away from training time, while high school coaches encourage/beg them to play on the team with the understanding that they may miss practices or matches due to other individual USTA higher level tournaments). The school team doesn't help the player's game, but it does look good in the stats of the school coach. Both golf and tennis are solitary sports and I see a lot of similarities.

The kids here do tend to go with the travel team over the high school team if there's a conflict because the travel team is a higher level of play than the high school team.

 

[islandmum]

I have to chuckle a bit....the entire country lauded Phil Mickelson when he said he would pull out his lead position in the US Open in order to attend the birth of his first child (leaving his sponsors and caddy with a substantial financial loss, and fans attending the tournament in the lurch) yet this poor girl is vilified for attending her own high school graduation party (which may be totally out of hands as far as scheduling goes if her mom planned it, or it's the only time Grandma can make it from out of town, or whatever).

!

you are being funny right??

Birth of a child - as far as I know for a regular birth (as it was) we havent mastered the ability to plan exact times and dates for this event, plus its pretty much the one single most important event in people lives.

Graduation party - which if you read back is a family do and could be changed - not even on the same planet of comparison.

 

[Nancyg56]

I always expected my children to follow through with commitment that were made.My nieces were athletes both in HS and college. They never broke their commitments to the team, with my oldest missing part of a family wedding in order to play in a tournament game. Having said that, unless I knew why the party needed to be scheduled on this particlar day I would be slow to judge the girl.

As to the award that this girl recieved, why is it ironic that she was recognized for her achievements and her level of sportsmanship and academics? I would be appalled of four years of work were dismissed because she chose not to participate in one game after graduation.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

If the girl graduated before the playoffs, she is no longer a member of the high school and does not have any responsibility to the golf team.

Heck, the high school sports association should probably not even let her play.

Either that, or they should have scheduled playoffs earlier in the year.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Another funny thing I just noticed. Our state gives out an award to select high school students for their excellence in Arts, Athletics and Academics called the Triple A Award--she was one of the recipients .

Maybe it was for soccer. Sounds like she's better at that than golf.

 

[golfgal]

I have to chuckle a bit....the entire country lauded Phil Mickelson when he said he would pull out his lead position in the US Open in order to attend the birth of his first child (leaving his sponsors and caddy with a substantial financial loss, and fans attending the tournament in the lurch) yet this poor girl is vilified for attending her own high school graduation party (which may be totally out of hands as far as scheduling goes if her mom planned it, or it's the only time Grandma can make it from out of town, or whatever).

This isn't even the US Open (something I often remind other parents at tennis matches when they get close to screaming "that's not fair!"). Sometimes you have to teach kids to make the best of things even if it's not totally fair and not how you would do it.

At this point I bet that girl wishes she would have faked an injury instead!

She can still have the party on the same day just start it 2 hours later and problem solved.

Or is it possible that since she is going to school on a soccer scholarship that she has camps, orientation or anything else that may interfere with the final tournament? If she does, then she is doing the right thing pulling out of the preliminary one too in order to give the JV player a shot at both.

Or, maybe she has summer employment for those college expenses, didn't anticipate at the beginning of the season that she might not be able to get the time off.

There are so many valid reasons she could have withdrawn from the competition that to just jump to accusing her of being a loser is pretty drastic.

And let's face it, if she is mentally done with golf and did just decide to have her party, the team should be saying good riddance. She certainly wouldn't play her best if she didn't want to be there.

So, give the JV kid a chance. Really, the team still has its top 5 players to get those 4 scores. And the JV kid might just surprise everybody.

OP, did your daughter get one of those AAA awards? Because I am sensing a bit of jealousy of this girl and her family.

Those awards are only for seniors, my daughter is a freshman. No jealousy involved, just mystified why someone would blow off the chance to make the state tournament?

I am very interested in how this plays out. If the JV girl goes.... and the team moves on.... who golfs in the next tournament, the girl that bailed or the JV girl?

If I was coaching it would definitely be the JV girl.

Sports are supposed to teach life lessons. Commitment. Teamwork. Sacrifice. Apparently the girl that is bailing on her team missed the memo.

I will say that as an athlete, coach, parent and fan.... I feel this is 100% wrong. If my parents had done this to me, I would tell them sorry, I have made a commitment to my team and I HAVE TO follow through. Not that they ever would have....

The JV girl will play as she would be the one that qualified to play. I think you can only make a substitution because of an injury-not a graduation party.

If the girl graduated before the playoffs, she is no longer a member of the high school and does not have any responsibility to the golf team.

Heck, the high school sports association should probably not even let her play.

Either that, or they should have scheduled playoffs earlier in the year.

Our state high school league extends the spring season through the state tournaments for seniors otherwise no seniors would be allowed to play in any spring sports as none of the state tournaments have started yet and many schools are already out for the year. The state golf tournament isn't until the week of June 15th. There are 2 other seniors on the team too that managed to schedule around this quite easily. Heck, WE scheduled our oldest son's grad party around this too. It really wasn't all that hard.