Why must our parents die? *pictures post 28*

[Boston Tea Party]

My grandmother just died less than two months ago and this afternoon my parents drop the news that my father has cancer that has spread to his lymph nodes and his condition is terminal.

What the heck?

I'm so thankful we just had a wonderful trip to the World in March.

I have to be strong for my mother but I don't know how. I don't even feel grown up yet. Who am I going to call for advice? I will be living without a net soon.

Please, if you have a chance, pray that God will be merciful to my father, Glen.

Thank you.

 

[MorganLeFey]

I don't know what to tell you...just know that you'll be in my thoughts.

 

[smilingmouse]

I am so sorry for all that you are going through :hugs:

 

[Dan Murphy]

Good wishes, BTP.

 

[Buckalew11]

I will pray for your father, Glen.

I am so sorry.

Lost my Nana in January. My dad also has terminal cancer which is also in his lymph nodes. I just found out about 2 weeks agao it is in his liver which means it is also in his bloodstream. Between lymph system and bloodstream it will soon just start spreading and popping up wherever it choses. *sigh* and cry.

I don't feel grown up all the time either. I keep saying I don't want to lose my dad--but, generally, who does? I need that man (he's a great dad) and he is like my #1 fan, ya know? I have always been very close to my dad. I have 2 sisters but I am the closest to him.

You are right about being strong for your mom. Are they a close couple. my parents are like conjoined twins. Been together since they were 9. They'll be 69yo this year and married for 50 years. It will be very hard on my mom but she is really the stronger of the two (I think). She is more outgoing. However, if your situation is anything like mine, she'll have many moments and look to you for comfort and an ear.

Oh how I feel your pain.
Yes, I will be praying for Glen and your whole family. Cancer is so horrible and cruel.

 

[anewvance]

I'm sorry to hear the bad news. Keep your chin up, be happy for every minute you have left with him. Prayers and positive thoughts are being sent.

 

[JVL1018]

I'm so sorry. I will be praying for your family.

It's scary how fast life changes. 6 and a half years ago I had all the older women in my life around me still.
Then my MIL died, then my maternal grandma, I was very close to her as she lived with us while I grew up, but even though I was sad, it was okay because she was 97, then my paternal Grandma(again, sad, but 89 years old, so she had lived her life as well)..and then my Mom 2 years ago.
Now I am alone and have no one of an older generation to help me navigate life as a wife/mother.

 

[Big Dude]

BTP...I'm with you my sister. PM sent.

Adam

 

[Cantw8]

I almost lost my father a couple of years ago...I know how you are feeling. I wondered what will become of me? Who will I talk to? Who will I ask for advice? I am so sorry for you, please pm me if you need to talk

 

[lucas]

I am afraid of losing my parents, too. I know it will happen sooner or later and I don't think I will be able to handle it.

 

[luckywife]

So very sorry for what you are going through. I've lost so many people I love to cancer, the hardest I ever had to deal with was when my mom passed away from lung cancer.

Will keep you and your parents in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[MouseDogMom]

Prayers and wishes that your father has an easy time of it. My dad died 2 years ago, and he was the strong one that we thought would outlive my mother by years. They'd been married 54 years. She was miserable without him, and then in late February we learned that she had ovarian cancer that had spread through her entire body - she lived 6 days after we got the diagnosis. So I have no parents left, and I'm only 43, and I don't feel old enough to be without them. It's a tough adjustment.

My heart goes out to you - just be sure to say all the things you want to say, tell him how much he means to you, and take care of financial and legal arrangements while you can. It sounds cold, but it will make your life and your mother's much easier later on.

 

[HaleyB]

I will keep you all in my thoughts. It is always too soon to lose a parent.

 

[Kitty 34]

 

[slo]

Many many hugs to you

I will absolutly keep your father, you and your whole family in my prayers.

 

[fanofdisney]

I will pray for you. I am an oncology nurse, and my hubby went through cancer when I was pregnant. I know it is very scary. So many people die suddenly and wish there were words spoken, but don't have that chance. You have that chance now.

 

[DebbieB]

I'm sorry to hear the news. It's very difficult. I lost my dad in 1993 (at 59) and my mom last September (at 70). My Mom and I were very close. This weekend has been hard, I took flowers to the cemetary yesterday and it stirred up alot of feelings. All I can say is to treasure the time you have left, it may be longer than you think now. My dad lived 14 years after his lung cancer diagnosis and my mother lived 9 1/2 years after her breast cancer diagnosis (including lymph node involvement).

 

[Holly]

BTP, I'm sorry to hear that.
My parents are getting up in years and it's hard to watch. I feel like I just woke up one morning and they were old and frail.
Sending healthy and positive thoughts for your father.

 

[mylilnikita]

I am so sorry. Prayers go out to your family. I lost DF in 2004 to lung cancer. He was my best friend. I miss him terribly. Say what you need to say now while you have the time.

 

[Pooh67_68]